"I dont regret my 7 abortions" now magazine

[Krystal]

The girl in the first post is a disgrace. I hate the thought of someone using abortion as a form of contraception which when you have done it 7 times seems to be the case.

To the girls who've posted re abortion. I don't think anyone here would lump you in with the likes of the girl mentioned in the first post.

I personally don't think I could have an abortion but I understand you really can't say that and cover every possible situation cos no one knows how they would react to certain things ie rape and a few others.

 

[paradysso]

7!!! i guess she went private, nhs wont do that many. condoms are far cheaper!!

unfortunately i have been there more then once and at the time i thought it was right, well the first time i knew it was right as i was in an abusive relationship and had i carried the baby any longer im unsure it would have survied the abuse 2nd time i thought i was doing right but now since having babies i hate my self for my decisions but its some thing i will live with and not a 2nd goes by i dont think about my 2 babies.

i like that people can choose, but i think they need to be offered alot more information on it. it was far too easy to walk into the clinic and ask for a termination

 

[amethyst_echidna]

it was far too easy to walk into the clinic and ask for a termination

I think it NEEDS to be as easy as possible when it gets to the stage of actually going to the clinic as the vast majority of women who go there have agonised for a long time over their decision and to make it hard at the clinic would be creating more problems IMHO. I do agree with the more information part though - counselling should be mandatory beforehand and afterwards, and there should be a wealth of freely available information on the subject to allow women to make a balanced and reasoned decision.

The woman who is the subject of the original post is a disgrace to anyone who's ever had to go through the pain of an abortion and I'm truly disgusted.

AMETHYST

 

[Slinky Sarah]

that is just shocking it really really is... it seems like she just thinks 'ooops here we go again...at least i have an easy way out'. Im probably going be classed as a bitch and evil for this but i hope she cant have children in the future, and tbh after 7 shes probably done damage to herself anyway. There are people out there that would have loved them 7 children.
I am against abortion for them sort of reasons. Obviously some situations are too horrible to even consider carrying on (i.e. rape or serious illness where the child wouldnt survive or have a quality of life).
I personally fell pregnant after a one night stand with my ex. I told him and his response was 'the ONLY option is abortion' Needless to say i didnt abort (miscarried unfortunatly). Violent situations and rape or knowing that your own health would be endangered fair enough but IMO having an abortion because your not ready is very very hard for me to get my head round. if your old enough to have unprotected sex and know the consiquences then your old enough to deal with the consiquences.
Ok my opinion has alot to do with my miscarriages, and my view has become alot stronger in the last week since my recent one. And i wont lie it does upset me that some people can make that decision knowing people out there are struggling to conceive or suffering miscarriage after miscarriages when people like this woman seem to not think twice before just ripping this life from their bodies.
Sorry if that upsets anyone (im actually that worked up im crying now lol)

 

[paradysso]

for you hun

 

[ShineyHappyPeople]

I think it NEEDS to be as easy as possible when it gets to the stage of actually going to the clinic as the vast majority of women who go there have agonised for a long time over their decision and to make it hard at the clinic would be creating more problems IMHO.

I disagree.. if you allow abortion, and make it easy, it will be abused like this. I'm sure this lady isn't the only one doing this regularly. I know people will disagree with me on this but thats how I feel.

 

[mum2A&L]

i don't think an abortion should be 'easy' but there should be a very good support network.

 

[fran_23]

the process of going about getting a termination may be "easy" as some have pointed out- but the thought process and decision is not, if it was harder then some women in the given state of mind may have a breakdown and do something more drastic. I do however think it should be taken on merit and anyone who has been doing as this lady and having multible abortions ought to be councilled/talked through why they are doing this and made to see that it is not a form of contraception- it should be made harder for ladies having many abortions, such as the one in question.

 

[beanie]

I read the article - and she said she used contraception.

I admire anyone who has made this tough decision and admire those that have decided to have their babies - its a wonderful thing choice.

 

[amethyst_echidna]

I disagree.. if you allow abortion, and make it easy, it will be abused like this. I'm sure this lady isn't the only one doing this regularly. I know people will disagree with me on this but thats how I feel.

But if you disallow it, or make it hard, then women with perfectly legitimate reasons are more likely to resort to desperate measures. I'm sure this lady isn't the only one, but there must be something that can be done to sort idiots like this out without making it harder for those women who desperately need it to be easy.

AMETHYST

 

[abcd1234]

I disagree.. if you allow abortion, and make it easy, it will be abused like this. I'm sure this lady isn't the only one doing this regularly. I know people will disagree with me on this but thats how I feel.

But if you disallow it, or make it hard, then women with perfectly legitimate reasons are more likely to resort to desperate measures. I'm sure this lady isn't the only one, but there must be something that can be done to sort idiots like this out without making it harder for those women who desperately need it to be easy.

AMETHYST

In some senses having and abortion it not to easy, i wouldnt have a clue where to start or who to talk to if i wanted one. I'm sure if i really looked i'd figure it out but some people dont have that initiative. However i do feel people shouldn't be allowed to have that many.

I did watch the bbc program on abortion and was relieved to see that at the clinic they asked her why she didnt want the baby, but because of my own personal views i would also have liked them to have talked to her about possible solutions and ways she could have kept it.

 

[fran_23]

i agree with amethyst_echidna you can't ban something just because a minority abuse it- otherwise everything would be banned!
they just need to get stricter with those that abuse it.

 

[fran_23]

I did watch the bbc program on abortion and was relieved to see that at the clinic they asked her why she didnt want the baby, but because of my own personal views i would also have liked them to have talked to her about possible solutions and ways she could have kept it.

before you go to the actual clinic you actually have to get two doctors to agree that it is a correct choice for you- when you go to this appt they go through all options with you- adoption, or keeping it and getting help.

you then have a consultation at the actual clinic where they ask you again and ask if you are sure and you can have counselling if you are not or are finding it hard.

 

[sarah113]

im sorry if i offended/upset anyone with my commet, i did'nt intend it that way, what i ment to say is i personally would never consider a termination. After haveing a late miscarriage at nearly 20 weeks, and seeing what the baby looks like at that stage, i do think it is wrong after a cetain amount of weeks though (unless their is a serious problem)
i beleive that everyone has a choice and i would'nt stop talking to someone just because they have had a termination.
i hope that makes sense, i am really sorry if i did upset anyone

 

[ShineyHappyPeople]

Yeah, I heard today they are trying to change the termination limit from 24weeks to 20weeks but its looking more likely to end up being 22 weeks because a baby was delivered at 22 weeks and survived.

 

[abcd1234]

Yeah, I heard today they are trying to change the termination limit from 24weeks to 20weeks but its looking more likely to end up being 22 weeks because a baby was delivered at 22 weeks and survived.

I think it should be decreased, i understand that some people dont find out about problems with the baby until after their 20 week scan, someone i know at was told at her 20 week scan they think baby may have problems and when they looked her downs screening had come back high risk and no-one told her, in these situations i would allow the 24, however i do not think you should be allowed to get rid of a baby at 24 weeks for "social" reasons.

However, i seriously doubt anything will change theres was a quote on radio 1 of some lady saying theres no evidence babies live before 24 weeks (um BULL) however after yesterday voting i dont think anything will change.

Sorry but how can they say that because 1 in 10 babies born at 23 weeks live its not enough? To me one baby living is enough, it shows its possible