not sure if this is the right place - sorry if anyone is ofended by where I've posted

[eloise]

Copy from newbies folder, but was unsure where it was better suited

Hey everyone, not too sure where to post this but I thought here might be the right place, sorry if it offends anyone it being here.

Well, here goes, af was late so I took a test, it was negative. Couple of weeks later still no af. Eventually around 5 weeks late I had very painful cramps and passed lots of little clots and a very large one. I don't know whether this means that I had been pregnant and lost it or what has happened.

Wasn't trying to get pregnant (as much as I would love to),as my relationship (if you can even call it that) is all over the place, but I feel quite upset at what may have been and that I may have had a loss. I don't know what I'm looking for here maye just opinions, maybe I just needed to share with someone I'm really not sure. But thanks for taking the time to read. xxx

 

[Binzy]

Not sure really hun, sounds very upsetting though. I'm sure someone with more experience than me will be able to answer your question. I wouldn't think you'd offend anyone, if it's worrying you it's best to get it off your chest. TTC is very confusing at time, when I started I just thought it would happen simply but alas, that's not always the case.

 

[amyjayne77]

So sorry, what a confusing time for you x

Must be hard not knowing. Many years back, I got a positive test so presumed i was preg. A few days later when I went to the docs, they told me I wasn't pregnat and that the 'baby' had just dissolved inside me - there was no blood/cramping or anything. I didn't know what to think. Never tell anybody this btw.
I've never considered myself to have had a m/c as such as I didn't ever know for sure that I was pregnant and it was all such a blur. But it was really confusing and something i had to get my head round.

HOpe you get some answers x

 

[Lilelephant]

Hun! Big hugs. So sorry u had to go through this. I had a similar experience but I knew I was 5 weeks pregnant.
I guess for u the worse part is not knowing. All I can say is that its better to talk about stuff than to let it all build up. I found talking on here and seeing a counsellor has helped me since mc, I am a long way off being ok but u have to cry when u need to cry and in a way it's a breavement of what could have been.

 

[eloise]

Thank you everyone for listening and you support and advice, I don't feel as if I'm being so silly now missing something that wasn't planned and may not even have been xx

 

[JJ Mum]

Sorry youv'e had a rough time with this, I lost one at 11 weeks via a missed MC so understand this is a tricky time for you and very upsetting.

Have you done a pregnancy test since , if a MC your hormone levels could be elevated for a few weeks, and have you been to see the docs to dicuss, I would recomened it as they may want to check you out X