KarolinaMoon
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Hello,
I'm having a bit of a nightmare at the moment with various struggles, mostly financial but also marraige related! Im so confused and dont really have anyone that I can discuss this with. Basically my husband and I keep having really bad arguments, often infront of the kids. I dont know if they are my fault or not, I feel so confused about it all! For example, today I looked after our kids age 2 and 4 all day ( like I do almost every day as well as work two part time jobs). I normally cook for everyone and clean too. This evening I went swimming for half an hour....and when I came home I could sense my husband was a bit strange with me. However I put it down to me being tired and reading thing wrongly and didnt say anything. Later on I was putting our kids to bed, and went downstairs to get one of them a drink. My husband came into the kitchen and made a comment about how busy he had been today and then proceeded to rhymn everything he had to do, including collecting one of our kids from nursery at lunchtime. I dont know if I was right to feel upset at this point because it has got to the point where I feel I am always in the wrong!! But I felt really quite upset and confused as to why he was telling me all this. I stayed calm and asked why are you telling me....to which he said that I had come downstairs n he thought I was angry that he was relaxing watching tv while I was putting kids to bed....and then said that I had got to go swimming. I told him that I definitely wasnt angry and not to assume things. That is when the argument really got going...he then told me that its ok to assume and that he wasnt wrong for assuming.....but that it wasnt ok for me to get upset about him rhyming off all he had done today.
Im really not sure how to view this or ehat to think tbh. Anything I say to him results in me being in the wrong...that is how it feels anyway! A big part of me doesnt even want to discuss it to try to resolve it because it inevitably results in him giving me a long lecture somethings with swear words thrown in...and its just too stressful.
Anyone able to give me their view on this as an outsider greatly appreciated!!!
I'm having a bit of a nightmare at the moment with various struggles, mostly financial but also marraige related! Im so confused and dont really have anyone that I can discuss this with. Basically my husband and I keep having really bad arguments, often infront of the kids. I dont know if they are my fault or not, I feel so confused about it all! For example, today I looked after our kids age 2 and 4 all day ( like I do almost every day as well as work two part time jobs). I normally cook for everyone and clean too. This evening I went swimming for half an hour....and when I came home I could sense my husband was a bit strange with me. However I put it down to me being tired and reading thing wrongly and didnt say anything. Later on I was putting our kids to bed, and went downstairs to get one of them a drink. My husband came into the kitchen and made a comment about how busy he had been today and then proceeded to rhymn everything he had to do, including collecting one of our kids from nursery at lunchtime. I dont know if I was right to feel upset at this point because it has got to the point where I feel I am always in the wrong!! But I felt really quite upset and confused as to why he was telling me all this. I stayed calm and asked why are you telling me....to which he said that I had come downstairs n he thought I was angry that he was relaxing watching tv while I was putting kids to bed....and then said that I had got to go swimming. I told him that I definitely wasnt angry and not to assume things. That is when the argument really got going...he then told me that its ok to assume and that he wasnt wrong for assuming.....but that it wasnt ok for me to get upset about him rhyming off all he had done today.
Im really not sure how to view this or ehat to think tbh. Anything I say to him results in me being in the wrong...that is how it feels anyway! A big part of me doesnt even want to discuss it to try to resolve it because it inevitably results in him giving me a long lecture somethings with swear words thrown in...and its just too stressful.
Anyone able to give me their view on this as an outsider greatly appreciated!!!