"I dont regret my 7 abortions" now magazine

[kazlin]

but what if you got raped one day and got pregnant

I knew a girl that this happened to and going through the abortion really affected her. If in her shoes I would do the same! That's just my opinion.

 

[fran_23]

thanks for your reply geordie lass
i know no one meant any offense and were not being personal-
i'm sorry if i was rude in my last post i think i better stop reading this thread because i keep letting silly little things get to me.
everyone is free to believe what they want of course..i wasn't trying to
say they aren't i just feel like sometimes it can be the right choice.

but as per the original subject of the thread that woman is as i'm sure everyone would agree disgusting and shows a blatant disregard for human life, i think what got to me is that she is in no way a reflection on ordinary women who have to make these choices maybe once in their lives and they shouldn't be compared to this cretin who is not mature enough to have sex and create life to just destroy it without a second thought. sorry to be so moody i feel really hormonal today!

xxx

 

[lfc_sarah]

Oh my gosh!!

Surely she should have looked into getting a form of contraception instead of using abortions as the answer

 

[Melly+2]

for me i dont think i could ever have an abortion, its just something i would never concider doing, unless cercumstances where dire, but i believe everyone has their own reasons for doing it and its up to them, it makes me sad but i dont judge people for it cause i dont know what the story behind it is, but 7 is bad though

 

[lea m]

OMG 7 abortions?!
That is just not right!? I havent read the article but it seems clear that this is a true case of abortion as contraception!
I seriously dont think it should be allowed!

 

[daftscotslass]

Was the article in the UK? If so I don't think there's any excuse, especially since contraception is free here if you go to a docs or a clinic.

 

[zebrastripes]

As strongly pro-choice as I am, having that many abortions is just abusing the right to choose...there are other ways of contraception which do not have the mental and physical effect of a termination...I mean this woman is clearly irresponsible. Also, it gives more fodder to the really wacko school of anti-abortionists...much as people may disagree with abortion, there are obviously situations in which it is necessary... but women like this may make people think otherwise. Seven abortions... I find it very difficult to believe that isn't going to have mental repercussions later

 

[Jen79]

I totally agree with Fran, I find it really upsetting when people dismiss abortion as something they could 'never even entertain the idea of' and the way some people make out like it is something they would never ever do because I just think, you can never be 100% sure. You really cant. Yes, it is a life, but sometimes, rightly or wrongly, people do find themselves in positions where going ahead with the pregnancy seems an impossibility. I had an abortion several years ago and I will never forget it. Even my own mother doesnt know about it because I cant bring myself to tell her. But at the time I was very frightened of the consequences of going ahead with the pregnancy as the father of the child was volatile and I had made a big mistake getting involved with him in the first place. I didnt know how he would react, I was even scared he might kill me so I secretly went off and had it done and it broke my heart. I still cry for that child and the fact that I felt unable to take a risk and give it a life but termination seemed to be the only safe option to save myself. So for people to say they would never ever have one just makes me feel even more like I have done an absolutely unforgivable thing. I agree it is disgusting the way this woman has behaved - she clearly has no moral values and by the sounds of it no respect for herself or any life she creates. But I do and I hate to think people think of me and her as one and the same because we have had abortions. Sorry to go on but its something I have very strong feelings about.

 

[fran_23]

I totally agree with Fran, I find it really upsetting when people dismiss abortion as something they could 'never even entertain the idea of' and the way some people make out like it is something they would never ever do because I just think, you can never be 100% sure. You really cant. Yes, it is a life, but sometimes, rightly or wrongly, people do find themselves in positions where going ahead with the pregnancy seems an impossibility. I had an abortion several years ago and I will never forget it. Even my own mother doesnt know about it because I cant bring myself to tell her. But at the time I was very frightened of the consequences of going ahead with the pregnancy as the father of the child was volatile and I had made a big mistake getting involved with him in the first place. I didnt know how he would react, I was even scared he might kill me so I secretly went off and had it done and it broke my heart. I still cry for that child and the fact that I felt unable to take a risk and give it a life but termination seemed to be the only safe option to save myself. So for people to say they would never ever have one just makes me feel even more like I have done an absolutely unforgivable thing. I agree it is disgusting the way this woman has behaved - she clearly has no moral values and by the sounds of it no respect for herself or any life she creates. But I do and I hate to think people think of me and her as one and the same because we have had abortions. Sorry to go on but its something I have very strong feelings about.

i think you just summed up what upset me-
i have strong feelings about this too, i don't want to be lumped in the same category as ppl like that woman.

