I don't think we can this time. He went out to the pub on Friday (told me for 1 or 2 shandys then was borrowing a bike for us to go out as a family on Sat) He staggered home at midnight, despite me texting him at 9 asking him to come home as Hayley was crying and I really couldn't get her to settle for over an hour. (He's now told me "everyone" ie his mum and his gran called bullshit on that, as if I'd lie about her crying ??? So fuming with them, can't tell me anything to my face so they can fuck right off if they want to see Hayley, they called me a bad mum as did OH - if they thought that they would do something about it, not bitch behind my back like cowards. So OH ended up spent his 1 day off lying in bed hungover until 11:30am, rather than spending some time with Hayley. Once he got up he started playing a PC game...if he wanted to spend time with her he would at least give her a morning hug!
The last time went out he promised he wasn't going to drink like that again, as he bailed on spending the next day with Hayley. He never spends time with her at home (at most 10 mins a day) unless I ask him a few times to spend time with her, even then he quickly puts her down in her rocker and ignores her til she falls asleep. From before Friday til now he still hasn't once asked how she is, asked if she's been sick, if she's been sleeping ect ect. Nothing.
He doesn't care about her, he cares about himself and only himself. He thinks he's the only man in the planet that goes to work so when he gets home he wants to sit on the PC playing games to unwind rather than spend some time hugging or playing with his daughter. Drinking enough to get that drunk on a Friday night and a Sunday night...he needs to remember he's 27 and has a child. He's not a care-free 18 year old