JoAnn&Aimee
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I am so angry I can't even see straight right now! The other night I was speaking to one of my 'friends' N on MSN. She has been a right cow to me for 6 years and like a chump I've always taken her back. Anyway she has gotten herself right in with my other friends especially A. So the other night I just asked her how A was doing as she always sees her and she told me to 'back off, stop being so mean and nasty to A and stop being such a selfish c**t!'. I was shocked by this as I haven't seen or spoken to A for 6 weeks! She then started ranting about how my brother was scum and (cherry on the cake) how he deserves to die a slow horrible painful death. I ended up in floods of tears with Ewan basically turning my PC off and taking me to bed where I just cried for the rest of the night. Today I log into bebo to see that N has deleted me. I am not hurt by that as to be perfectly honest I couldn't give a rats ass about her but her verbal attack on me was so sudden given that all I asked was 'how is A doing?' One simple question and I got hurled that abuse from her. What is getting to me so much is that I have no done anything wrong. A's issues are with my brother not me. I asked her 6 months ago that if me being related to him was going to be a problem to tell me now but she just hugged me and said that she doesn't want to lose me as a friend yet she is ignoring me. Also I went to midwife appointments with her and sat outside. I was heavily pregnant having all sorts of troubles yet I still went with her. I believe that she isn't doing this on purpose, she has a lot on her mind right now but for N to say that to me was out of line.
Sorry for ranting again but I needed to get this out again before I exploded with anger.
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It would seem that I have definately lost a large chunk of my friends now. I've been worrying about it since I was 7 months pregnant which was nearly 6 months ago.
I met A through my brother. He started dating her about 3 years ago. We became quite good friends except they had an on/off relationship. She has a daughter from a previous relationship in which her partner beat her up on a regular basis. She left him after 4 years when their daughter was about 6 months old and started dating my brother a few months after that. Despite their on again/off again status A and I got along very well. During their 3 years together she was pregnant twice and sadly miss-miscarried with both.
When I was 5 months pregnant she told me she was pregnant again. With the previous pregnancies she miscarried at 9 weeks gestation and told me she was expecting the same to happen, it didn't but when she was 12 weeks my brother left her after another blazzing argument. Now before you all leap to her defence, I want you to know she has often ordered him to leave HER flat more times than I can count despite him paying the rent. Technically it is her flat but he never felt at home and always had his clothes in a suitcase under the bed for when she flaked out at him.
I attended an Ann Summers party and I felt A was being distant with me and whenever I talked to her she would nod like she was listening and then walk away when I was done. I was 7 months at this point and everyone was going clubbing afterwards. I was too tired to go and decided to go home. As I was waiting for Ewan to come pick me up everyone went into the kitchen and left me in the living room myself. When I walked in, they all went quiet and went back to the living room, leaving me in the kitchen.
It was at this point I started feeling ignored by everyone. I also started finding out that they were all meeting up for coffee's and having picnics. When I asked why no one had asked me they replied with the good old excuse of 'we thought you wouldn't be up for it being pregnant!' When I replied that A was pregnant too and she wasn't being left out, the reply was 'she isn't as far on as you though!!'
The day before my due date I was out visiting my friend K who had recently a baby boy. Afterwards I decided to visit A as I knew she would be home as my brother was helping her paint the babys room that day so I knew I would see her. She acted all nice to me and treated me like I had seen her the day before which pissed me off a bit yet I bit my tongue. I stayed for a cuppa tea and left about 45 minutes later as I knew she and my brother were going to be busy painting.
Anyway to cut a very long story short (as it is starting to trail on now!! sorry!) she has been on/off with me. If I bump into her in the street, she is all nice to me and says she'll call or text yet I don't hear from her again until I bump into her. So today Ewan saw her in Asda and she immediately started bashing my brother to him and said 'I don't want anything to do with him or his family!' Which basically means she doesn't want anything to do with me and it seems to me that whatever A does everyone will follow. What is strange is as she was leaving Ewan she said that we've to pop down anytime to see her. How can I after she told Ewan she doesn't want anything to do with my family?! Surely that includes me too!!
