Ladies with recurrent miscarriges, help please ?

[PeanutButter]

Ladies did you do anything different this time?
Have you made it further than you have before?
Feeling sorry for myself atm. I'm abit scared to go to this consultant appointment, i had a text to remind me about it yday... it's actually with the consultant idk what that means, my stomach is turning just thinking about it right now. Worried they've found something they can't fix...but worried they've found nothing and I'll carry on losing every pregnancy
Still taking 5.4mg folic acid... omega 3 (meant to help blood, right?) And my pre conception vits.... anything else I should take.?
They said in a letter to my gp (think I've wrote on here before) that we will discuss medication I'm assuming asprin.. :/
I've wrote a list of questions I want and stuff that's 'wrong' with me aha.
Whys it gotta be so bloody difficult. Meh. Xx

 

[Eryinera]

I'm officially further. I'm onot aspirin and the high dose folic acid. I last had a scan at 7 +2 and I measured bang on with a normal heartbeat. Of course I've not been scanned since but I'm oh so very sick this time round. I actually threw up day before ov and I'm still ill now. My consultant is talking about clexane but I think they won't do that. I've next got a consultant at 22 weeks argh! Just need to make it to then!!

 

[PeanutButter]

Thats strange the being sick at ovulation. I actually threw up the day after ovulation with my first pregnancy and got really bad motion sickness which still hasn't gone!!! Think it's weird like how/why?? Heh.

Are you getting a private scan done?

I'm meant to have a scan if i ever get to 6 weeks! But don't want it :/ i hate tv scans while pregnant... I blame my first mc on it tbf everything was fine until I had that, even saw the hb...had bleeding after it and then 2 days later bam gone. Ikno I'm probably being over dramatic about it, but I'd rather wait another week and have an abdominal one. Look at me getting ahead of myself, I need to get pregnant first ... again. Sorry in a strange mood, comical but moody lol.

What is clexane? X

 

[snowbee]

I'm further than I've ever been before.

I'm also on high dose folic acid and low dose asprin, both started when I got my bfp as advised by our consultant.

Other things we have done differently include - this is a clomid pregnancy, the eggs are supposed to be better quality on clomid. I'm on the recurrent mc trial for people with high thyroid antibodies, I don't know if I have the placebo or the medication but going from my blood results I think I'm on the medication. I stopped wearing perfume (no idea if this has helped but I had heard that embryos don't like it).

I've had one early scan, I was measuring 5 days behind but they didn't seem bothered and have discharged me with my next scan at 12 weeks.

 

[Emily0505]

I'm further on this time too.

Not done anything different at all.

Hopefully mother nature is kind this this time.

XX

 

[Eryinera]

Clexane is like heprin only pregnancy safe. I wasn't going to go for a private scan but my consultant phoned and wants me to have a scan next Thursday. She says it's to check babyish in the right place I'm not convinced as I've already had 2 TV scans already. I have a suspicion it's a) to make sure it's still alive and b) to check blood flow to my placenta. But i don't know

 

[PeanutButter]

So I went to my appointment yesterday... was bad news, they said it's unexplained they told me to just carry on, then eventually one will stick.
The doctor talked with another consultant and decided to send me to Birmingham women's hospital, recurrent miscarriges department. They said they are specialists and will be able to do more testing etc... Probably not until next year now though. Least it's something I suppose Xx

 

[snowbee]

It is difficult isn't it Peanut. On one hand you want them to find nothing so you know it will be ok in the end, on the other hand you want them to find a reason why this is happening, even if it means bad news and they can't treat it.

Stay positive, this will happen for you x

 

[Eryinera]

Mine is "unexplained" too but I'm convinced they haven't done half the tests they could have. No genetic screaning for example and there are genetuc issues in our history if they had even bothered to ask.... I'm still tempted to get the full Hughes test fron London where they do all 3 tests for it as my clinic just did the one which is only 80% accurate. There are that many different blood disorders on my dad's side that are only just coming to light now (50 years most of them had the disorder before it being discovered when something disastrously went wrong resulting in at least one fatality) that I'm convinced my blood isn't right I'm just going to keep pushing until they find something I think!

