here we go again..

[isobel84]

on and of in this pregnancy i have been really down. I dont mean abit worried or unhappy. For me the whole world falls apart.
Since yesterday morning i have had my phone of (switch it on now and again to see if adele have txt me tho) I dont answer anyone, i just lay under my duvet and cry. I even txt OH said i dont want to be with him anymore
but i cant help it. i just want to pretend none of this is happening.
im on such a low its unreal.
I was ment to go on parent classes today but i couldnt. And i been looking forward to them so much. So now i feel guilty cuz i didnt go.

I want my noa. more then everything. but i cant deal with everything and i dont even know whats wrong..

 

[Annie050408]

Get yourself an appointment at the docs asap hon- having ups and downs is normal to a degree but not to the extent you describe- it sounds like depression and you need to get a docs opinion on it asap for your and Noa's sake.

xx

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

Hugs Hun, like Annie said, make a doctors app! You can get pre natal depression too not just post natal!! Hope your ok x x

 

[frankie707]

ante natal depression exists as well as post natal - sounds like you are really low at the moment - I agree with Annie that you should make an appointment to see docs about this

 

[Cherrycola]

Oh hun I'm so sorry you are feeling like this! You have to remember that your body is under a lot of stress when you are pregnant and your hormones are going crazy so it is probably not unusual to feel very emotionally up and down. Give yourself a while to just hide under the covers and cry if that is what you want to do. But make sure that you talk about how you feel too whether it is to friends or family, your OH, your midwife or just on here. It really does help to talk about anything that is bothering you. Sorry I don't have any better advice but didn't want to read and run.

 

[Mamafy]

Have to agree with the other girls xxx

 

[LucyH]

How are you doing Isobel?? Did you manage to talk to a mw or Dr??? Don't feel guilty, it's all part of pregnancy! But be worth having a chat with someone - they can offer advice & support that's out there!!! Always here if you need a friend!! Life is tough... But don't shut your self away....... Xxx

 

[JJ Mum]

Hope you have seen someone , I got all down after my first baby for ages, really better to nip it in the bud now and then enjoy the after baby bit hun , never be scared to ask for help or support, that's what they are there for X

 

[K&A]

big hugs xx i agree with the girls, get it checked out for yours and noa's sake x

 

[isobel84]

i talked a little with OH but he dont understand, how can he when i dont understand myself. he got so much aswell and i dont wanna put more pressure on him. He said to me i have to be strong and that im crying all the time lately and never goes out to do things. ARGHH IM TIRED!! well it all ended in a little argument instead.
i see how i feel tomorrow maybe i call my gp even tho i dont think highley about them, it feels like they are waste of time they just want the next person in..

 

[frankie707]

Your other option is to speak to your midwife about it.

 

[Yodabo]

Hun Don't feel guilty for feeling the way you do, it does happen to a lot of us. As well as speaking to someone about it I'd try and find a way of expressing your feelings a little bit, Perhaps writing down how you feel every day and what you can do to make things a little better might help?

Your going to be a new mum, away from your family so no doubt it Will all get a bit overwelming from time to time. I wanted you to know that your not alone, We're all here for you.. Every step of the way xx

 

[kellylou]

Aw so sorry u feel like this i agree u should mention it asap all try calling the helline am sure someone like nct will be able to give u a number

 

[MrsR]

I would definately speak to your doctor or midwife. I know it's hard but they're there to help us and they won't judge you x

Antenatal depression is very common but very rarely talked about and can lead to post natal depression x

Don't worry about the parenting classes, I never took any either. Try not to put added pressure on yourself. Each day try to think of one positive thing about yourself and your life right now and take it from there. Start with one thing then find two things etc etc x

Big hugs honey x

 

[amyjayne77]

awww hun i wish there was something i could say to make you feel better xxx

my man also didn't understand when i got depressed in my 2nd pregnancy, he tried but as you said, it's hard when you don't know yourself how to help.

you might have a special mw on your mw's team that deals with this kind of thing..... because of my past anti-natal depression i got a call every so often from the depression mw to check everything was ok xxx hugs xxx

 

[Squeakz]

hey hun!! big hugs your way!! i really do suggest you go to your mw and talk to her. i did, as i suffered with antenatal depression and im seeing a counsellor every couple of weeks jus as a check up and they are gonna be coming out to me every week for 6 weeks when little man is here to check for PND. Don't be embarassed by it or anything, its just one of those things - a part of preganancy that affects some people and others not!! Hope you're ok my dear!!

xx

 

[isobel84]

first i want to say a big thank you to you girls on PF cuz through this pregnancy i have always had such a support here. And im really greeatful i got somewhere to go with all worries and doubts and somewhere to learn. Thanks.
I have made an appointment to the doctor its on friday, im really nervous cuz i feel really guilty.
Me and OH have had it very up and down lately aswell i think its both our faults.
we are both so stressed out about Noa soon being here, we got nowhere really to live and we dont talk just argue. Anyway im going to this weiwing tonight for a 2bed house, cuz of his work he couldnt come he said. But he just now called me up and said he will try his best to be there with me and we both said sorry for all arguments..
I have not told him im going to see GP dont know if i will. I dont think he will understand that its something i cant help. But it feels like maybe we are on the right track (fingers crossed we like the house) and hopefully GP can help me in some way x

 

[bobkat]

hope the house is everything you want it to be and well done for making that appt, it takes great courage to admit there is a problem and then to do something about it

hugs x

 

[adele88]

awwwww isobel just noticed this thread chick i hope your ok and get things sorted. thats good you have an appointment with the doctor hope you get things sorted just need chill out and let things off your chest and when you have any worries tell your oh dont build it all up xx

 

[kellylou]

hope ur feeling a little better xx