welshgal22
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Hi everyone. I'm pretty new here and I thought I would ask advice from people who are in my situation right now.
I found out that I was pregnant yesterday, so I am still in a state of shock. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I am 21. This was not a plan of ours for at least another few years, which is why I took the pill religiously and my luck I turned out to be one of the unlucky 1% who it is ineffective for. I am graduating university in July with a Psychology degree and I planned on doing my Masters in Abnormal Psychology in Sept 2011.
I have never agreed with abortion unless under certain circumstances... I see it as a form of playing God, when I have no right to do that. Plus, I don't agree with it mainly because there are so many women out there who can't have children who desperately want one, and there are then the people having abortions as though it is a form of contraception. To me that isnt right. Anyway, I was thinking about adoption, but my mother feels that I would not be able to cope with that, as I would grow attached to my baby over the 9 months while carrying it, and it would kill me to give it up. Deep down, I feel that I could manage.. I understand that it would be a huge struggle as I only work part-time right now, and my partner is unemployed. This was not part of my life plan at all, and it's really knocked me back.. especially as I was using contraception. But a part of me then thinks that this must have happened for a reason?
Is anyone else in the same situation and could offer advice? My boyfriend also doesn't know yet, my mother and I are planning on speaking to him tonight. I'm really nervous as I know that he does not want children for a good few years. Any tips?
Jenna x
I found out that I was pregnant yesterday, so I am still in a state of shock. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I am 21. This was not a plan of ours for at least another few years, which is why I took the pill religiously and my luck I turned out to be one of the unlucky 1% who it is ineffective for. I am graduating university in July with a Psychology degree and I planned on doing my Masters in Abnormal Psychology in Sept 2011.
I have never agreed with abortion unless under certain circumstances... I see it as a form of playing God, when I have no right to do that. Plus, I don't agree with it mainly because there are so many women out there who can't have children who desperately want one, and there are then the people having abortions as though it is a form of contraception. To me that isnt right. Anyway, I was thinking about adoption, but my mother feels that I would not be able to cope with that, as I would grow attached to my baby over the 9 months while carrying it, and it would kill me to give it up. Deep down, I feel that I could manage.. I understand that it would be a huge struggle as I only work part-time right now, and my partner is unemployed. This was not part of my life plan at all, and it's really knocked me back.. especially as I was using contraception. But a part of me then thinks that this must have happened for a reason?
Is anyone else in the same situation and could offer advice? My boyfriend also doesn't know yet, my mother and I are planning on speaking to him tonight. I'm really nervous as I know that he does not want children for a good few years. Any tips?
Jenna x