I'm sorry it wasn't better news Char. I think it's wise to start with lifestyle changes for both of you as that will be positive for both natural conception and IVF. Will also give you something to focus on while you wait. In my experience you may find the wait from referral isn't that long but of course that varies hugely depending on where in the country you are. I remember how devastated I was when we were told IVF was our only option also due to male issues. My husband of course tried to do the manly thing but inside it was just as devastating for him too. I'm sure you know this but make sure you look after him as if he's anything like my husband he just won't let on how much he's hurting. Having said all that, don't count yourself out completely. Miracles do happen even if the odds are stacked against you. Keeping my fingers crossed it happens naturally for you while you're waiting.