trixipaws
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i am most fortunate in that i have never suffered a m/c nor have i lost a loved one so really i have no real concept of how it feels. i try to understand but i dont kno what the best things to say (and not to say) are.
i have a friend at work (not the type of work-friend ill see out of work iykwim but i'd spend lunches and breaks with her and have been out after work couple times with her and another work-friend whom i DO see out of work)
we were both pregnant late 2006 & early 2007, she had her baby girl in march. but sadly she was not very well and she died when she was 5 months old.
well, my team leader emailed me today asking how i am etc but also when im back in work and about going part-time etc and i realised- im back in on february 11th which is only a few weeks away now.
im really dreading seeing this girl because i just wont kno how to face her- ill be "the one back of maternity after 9 months" everyone will be making a fuss of me and asking about my beautiful baby girl which of course i revel in it except for that ill feel uncomfortable because i cant imagine how she'll feel seeing me when shes lost hers, you know?
i just want to know how is best to act with her, whats the best thing to say and what should i definately not say? if u were in her shoes and u faced me what would make the situation the least painful. i kno as u can empathise u can give me the best advice on this one.
thanks in advance
i have a friend at work (not the type of work-friend ill see out of work iykwim but i'd spend lunches and breaks with her and have been out after work couple times with her and another work-friend whom i DO see out of work)
we were both pregnant late 2006 & early 2007, she had her baby girl in march. but sadly she was not very well and she died when she was 5 months old.
well, my team leader emailed me today asking how i am etc but also when im back in work and about going part-time etc and i realised- im back in on february 11th which is only a few weeks away now.
im really dreading seeing this girl because i just wont kno how to face her- ill be "the one back of maternity after 9 months" everyone will be making a fuss of me and asking about my beautiful baby girl which of course i revel in it except for that ill feel uncomfortable because i cant imagine how she'll feel seeing me when shes lost hers, you know?
i just want to know how is best to act with her, whats the best thing to say and what should i definately not say? if u were in her shoes and u faced me what would make the situation the least painful. i kno as u can empathise u can give me the best advice on this one.
thanks in advance