not sure whos last name to give the baby advice pls.

[Olive]

Would be interested to hear more about the difficulties with child having different surname to mother. Surely if you have your child's birth certificate and your own passport and lo's there shouldn't be an issue. Lots of people have a different surname to their lo.


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[CARNAT22]

Would be interested to hear more about the difficulties with child having different surname to mother. Surely if you have your child's birth certificate and your own passport and lo's there shouldn't be an issue. Lots of people have a different surname to their lo.


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Also if the child has a passport with Daddies surname does this mean you can only leave the country if Mum and Dad are present???

I'm confused how it works....

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[redbear]

I found this http://www.babycenter.com/0_whose-last-name-should-you-give-your-baby_10327041.bc

Apparently you need a letter from dad saying its fine to fly- most of the time this wouldnt be an issue but you know what some men are like! xx

 

[Olive]

Interesting but it's American. Ill keep my eyes peeled for anything UK based. I just thought as your name and surname is on child's passport it would be clear and not an issue iykwim.

I've no doubt someone can make an issue to it but have not come across it yet. I've found most places assume you're not married, for example letters from GP say "to the parents/guardians of". I know that happens at my mums school too.

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[daniph1]

The issue can be generally when already out of country. For example - if mum , baby and male (new partner etc) all have different surnames etc. Also the uk authorities will get edgy someties if people are travelling to a non hague convention country as then the UK courts lose their powers should a kid be being snatched.

 

[redbear]

didnt notice it was American lol i think its if your travelling without the dad of the child to stop mums just leaving the country with there kids and snatching them- but i could be very wrong so dont quote me! x

 

[russellmuscle]

Hi.

I agree with some of the ladies that the issue needing sorting is the relationship and to let him know that he is pulling his weight. Personally, i think if your with the person and planning on being a family then baby should take daddy's name as at the end of the day it is his child and although he might not act like it, it's kind of up to you to make sure he does understand as you had a baby with this man (not to sound blunt or anything). Howeverif he shows no sign of commitment tomyounand baby then I think giving baby your name is appropriate.

Nat, me and OHs fam went to Florida a couple years back and our niece Gemma was with us (bils daughter from previous relationship) she has his surname and mothers surname is different. She didn't need to attend the holiday however she had to give written consent for dad to have Gemma with us. I remember this as the mum was threatening towards the holiday she wasn't giving permission but we got there in the end lol xxxxxxx

 

[Flips4]

All three of my children have Dads surname, my older two have one name (my ex's) and my newborn will have his daddies name... I've regularly taken my boys out of the country and have never had any issues, certainly not needed consent from dad!?! It can be strange having three surnames in a small family but its not the name which makes me a parent. My ex is practically useless lol we still get on, frustrating as it is sometimes, but he loves his boys to death and will always be their Daddy

 

[Linny1989]

Both my kids have my name and im still with the dad hun. x

 

[Froslass]

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[siouxie]

It feels like I wrote this so long ago I hadn't checked to see of there was any more replies I've been so busy. I've just started another threat about this as I have until Tuesday to register my baby. I have told the dad I'm going to register the baby in my name and he became very abusive and threatening.

 

[tabbi]

good on you hunni, x x x