Future FIL!! ARGH!

[JoAnn&Aimee]

I am trying so hard to keep my cool with my future FIL but these days it is getting hard! On the day of Aimee's dedication he came into the living room, said hello, I said hi back, he then shouted hello again, again I said hi back and then he shouted it again and nudged me which put me off balance as I wasn't expecting it. I snapped and said 'I've said hello 3 times and don't touch me again!' before leaving the room. Now everytime he comes to visit he does it and then says 'oh better not wind you up'. Ewan has told me he is joking but I biting my tongue so hard around him now.

Also one time I was feeding Aimee, she had finished with her bottle with 2oz left. I winded her and took her bib off. Before I knew it Ewans dad had picked the bottle back up and leaned across, shoved it back in her mouth. I told him 'she is done with it!' but he went 'oh sorry... not really! haha'. I knew Aimee was done as every mother knows when their child has had enough but she took the rest of it (bibless!!) and ended up vomiting all over her cot after he left. If he hadn't done that I know she wouldn't have been sick. I ended up changing her covers TWICE because of this.

On Christmas Eve he came over again to drop off presents. Aimee was lying on the floor playing with toys when he arrived, he sat down and began talking to Ewan but the second I picked Aimee up and sat down with her he literally sprang off his seat and took her out my arms. Ewan was in the kitchen at the time but his brother, who was with him, said that he shouldn't have done that as Aimee was happy with me yet he just scoffed at us.

The last time he visited Aimee was happily sitting in her high chair playing with toys on the tray, he walked straight over to her and took her out, began playing roughly with her (which he always does!), which resulted in her crying. He then handed her back to me and said 'you can deal with her now!'. Part of me hates when Ewan tells me he is coming over, mainly as we end up waiting around for him as he arrives 3 hours later than he says he'd be here at.

I haven't had a good relationship with Ewans family, they seemed to think I'd got pregnant on purpose to trap Ewan, despite us being together for 4 years by that point and living together for nearly a year! It wasn't until I was induced, that Ewans mum spoke to me on the phone and said 'the past is in the past!'. I do feel bitter that he choose that moment to tell me this but I get along with his mum quite well now but his dad just annoys me. The first thing he said when he saw me after I had Aimee was 'how is your boobs and bits feeling?' and cupped his own man boobs while asking! I found this a very personal question to ask, not to mention a creep one!

Sorry I needed to rant. I tried to explain to Ewan but whenever I did it sounded awful as I couldn't word it nicely.

 

[mamichuli]

Aww hun, course you are upset - it is understandable and your OH's dad is waaaaaaaaaaaaay out of order...sounds like he is used to getting his own way too. Stand up to him and tell your OH that either he talks to his dad or you will. It usually works. He needs to respect your rules in your house.

Hope things get better.



Lisa

 

[Sandi4Paul]

if i had inlaws who say they are coming at one time and then arrive later i wouldn't be at home waiting for them, they show up when they say they are going to or i would be out doing the million and one things that mums need to do (shopping coffee etc).

He does sound really weird and in your face, i think you need to get your Oh to remind him (forcefully) that it is your house and Aimee is your child before she is his grandchild.

Sandi