Male midwife on one born every minute

[cosmicgirl]

Am I being shallow?? There is no way on this earth I would want a male midwife. I don't know why and he seems lovely but I just wouldn't be comfortable xx

 

[LouLou1986]

I ant bothered but oh wud be a diff story lol!

 

[cosmicgirl]

Hahaha yeah, jealousy in the labour suite, not the best! I wouldn't want a man to see me possibly poo or my piles pop out when I pushed lol xx

 

[amyjayne77]

I'd love one!! I'd feel more relaxed thinking that the mw couldn't try and relate to how much pain I was in IYKWIM. I mean, midwives I'm sure aren't judgmental at all (but in the back of my mind i always think they are lol), but a man, well he really couldn't be could he lol

 

[Toonlass]

The only thing that bothers me about male midwifes is that they can't and will never understand the feeling of giving birth BUT 2 of the the 3 midwifes that delivered my babies had never given birth themselves so in all honesty it makes no difference. As long as he is supportive, i guess its all you need. OH might have seen it differently tho lol xx

 

[midnight]

id of had him he was really supportive and i think a man can give that sense of support a woman cant like take me i have easy labours so i wouldnt be symathetic to a screaming woman they would get on my nerves

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

I would love a male midwife!! It really wouldn't bother me, the babies still got to come out!!

 

[cosmicgirl]

I'm not convinced, I would be much more relaxed with a woman, it would creep me out with a man xx

 

[LoopyLouize]

I have to admit - I would be a tad bit more relaxed with a male! I think male doctors/ male nurses are alot more sympathetic to us women! Reason being is because they don't understand what we actually go through so they sympathise alot more! I noticed it when I was in hospital for over a week after my MC last year.. The women working in the hospital where a nightmare !! I had to ask 5 times for something to be sick in as I couldn't get it my self as I was attached to a drip! The girl in the bed next me ended up feeling sorry for me and went and got me a bowl! Then I got a male on the ward and he was lovely and couldnt do enough for us girlies!!! Xx

 

[smess26]

When I went into labour at 25 weeks with dd I had a male midwife and he was such a great help as his wife had been through the same aswel it didn't bother me really.

 

[Vickyxx]

I really wouldnt care as long as he gave me drugs ...... LOL

 

[DW1978]

I think the thought of it would put you off but once you actually get there and you're in labour, you wont really give a toss who delivers it, lol!! I had female mw's for my labour but after an exausting 37 hours Lennon went back to back and I couldn't push him out so they took me down to theatre and preped me for an ECS and my obs/gyn was called in who was a male (and was ex army so no bedside manner at all!!) and he delivered Lennon by forceps and cut me and sewed me up after and I can tell you, by that time I couldn't be arsed to be embarrassed!

Also because of what happened in my first pregnancy (membrane broke at 14 weeks and I ended up having to give birth at 16 weeks), I had lots of swabs to check for fluid leakage and they were all done by that same obs/gyn so he'd already had a good look down there!!

I was laughing with my sister the other day as we were at a cafe/soft play the other day with the children and my obs/gyn came in with his wife and kids and we were saying I wonder if his wife comes into a place like this and thinks I wonder how many of the muffs in here my husband has seen?!!! We live in a very small Island so he's probably scanned/delivered 1/3 of the women and babies in the Island for the last 10 years.

 

[SunnyGirl]

I just loved that male midwife he was lovely! As long as the midwife is supportive, patient, professional and calm, I wouldn't care if it was a man or woman xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

He was lovely, but I'd definatley ask for a female if I was in labour. I've had females with all of my pregnancies. With my last, because it was twins, I had to have the male consultant in, and i must admit, even in the throws of labour, i still felt uncomfortable with him "down there", I was self consious about my swollen bum, stuff leaking out, I felt like I should make myself look more presentable etc. I suppose I'm one of these who thinks that men shouldn't see you this way, really old fashioned I know!! It's odd because I am usually the most laid back and open minded person I know! xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I really wouldnt care as long as he gave me drugs ...... LOL

Love it!! xxx

 

[Tinkerbell3]

I'm actually the same, I'd hate a male midwife delievering my baby and am praying it's a woman if I have a natural birth and even then I know I'll feel funny with someone (even a woman) having a good look and feel 'down there'. I just know i'll be feeling embarrased and wanting myself covered up as much as possible.

 

[LouiseB]

I'm a bit embarrassed to say that i would also be a bit judgemental and assume that they aren't as good as female midwives

A good point was made about some female midwives not having given birth but i just think that a women connects better with another women re something that only women can do, but i guess it depends on how dependant you think you will be for emotional support with your midwife.

Even in the programme i thought the man was nice enough, but he was still a bit wooden in his encouragement and reassurances like i would expect a man to be.

Also he couldn't hold hands and stroke the patients hair and legs in the same way i have seen female midwives do and i personally would appreciate that kind of physical contact.

I suppose it depends on how dependant you would be on your midwife, but i think i would need a female one to establish the bond and trust i would need to feel

 

[cosmicgirl]

I'm a bit embarrassed to say that i would also be a bit judgemental and assume that they aren't as good as female midwives

A good point was made about some female midwives not having given birth but i just think that a women connects better with another women re something that only women can do, but i guess it depends on how dependant you think you will be for emotional support with your midwife.

Even in the programme i thought the man was nice enough, but he was still a bit wooden in his encouragement and reassurances like i would expect a man to be.

Also he couldn't hold hands and stroke the patients hair and legs in the same way i have seen female midwives do and i personally would appreciate that kind of physical contact.

I suppose it depends on how dependant you would be on your midwife, but i think i would need a female one to establish the bond and trust i would need to feel

I totally agree and that is exactly how I feel. I thought he was a bit disconnected, it all seemed a bit clinical and not as compassionate as the ladies on the show x

 

[Piglet's Mama]

I thought he was lovely. OH and I said we wouldn't be bothered at all when we were in the middle of it & I actually thought he was one of the nicest midwives (midhusbands...!) I'd seen on there x

 

[Olive]

Ooh interesting thread. I actually quite liked him. Wouldn't mind a male midwife at all if he was like him. I think, at the end of the day, modesty etc goes out the window. Good point about touchy feely stuff though. I think I'd be partial to a wee stroke of the head if I was feeling it! lol. x