 

[lozzi]

7 abortions is truelly shocking.

i am personally anti abortion - BUT pro choice.




An abortion is a massive thing to a womans body AND mental state, that woman has to live with the consequences of her actions.



However. In the case of this story, it does some what appear that this person is using abortion as a method of contraception. That is totally wrong. I believe there should be the option there for genuine cases were abortions are required... but NOT as an option for a late decision to "use" contraception.

 

[mum2A&L]

for me i could never abort a 'life' even if it was created in a less than ideal situation - at least someone good could come from such a horrible thing. But i do understand why people do terminate pg's, and i don't think any less of them.

but in this case...some people just shouldn't be allowed to breed all those poor couples who go for ages trying to have kids, just to hear stuff like this - its them i feel sorry for.

 

[budge]

Anyone else read this article??!!
7 abortions, i'm speachless tbh and i think if she was my patient i'd have had something to say after the first couple, its not even as if she were young etc. Plus in one of them she says the condom split and she knew it's mean she'd end up pregnant, so why didnt she take the morning after pill?

I understand at the end she starts blaming other problems for it and a lack of support and counciling, which may be true but i simply cannot accept that 7 abortions can be justified!

I find it hard enough knwoing my close friend had an abortion but she had reasons, she was only 17 at the time and due to having had lukemia twice is wuite far behind education wise and maturity wise also.

i should like to abort her

 

[mum2A&L]

where they all done on the nhs?

 

[uncle_bens]

I totally agree with Fran, I find it really upsetting when people dismiss abortion as something they could 'never even entertain the idea of' and the way some people make out like it is something they would never ever do because I just think, you can never be 100% sure. You really cant. Yes, it is a life, but sometimes, rightly or wrongly, people do find themselves in positions where going ahead with the pregnancy seems an impossibility. I had an abortion several years ago and I will never forget it. Even my own mother doesnt know about it because I cant bring myself to tell her. But at the time I was very frightened of the consequences of going ahead with the pregnancy as the father of the child was volatile and I had made a big mistake getting involved with him in the first place. I didnt know how he would react, I was even scared he might kill me so I secretly went off and had it done and it broke my heart. I still cry for that child and the fact that I felt unable to take a risk and give it a life but termination seemed to be the only safe option to save myself. So for people to say they would never ever have one just makes me feel even more like I have done an absolutely unforgivable thing. I agree it is disgusting the way this woman has behaved - she clearly has no moral values and by the sounds of it no respect for herself or any life she creates. But I do and I hate to think people think of me and her as one and the same because we have had abortions. Sorry to go on but its something I have very strong feelings about.

Sorry to hear about that, it was a very sad situation. I don't think anyone would put you together with the woman in the story as she's not really a normal case!

I understand why it's upsetting to read people saying 'they dont believe in abortions' however if thats how they feel, they should be able to say it. I don't think people saying it automatically judges other people, same way as if you have had an abortion you would judge people who havent. I can say that unless it was a rape/medical issue I wouldnt be able to have an abortion, i'm not judging anyone else on here, but just as people can be pro-choice, people can also be pro-life. Some people may find the idea of a woman having an abortion 'very upsetting' but its all our personal choices. Noone means to cast aspersions on any members decisions, its all relative.

 

[ShineyHappyPeople]

why does everyone keep saying "i dont believe in abortions"
i'm not being funny but no one thinks they are good or from lollipop lane
but what if you got raped one day and got pregnant- would you still not believe in abortions then? if you found yourself in the unfortunate position
where you were for whatver reason unable to continue a pregnancy then you might have no choice but to change your mind.

saying it that way makes it feel like everyone who has ever had one is evil and wrong- they exist and women have them- whats not to believe?

