HG and NVP thread

[jemfox]

Awww fab news keeptrying!! Lovely name too! U been buying anything yet now u know?!
Me and hubby tryna decide on a pram, Omg go stressful, we got down to 4 we like lol!!

Kanga if u don't think u can do it then defo don't! 4 in a row will knacker u out making the hg worse. Im 28 weeks and a trip to kiddicare has left me throwing up and now in bed.

Xx

 

[kanga86]

It would be interesting to know, but yes it will be September before we know. Although I had hg with harry, so could still break the trend.

Just one night shift last week took 3 days to recover from. I've got to see my boss on Thursday so might bring it up with her then and see if any of it can be changed. xx

 

[keeptrying14]

Thanks jem! Ah its soo exciting now your getting close you can start planning everything! I brought the first outfit today! what prams where u thinking? soo cute little girl things! I think thats a good idea kanga as you really dont want to make it worse for yourself. xx

 

[kanga86]

Talk to me about anxiety and antenatal depression ladies. I am seriously struggling I'm getting myself so worked up about work and I am freaking out. Never felt anxiety like this before. I suffered with post natal depression after having Harry and I'm wondering if it's creeping back in. I am petrified of having a newborn and a toddler to look after, wondering what I am doing to myself and am I really cut out to be a mother! I don't feel that great of a one to Harry so how am I going to be with two!

I'm struggling to voice out all my fears and feelings but I know it's not normal to feel like this and I'm getting worried. Going to work shouldn't be such an awful thing to think about, but it makes me so on edge and sometimes shaky at the thought, I can feel my heart pounding too xx

 

[jemfox]

Aww kanga if ur struggling talk to your midwife, I went through a stage like that, and still get the anxiety, I freak out when I go out anywhere, don't know why, never used to be like it before.
Prenatal depression is more common than people think but often gets ignored because of the usual pregnancy hormones!

Keeptrying we like babystyle, cosatto, chicco or a silvercross one. Think husband has set he's heart on the silvercross one but it works out the most expensive being a good couple of hundred above the rest lol.

I'm still in bed, not feeling great atall, was hoping hubby would cook dinner but it's now 8pm and he's playing fifa so there's no hope.

Xx

 

[keeptrying14]

Hey kanga. I think I had pre natal depression at ur stage only the last 2 weeks I seem to be in a better frame of mind. At 16 weeks I was at the doctors literally sobbing coz I felt so ill and depressed. I think coz ur dealing with extreme sickness plus trying to keep a house going and work and a toddler it must feel all to much sometimes. I am sure if u asked any mum if they could cope with looking after a 2 year old while puking for 3 months solid most people would say no way. I do think tho speaking to someone helps. It helped me and I was worried he was going to think I was mental and unfit mother or something! He was total opposite and was so understanding and really helped me.

Jem I like the silver cross one too! But it's just cost my hubby is a nightmare when it comes to spending money so I don't know if he will let me get it haha! That's a bummer about dinner I feel like it every night not wanting to cook. We went out for a pizza to celebrate tho which was nice xxx

 

[jemfox]

Yeh I think it's the waysomething it's called, but works out 700+ with all the bits so don't know, feels like ide just be buying it for the name!
We shall see, aiming to get it early may.

Do u plan on buying girly bits now keeptrying? We have gone abit pink mad, but nice feeling knowing we have got pretty much everything now lol.

Xx

 

[kanga86]

I broke down crying to hubby last night and told him about all my anxiety and fears with regards to work, having a new baby, not being good enough at anything ive ever done, how hard I'm finding being a mum to just harry and don't feel a goid enough wife or mum. Dh didn't have much to say back but he did give me cuddles.

I am waiting on a phone call back from the doctors this morning to talk to someone about the headaches I've been getting and to get more anti sickness pills, just hope its a nice enough doctor that I can voice my other fears too xx

 

[keeptrying14]

Kanga I'm pleased u spoke to ur hubby it's good to talk it thro. Do mention it to the doc and let us know what they say. How r u feeling today?
Jem we will start buying stuff now but don't want to go mad coZ u get loads when there born. It's hard tho coz all the shops have the summer dresses in now and they are really cute! Think we will really look at prams when in nearer tri 3. How u all doing today? Xx

 

[jemfox]

Hope ur doing ok today kanga, the same happened with me and my husband, I don't think he fully understand how I felt till the tears came.

