LTTTC for 4 years.

[Louise29]

Hi I'm new to all this, It was recommended to me that a forum would help me!

Me and my partner have been trying to for a baby for 4 years now, and no joy ,
I was slightly over weight, and was told straight away my problem was the weight.
I was told to lose 4 stone, and I would get help, if by losing the weight I hadn't fallen pregnant on my own, I could get tablets (clomid) to try and help.

I was a really healthy person (apart from the weight) I didn't smoke, I didn't drink at all, I always got lots of exercise..

Now I have lost my 4 stone in 7 months and I was back at hospital seeing what about the tablets. And they are now telling me I need to lose more weight and until I do I won't be getting any help from them.

I feel like I'm back at the start again, I've had different doctors, and all saying the same.
I want so much to be a mum and to give my partner a baby and to become a dad,
I try so so much to stay positive keep telling myself " it's will happen for us" each month that passes just leads to more heart ache

Even if I do get the tablets to try and help, it's not 100% that they will work. I just feel the more time passes the more our precious dream slips away

I see babies/pregnant people all around me, and although I'm happy for them. I'm also heart broken and devastated cause I want that so much



X

 

[snowbee]

Hi, first huge congratulations on losing the weight that can't have been easy. It seems a common misconception that bigger people aren't healthy, I know when they were asking me questions about exercise and eating they clearly didn't believe what I was saying despite it being true. I'm sorry that they have changed their minds on what you need to do, that seems very unfair to tell you to do something then they will help and when you have done that to move the goal post. It is so hard seeing everyone else have what you want, noone else seems to understand so this forum is great. Did you have any other tests done before they told you to lose the weight? Has your partner had his sperm looked at?

 

[Louise29]

Hi snowbee thanks for ur message,

Yeah I had lots of tests done, bloods, got tested for PCOS as well, scans after scans. My partner has had his sprem tested. And it's fine. I don't ovulate and they are saying it's the weight that's stopping it.
It wasn't easy to lose the weight, but i was determined cause I had a goal to work forward to, now that it's been changed. I just feel that if I lose the extra weight there asking for, there will be another excuse for them not to help,
This is my second consultant my second opinion at hospital, my own gp doctor. Doesn't understand. My BMI is right down now with the 4 stone off and she says I should be able to get the clomid.
It just so soul destroying xxxx

 

[snowbee]

Well that is pants, sounds like they are just making excuses. Have you seen a copy of the guidelines for your area? Mine clearly states the BMI range you need to be in to get treatment. If you can get a copy of yours and you are within the limit I would ask them what the issue is.

 

[mylullaby]

Yes, definitely look into the specific guidelines for your area and if you're within the range, go back and speak to your GP again. Is there a possibility that they're suggesting that you wait until you've been a healthy BMI and ttc for a year at your current weight? Most women of a healthy weight have to have been ttc for a year before they'll investigate anything as chances are they'll conceive within that timeframe - just trying to think of all the possibilities - maybe by losing the weight you have kind of reset the clock for any further investigations? Do you mind me asking what your current BMI is? How old are you?

Massive congratulations on the 4 stone weight loss - can't have been easy. Keep up the good work and hope you get some answers (or your bfp) soon. xx

 

[Louise29]

Thanks for the messages

will look into the guidelines.

My BMI is 28. And I'm 29 years old.

The hospital consultant just keeps saying that if I lose this other 4stone I will get the help and treatment I need.
They haven't said anything about once I lose this other 4 stone I will need to wait a year to see if it happens naturally.
I really hope not. It's been a long and hard 4years

Xxx

 

[hayes]

That defo sounds pants to me u want to defo complain hun. I tried for over 18 months n they found nothing wrong with me or hubby, I wasn't over weight but wen they did a lap n dye op they found both ovaries had endometriosis so wen that was all rover I fell pg straight away. My weight wud have made no difference n I wudnt have got pg without the op no matter what I did.

Big congratulations to you for losing the weight n defo go back n say u want further investigations.

Michelle.x

 

[mylullaby]

Yep. Go back!

P.S. Didn't mean a year after the next 4 stone, meant a year after losing the initial 4 stone. Was just an idea, but go back and ask for further investigations.

 

[Louise29]

Thanks girls for the messages, advice and support.

It makes it a wee bit easier to talk to ppl in same situations

I made appointment to see my doctor next week to talk to her, about all this and see if I can go back and see them
So hopefully get some where


Xx

 

[mylullaby]

Hope it goes well. Let us know how you get on xx

 

[Louise29]

Thanks I will do x

 

[hayes]

Hope it all goes well for you hun, I didn't get much joy from my first docs but the second one was amazing n very helpful if it wasn't for her I wouldn't have got the op as quick as I did so defo jeep pushing u deserve sum answers.

Michelle.x

 

[Sugarpop]

Congratulations on losing weight! When I go to my gyno appointments they always say I need to lose weight but at 4ft11 and PCOS I don't think I will ever reach the BMI they want! My doctor didn't say I had to lose weight to get treatment though?! I think that's unacceptable that they won't even conduct tests. I would for sure be complaining to the Patient Liasion Service! It's not fair at all.

Good luck! I can't believe the weight you have lost!! It's amazing!

 

[Louise29]

Thanks sugarpop,

I'm going back to my own doctor next week and going to fight for more answers and testing. X

 

[Sugarpop]

Good Luck!! It can't hurt. I would definitely be demanding tests to make sure there is nothing else at play! They never know until they look!

Keep us informed on how it goes x

 

[Louise29]

Hi

Was back at doctors yesterday. She is getting in touch with hospital, she agrees they need to do more. So we just need to wait and see.
Waiting for hospital appointment x

 

[mylullaby]

Oh that sounds really encouraging. Great that she's on your side. Hopefully your appointment won't be too far off and you can find out what's going on. xx

 

[Sugarpop]

That's great news!! Make sure you don't take any poop off the hospital when u finally get there!! Good luck!!