i dont know if this is the right place to post......

[trudie]

but i have a sistuation and its a bit of a long one so thanks for reading.

Basically in september my OH was moved to london for work. they pay for our rent bills etc. so we obviously have spare cash. Now i worked for the same company for 5 years but left in january and got a new job but then had to give up my job to move with my OH so the company gave me my job bk but in london. which is fine as we was only going to be staying untill febuary. Then my OH aera manager asked him to stay another year as he done such an brill job over xmas and the owner of the company and all the important ppl wants him to stay. So he agreed to stay if i could keep my job and full time hours and us to have four dys off in a row once month which they agreed to. So at this point we'r happy etc.. then we discover we'r pregnant lol whic of course we'r happy and everything, but then every keeps saying to us dont u want to move bck home etc. so now everythings sunk in we realise we do wanna move back home and he lies are problem. We wont be able to affored anywhere on one wage if we had our two wages then we would esily affored it but catch 22 when we move bck i wont be able to keep my job as i only have my job if we stay in london. So obviously the choice would be to stay in london but il be compeltly on my own no family and no real friends so il jus be stuck on my own but we really want to move bk to cardiff but how can we afford it is there any help out there i tired looking but its all so confusing and i think my OH earns to much has any one got any advise for me thanks again for reading

 

[OverTheMoon]

oh gosh you poor thing i haven't got any useful advice unfortunately but i just wanted to send you these
I had my first baby in Scotland, moved there from England when i was 7 months pregnant, so i knew nobody and had no family close by. I soon made friends and actually spent some of my happiest times there, would move back in a heartbeat!!! So having no family and friends although hard is not an impossibility with a newborn baby!! Let us know what you decide and i hope someone can offer you some more help regarding the logistical side of things x

 

[emmalouise079]

I really sympAthise with your problem at the mo.
I had always planned to move back home near it family and friends when I started a family. But now I can't leave my job as I won't get maternity pay and my DH hasn't found a job back home either. Were kind of stuck where we are until after my mat leave )
Like u we would love to be near friends and family for the birth of our firs child but unless we win the lottery it's not gonna happen.

I would speak to your employer to see if they would have a suitable position for you back in Cardiff, you never know they might Want to keep our as much as your OH? They can only say no and then you'll be a bit clearer as to where u stand?

 

[trudie]

my oh job is secure he could move any where in the country if he wanted to but they things the want him here and they only thing keeping him here is that theyv given me a job so if we go bk no job for me lol i got noo contract its jus an agreement we have its soo annoying coz london is such a big place and ppl are not that friendly here i feel traped in my own home unless my oh has the same day off as me i jus spend my days in the house and im some1 whos always had loads of m8s and stuff now im all alone

 

[curlygurl]

One of the good things about being pregnant and having a new baby is that there are loads of groups and clubs for mum's to be and mum's and babies. When you see your midwife, ask her for details of the local Children's Centre and see what groups they have on there. You can also try your local leisure centre as they might have things like pregnancy yoga and aqua aerobics. Also NCT (National Childbirth Trust) run antenatal classes. They are expensive, but they are fantastic for getting to know people as they have really small groups and they really encourage you to build friendships and a little support group. I know London can be intimidating, but there is so much going on. And all of these places will have lots of women just like you, who are also looking to make new friends.

Whereabouts in London are you guys living?

 

[trudie]

aww thanks i will check it out we live in ealing broadway in west london

 

[KikoDinoGirl]

Meeting people can be hard, but definately agree being a new mum gives you an opening!

I also didn't know anyone when I moved to Beckenham in Kent, but went to various different things and now have a nice group of friends. It can take a while but its worth out.

Whatever you decide talk it other with your OH

 

[trudie]

my oh jus wants to go home anyway so i think we will but i jus hope work doesnt make things hard for him for wanting to move bk lol but i think they would want him bk in the cardiff aera as he did such a good job in london lo but u never know

 

[trixipaws]

awww wish i had some advice for u

off gut feeling i would go back home, rather than being isolated and alone just try to make it work somehow. but i understand that might just not be possible