I'm feeling quite sicky today and have a headache!

Xx

 

[kanga86]

Im feeling awful today, my head is pounding and my neck and shoulders ache like anything too. Feel sick too Still waiting to talk to a doctor though, they take forever to phone back sometimes.

Sorry your feeling sick too jem, it's just awful.

Keep trying are you working at the mo? xx

 

[keeptrying14]

I feel bad today too in bed watching this morning. I'm part time now kanga just afternoons 1-6 so not to bad and if I'm having a bad day I just don't go in. I'm lucky tho as it's a family business. I uses to work at a bank tho and a lady had hg and she was off all her pregnancy and it didn't affect any of her sick file. Don't think they can do much when it's pregnancy related xxx

 

[kanga86]

Sounds like we are all suffering today

I have a feeling I may be signed off for longer once I talk to a doctor, which sucks because ssp is half my weekly wage. But it's better than nothing I suppose.

Just spoke to doctor luckily a nice one, she wants to see me to check my blood pressure. Can bp be linked to bad headaches? Worried now, appt at 4pm so got to get the courage together to tell her how I'm really feeling xx

 

[kanga86]

So doctor's appointment went quite well. My blood pressure is fine so that's good. She reckons they are tension headaches due to worrying too much about stuff. Been told to talk to my health visitor or midwife, but she reckons its quite normal to feel low after having hg and have fears of having a baby even though it's my second.

I've not been signed off work completely, which dh is happy about, but given two more weeks of phased return. So got to talk to my boss tomorrow and see if she can change the shifts around. I'm a bit nervous, but not wanting to change it drastically. Hoping to work sunday night, then work 2 shifts later in the week, so that there is a break between shifts. But if she won't accommodate the changes I will just go back to the doctor to be signed off completely.

Hope everyone is feeling a bit better now? xx

 

[jemfox]

Hiya kanga, glad u spoke to doctors, it's easier said than done but try to relax and not worry.

Today's hasn't been a good day for me, felt very sicky and beyond knackered, just had a long bath and laid in bed for a hour, no on sofa watching TV. Got sausage casserole for dinner but think I'll just have mash!

Got my appointment tomorrow for whooping cough vaccine then my 28 week appointment on Monday, also booked myself in for ante natal classes, I found some around here that are on nhs.

Anyone else going to these?

Xx

 

[kanga86]

Aww bless you hun I didn't eat any dinner last night as I couldn't face it. Only eat what you fancy otherwise it could make you feel worse. Enjoy your mash though

I'm not going to antenatal classes this time, as they don't offer them to 2nd time mums. But I think I only managed 1 of the 2 classes when pregnant with Harry as we were away on our honeymoon to Cornwall lol don't think I learnt to much really, they only basically talk things through. I learnt more off here I think. xx

 

[keeptrying14]

Good pleased u spoke to her it feels nice getting it off ur chest doesn't it? Hopefully ur boss will be accomodating. Sorry ur poorly jemfox that's one thing I can't eat is mash makes me sooooo sick no idea why! I've had a better afternoon went into work for a bit and taken the dog for a walk. Hope everyone feels ok tomo xxx

 

[keeptrying14]

Hey girls did u see rhea had her baby! 27 weeks 4 days! So pleased for her. How's everyone doing? Xxx

 

[kanga86]

I did see So happy for her and she did amazing lasting til 27+4wks. Her little girl is definitely a fighter and a good weight too. I was born at 32weeks (twins) at 3lbs 1oz, so I'm sure she will do brilliantly.

I'm not as bad today, not feeling 100% but then Harry had us up at 6am this morning rather than his usual 8-8:30am! So rather tired, can't wait for nap time lol Off to see my boss for 11ish and tell her about the shift change and to fill in my risk assessment for working. Dreading it to be honest, but need to be strong.

How are you doing? xx

 

[keeptrying14]

That sounds a nice wake up call poor u I don't know how u deal with a toddler as well! Super mum! I'm sick sick sick today as Soon as I woke up at 8 til now so that was a nice wake up call for me!! I know the odds are Soo good now at 27 weeks. And she is in the best hospital for it. Let me know how it goes with ur boss just keep thinking ur doing it for u and baby xxx