Me and Paul Have only been together for just over 2 years. We have had so many problems. Not our fault most of them. His mum left his dad who were married for 32 years with five children when we had been together only a couple of months and knocked on our door. What can you say.We put her up and she took the piss out of me running my phone bill up to 100 quid phoning her boyfriend in Tunisia. Paul ran it up the month after calling sex lines. I forgive him after blazing rows.My so called mate tried to pinch him next so sorted that out with a childish fight outside our flat. he then got battered by the next door neighbours because he battered the nexed door neighbours uncle and got 2 years i prison with his 2 daft mates. Idid feel abit sorry for him as he had done his prison time. I lost a baby through the stress of all this and we then had to move.His heroin addict brother keeps steeling off us and his best friend John weed on my carpet drunk. That happened in the space of a year.We got pregnant with little Jodie and things were going well.Things were going right for us for a change. Now Jodie is 4 months old things are going stale.We row all the time when Jodies in bed. So yesterdayi packed ur essentials and walked. (well got the bus)ha ha. I do really love him and he is good with Jodie.Also she misses him i can tell. He's not a bad bloke he's funny and Loving. And he really loves me i forgive the past and put it down to Bad familly and not standing up for himself.And the fact he needed to grow up a bit. When things are good they are fanastic but when we row. Does anyone have a sypathetic ear or some advice. I so want the perfect family for Jodie but is he worth another try. Or maybe living apart for a while might help us. Poor Jodie i don't wanna take her away from her daddy.
Left Him Yesterday We cant stop rowing
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Spoken to paul today gave him a big hug. We said we loved eachother. We have come to an agreement. We are seperating for a couple of days see how it all goes. We both need time to think. Maybe we can make another go of it all. We to alike thats the problem. went on a bit didn't i?Thats prob why didnt get a single reply.I just needed to get it all out onto paper. I feel better now thanx.
I am pleased that you have reached an agreement and hope that things do work out for you hun.
Like Lindsay I don't normally look in here either! Just noticed a post and thought I'd have a look.....
It sounds very much to me like you two should be together. After all, you've been through a lot and stuck together so far. Like Jo says we all have our ups and downs. I honestly think we either choose to work through them, or have give up everytime something gets a bit difficult or boring....maybe I'm a bit simplistic though.
Good luck, maybe a little rest will calm everyone down and you can talk soon
It sounds very much to me like you two should be together. After all, you've been through a lot and stuck together so far. Like Jo says we all have our ups and downs. I honestly think we either choose to work through them, or have give up everytime something gets a bit difficult or boring....maybe I'm a bit simplistic though.
Good luck, maybe a little rest will calm everyone down and you can talk soon
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it sounds to me hun, that you really want to be with him, but you just wanted to get everything off your chest. sometimes once you see it in black and white it helps and then you feel ready to move on.
i hope that you and Paul can make a future together. it sounds to me that both of you want the same things. at the end of the day you might have to seperate from his family until you both are at a more secure place in your marriage, does that make sense.
anyway good luck and i am sure that you will be okay.
x
i hope that you and Paul can make a future together. it sounds to me that both of you want the same things. at the end of the day you might have to seperate from his family until you both are at a more secure place in your marriage, does that make sense.
anyway good luck and i am sure that you will be okay.
x
Aaw hun! Maybe a little time apart will have done you the world of good and reminded you what you have together. Only you can decide whether you want to be with him, and you must remember that no-ones perfect!
If he is good with Jodie and good with you, then you can't ask for anymore........you may have been arguing a lot recently but every relationship has a patch like that, ours certainly has, but its actually made us stronger & closer.
You sound like you've been through a lot as a couple, you were both still there for each other....so there must be something there or you would have walked (or caught a bus
) earlier.
If he is good with Jodie and good with you, then you can't ask for anymore........you may have been arguing a lot recently but every relationship has a patch like that, ours certainly has, but its actually made us stronger & closer.
You sound like you've been through a lot as a couple, you were both still there for each other....so there must be something there or you would have walked (or caught a bus
) earlier.Little Miss Joslyn
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Im sorry you are feeling so down and Emmalou is right saying that these bad patches can make us stronger and it did with me and OH too. Sometimes men need a kick up the arse to make tham realise that us women are not taking any shit and that things have to change.
I have been with my man for 13 years and we have our ups and downs but I cant move on as I love him and although he has been out of work for a year now, i choose to be here when i could sometimes quite easily move out and start a new life. We are trying for a baby and I constantly worry about being financially unstable and I have been told to "Ride the waves" and take one day at a time. i get depressed as things never change but when you love someone you stick by them.
Families cause so much stress and its true what they say " You can choose your friends but you cant your families!"I too had a miscarriage through family stress and now im too stressed to get pregnant again!
Good luck hunnie and you know deep down what is right so go with that gut feeling. x
I have been with my man for 13 years and we have our ups and downs but I cant move on as I love him and although he has been out of work for a year now, i choose to be here when i could sometimes quite easily move out and start a new life. We are trying for a baby and I constantly worry about being financially unstable and I have been told to "Ride the waves" and take one day at a time. i get depressed as things never change but when you love someone you stick by them.
Families cause so much stress and its true what they say " You can choose your friends but you cant your families!"I too had a miscarriage through family stress and now im too stressed to get pregnant again!
Good luck hunnie and you know deep down what is right so go with that gut feeling. x
