Mixed messages from my Husband

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Billyette, Mar 16, 2006.

  1. Billyette

    Billyette Member

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    Hi everyone

    Opinions welcome! I have wanted a baby for about 5 years, which I have always made clear to my husband. The day after we married last year, he said he was ready to start a family, but since then he changes his mind with the wind! :roll: In January, I decided to come off the pill and told him that if he didn't want a baby, he would have to finally take responsibility for contraception. I've also got an ovulation calendar on his computer so he knows when I'm fertile, but he still never uses protection. If anyone questions him about starting a family, he says he isn't ready - so why isn't he trying to prevent me getting pregnant? I'm really confused! He is fantastic with my 3 year old nephew and would make a great dad. Has anyone got any advice?
     
  2. Sarah&Braydon

    Sarah&Braydon Well-Known Member

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    maybe he would love a kid but is scared of the responsibility a child brings!! and has the theory if it happens it happens?
     
  3. MummySian

    MummySian Well-Known Member

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    Hi Billyette

    I think he may just be confused about the whole being a dad thing, my advice would be to ask him how he feels and if he has any worries becoming a dad.

    It is scary becoming first-time parents but wonderful at the same time. x
     
  4. Urchin

    Urchin Well-Known Member

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    It sounds to me like he is ready but ADMITTING it is what is scaring him.

    Men usually aren't as vocal about women about wanting kids.....it's a big thing to say "I'm ready" when really he's scared and just trying to wait and see what happens.
     
  5. lauramumof2

    lauramumof2 Well-Known Member

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    It sounds like he might be saying that so if you dont get pg then people dont need to know you were trying. Men can be a bit sensitive about the whole getting their women pregnant thing and if people know you are trying and nothing is happening then he might feel less of a man.
    I know its hard for you but he sounds insecure about it. Once you are pg you will see a whole different side to him, im sure.
     
  6. Urchin

    Urchin Well-Known Member

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    That's exactly what I was thinking.
     
  7. Sarah&Braydon

    Sarah&Braydon Well-Known Member

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    My OH always said he did not want any kids. He knew i was not taking the pill, was not too happy at first when i told him i was pregnant but now he is a happy dad and he loves his little boy more than anything else!!!
     

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