sorry i wasnt sure whether to post this here or in the routines section, but it feels like more of a relationship thing my boyf and i are falling out over parenting, and tonite he said "this is driving a wedge between us" millie wasnt planned so we never had chance to discuss parenting- so we're encountering the problems as we go along- and the problems seem to be we're quite different (we had quite different upbringings maybe thats why idk) i kno some of u heard this b4 but the issue is raised again- millie was crying this evening and my boyf wouldnt go comfort her he said i should do it. so i did, i went stroked her tummy, held her hand, then gave her a dummy. she was still crying, so i came downstairs and asked him to go- but he refused! i asked should i pick her up then but he said no- i should try harder (im not trying hard enough apparently!) so i went up, but i couldnt soothe her and she was breaking her heart so i picked her up (then i gave her some milk, she was a little hungry coz she was on for over 5 mins) anyway, he later said i was being "shit" and implied im a bad parent coz i dont hav the super-human willpower he does resisting picking up my baby MY VIEW is that if one of us (ie ME!) finds something distressing and the other one (him) doesnt- why wont he do it for me? i would do something for him if he found it hard and i didnt HIS VIEW is that i should be able to do it anyway, and "need" to be equally strong in all areas i just needed to rant really but thanks for reading if u did!