What makes it worse is I have a 'friend' who has latched onto my other friends including A and whenever I speak to her all I hear is 'oh we ALL went out last weekend and got hammered!!'. It is as if she is trying to rub it in that I am being left out. Also A is getting drunk as well on these nights out. Her due date is in 3 weeks and I am worried that the baby will have FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) as she drinks much more than the reccomended amount of a non-pregnant woman!
Ewan has told me not to get upset over the fact that I have practically lost all my friends but it is hard not to. I am hurt by it all. I needed a friend during my pregnancy and no one was there for me. What if I am at Asda in a couple of years time with Aimee and I see A with the baby. I don't want Aimee walking past her cousin without even knowing it!
I am sorry for the major long post but I needed to get it out. Sorry for the 'A', don't want to say her name incase she finds out about this post somehow. It is unlikely as no one I know knows about these forums.
Sorry for ranting again but I needed to get this out again before I exploded with anger.
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It would seem that I have definately lost a large chunk of my friends now. I've been worrying about it since I was 7 months pregnant which was nearly 6 months ago.
I met A through my brother. He started dating her about 3 years ago. We became quite good friends except they had an on/off relationship. She has a daughter from a previous relationship in which her partner beat her up on a regular basis. She left him after 4 years when their daughter was about 6 months old and started dating my brother a few months after that. Despite their on again/off again status A and I got along very well. During their 3 years together she was pregnant twice and sadly miss-miscarried with both.
When I was 5 months pregnant she told me she was pregnant again. With the previous pregnancies she miscarried at 9 weeks gestation and told me she was expecting the same to happen, it didn't but when she was 12 weeks my brother left her after another blazzing argument. Now before you all leap to her defence, I want you to know she has often ordered him to leave HER flat more times than I can count despite him paying the rent. Technically it is her flat but he never felt at home and always had his clothes in a suitcase under the bed for when she flaked out at him.
I attended an Ann Summers party and I felt A was being distant with me and whenever I talked to her she would nod like she was listening and then walk away when I was done. I was 7 months at this point and everyone was going clubbing afterwards. I was too tired to go and decided to go home. As I was waiting for Ewan to come pick me up everyone went into the kitchen and left me in the living room myself. When I walked in, they all went quiet and went back to the living room, leaving me in the kitchen.
It was at this point I started feeling ignored by everyone. I also started finding out that they were all meeting up for coffee's and having picnics. When I asked why no one had asked me they replied with the good old excuse of 'we thought you wouldn't be up for it being pregnant!' When I replied that A was pregnant too and she wasn't being left out, the reply was 'she isn't as far on as you though!!'
The day before my due date I was out visiting my friend K who had recently a baby boy. Afterwards I decided to visit A as I knew she would be home as my brother was helping her paint the babys room that day so I knew I would see her. She acted all nice to me and treated me like I had seen her the day before which pissed me off a bit yet I bit my tongue. I stayed for a cuppa tea and left about 45 minutes later as I knew she and my brother were going to be busy painting.
Anyway to cut a very long story short (as it is starting to trail on now!! sorry!) she has been on/off with me. If I bump into her in the street, she is all nice to me and says she'll call or text yet I don't hear from her again until I bump into her. So today Ewan saw her in Asda and she immediately started bashing my brother to him and said 'I don't want anything to do with him or his family!' Which basically means she doesn't want anything to do with me and it seems to me that whatever A does everyone will follow. What is strange is as she was leaving Ewan she said that we've to pop down anytime to see her. How can I after she told Ewan she doesn't want anything to do with my family?! Surely that includes me too!!
What makes it worse is I have a 'friend' who has latched onto my other friends including A and whenever I speak to her all I hear is 'oh we ALL went out last weekend and got hammered!!'. It is as if she is trying to rub it in that I am being left out. Also A is getting drunk as well on these nights out. Her due date is in 3 weeks and I am worried that the baby will have FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) as she drinks much more than the reccomended amount of a non-pregnant woman!
Ewan has told me not to get upset over the fact that I have practically lost all my friends but it is hard not to. I am hurt by it all. I needed a friend during my pregnancy and no one was there for me. What if I am at Asda in a couple of years time with Aimee and I see A with the baby. I don't want Aimee walking past her cousin without even knowing it!
I am sorry for the major long post but I needed to get it out. Sorry for the 'A', don't want to say her name incase she finds out about this post somehow. It is unlikely as no one I know knows about these forums.