Some people are pro abortion and some are against it - why are you giving us a hard time about our opinions

 

[Jen79]

I think that this is just a really sensitive subject. And of course everyone is entitled to feel exactly how they want, we live in a free country. The idea of abortion doesnt sit comfortably with the majority of people. I would say that I am pretty much against it, which is hypocritical of me as I have had one myself. But if you read my post you will see that I ended up in a dreadful stuation I could never have predicted and abortion seemed like the only solution. When you have had an abortion no one can judge you as much as you judge yourself but at the same time it does leave you very sensitive to peoples opinions on the subject. I certainly feel upset when someone says they could never ever do such a thing in any circumstances because it makes me take this as a personal criticism - like 'what kind of terrible person am I to do something like that then?' and other things. So it is natural to get a bit defensive of the subject isnt it?

 

[fran_23]

Shineyhappypeople- why dont you read the whole thread properly?? not only does it explain why i was upset by the thread- that i wasn't "giving anyone a hard time" over there opinions but i also apologized for if i was rude!!!

 

[fran_23]

thanks for your reply geordie lass
i know no one meant any offense and were not being personal-
i'm sorry if i was rude in my last post i think i better stop reading this thread because i keep letting silly little things get to me.
everyone is free to believe what they want of course..i wasn't trying to
say they aren't i just feel like sometimes it can be the right choice.

but as per the original subject of the thread that woman is as i'm sure everyone would agree disgusting and shows a blatant disregard for human life, i think what got to me is that she is in no way a reflection on ordinary women who have to make these choices maybe once in their lives and they shouldn't be compared to this cretin who is not mature enough to have sex and create life to just destroy it without a second thought. sorry to be so moody i feel really hormonal today!

xxx

 

[kellyannlyle]

Oh my goodness!!!

I had one when I was 19 - at uni and totally not with it at all and I took the morning after pill after an accident.

Considered a termination this time because of my situation - pregnant to a married man who i was seeing for 7 months!

But I just couldn't do it - totally pro choice and not judging for the terminations but 7 and gloating????? Where is the pride and respect in herself????

I thought I am 25 and a grown up - made my mistakes but I guess this will have a happy ending - guess she isn't really at the grown up stage yet!!!!!!!

 

[abcd1234]

Oh my goodness!!!

I had one when I was 19 - at uni and totally not with it at all and I took the morning after pill after an accident.

Considered a termination this time because of my situation - pregnant to a married man who i was seeing for 7 months!

But I just couldn't do it - totally pro choice and not judging for the terminations but 7 and gloating????? Where is the pride and respect in herself????

I thought I am 25 and a grown up - made my mistakes but I guess this will have a happy ending - guess she isn't really at the grown up stage yet!!!!!!!

My friend is the result of a very similar situation, his mum was on the pill and seeing a married man but the pill didnt work and he came to be. I understand that most people would consider their options here but i honestly think she's never regretted having him, they have such a close bond now and he knows exactly how he came to be.

Althought i dont agree with abortion i do beleive their are situations where it is necessary, maybe even right, i always said i thought i'd never have one but wouldnt know until i was in that situation, and when put in a pretty shity one i knew immediately i'd keep her. I think i said in the first post that things like rape and medical reasons i totally understand and would agree with.

I knew when i made this post it would be an emotive subject but it wasnt aimed at those who have had an abortion after puttin lots of thought in to it, it was to highlight how little those 7 lives seem to have meant to her and how i couldnt believe someone would have all them and say they didnt regret it (i personally beleive everyone who has one has some sort of "regret" for that life, even if they know they made the right choice)

Plus i think a part of me got pissed off as her reasons for abortion were constantly "i wasnt ready" or "we hadnt been together long" and she even aborted one where her partner really wanted her to keep it. I took responsibilty for my actions and i get a little annoyed that she seemed to have taken none, 7 times!