It is hard and you do have to pick yourself up off the floor... a lot... but hopefully one day it will happen. I am always reminded of a lady on here who's miscarriages went into double figures but she got her rainbow in the end. If she can do it.. then hopefully with some luck so can I.

 

[Bythesea]

Hi ladies.

I've had 4 miscarriages in a row, after having 2 live births with no issues. I had testing done through the hospital after the 3rd. All tests 'normal'. I've also been to my gp recently, and he did testing for 9 different things...all also normal. As for hubby having any tests, he had blood taken but nothing else due to the fact we have had 2 children so in theory no chromosome issues with him.
I've taken a while to start ovulating after the last one, so still trying to conceive again. I have also been told it's probably bad luck and that I may have an unfussy uterus! They just don't know enough- at least tommys are finally acknowledging this and have started the big miscarriage trial. I personally believe there must be some reason, I took low dose aspirin between 3 and 4 but stopped when I had the 4th as bled heavily. I haven't gone back to it, as maybe that's what caused it?! Who knows.
It's interesting we all seem to have different types of testing/procedures carried out- so totally depends on where you live to what kind of treatment you are offered then....

Best of luck to you all xx

 

[PeanutButter]

By thesea it's taken me this long to be referred to the actual recurrent miscarriges after 5! I thought i was but was just gyne :S So I think it's definitely where you live, on google I've read about people having ivf after there 3rd one, and having every test and tension hubby. They haven't even asked about hubby lol.
Sorry for your losses, I hope you get your rainbow x

 

[Eryinera]

Sometimes it matters how far along you were when you had the mc too. They weren't fussed about my pre- 5 week miscarriage as that's considered "normal" just unlucky that we tested early. Which I think is a bit unfair too.

 

[PeanutButter]

Yeah, he said "you pregnancy losses" with finger quotes to me the other day. I could have smacked him one aha. Ive had them at 8 weeks, 6 weeks, and 5 weeks. Last 2 were chems. They're not bothered about any of them imo even tho the one at 8 weeks had a heartbeat. And if your hcg levels are over 5 ot 7 idk ? Your classed as pregnant so wtf :/

Really hoping the people at this new clinic are much more sympathetic ! Xx

 

[Bythesea]

It's so frustrating there's not more help....
I've seen lots of posts about people avoiding sex for as long as possible- at least 12 weeks ideally. No evidence to support the theory (standard) but that's one I've not tried yet so will give that a go! Anyone else tried this and failed/got success from that method? Xx

 

[Eryinera]

Ive had sex in this pregnancy and all was good at scan today I avoided sex in last pregnancy and it ended in a mmc so don't think that matters!

 

[Emily0505]

Peanut, all our test results have come back normal so no reason was found for our losses either. Our consultant that if everything is normal then you basically just roll the dice again until one sticks! Hopefully you'll get answers at Birmingham though.

I've had sex a couple of times this pregnancy and so far so good. Had sex with last three pregnancies and they all ended in mc. Had sex during my very first pregnancy and that ended with my son!

XX

 

[PeanutButter]

I always avoid sex, and try to avoid orgasm, but when I'm preg i have loads of sexual dreams ahaha

 

[Emily0505]

I orgasm in my sleep all the time!

I always have naughty dreams and very vivid even when I'm not pregnant!Lol!

XX

 

[PeanutButter]

Lol! I can't remember dreams that often, and I definitely don't have sexual ones xD so when I start having vivid sexual dreams & waking up to orgasams i know somethings up ahaha. Not like I'm complaining though xx

 

[Bythesea]

Well I will abstain anyway this month and see what happens. Clutching at straws hey?!