Has anyone out there had medical management after a mmc? **UPDATE 02/05/14**

[Bethyboo87]

Just to let you know my heart goes out to you. I miscarried on Friday xx

 

[yummymummy80]

so trying to distract myself from tomorrow as me and hubby have fallen out big time so I go onto facebook and guess what? someone else announcing their pregnant its just not fair

 

[millielaura]

Big hugs to you

I had medical management for mc at 14 weeks as was bleeding but hadn't passed baby. They didn't really offer me any other option but I liked medical management in that it felt more natural, but it was hard having to go through it all. Its a hard decision!
So sorry for your loss again xxxx

 

[millielaura]

I think it was somewhat of a relief for me afterwards although devastating as it felt awful knowing baby didnt have a heartbeat but was still there inside me and you do pray for a miracle somehow, after i had the medical management for it i could accept it more as horrible as it was? Hope tomorrow goes okay xxx

 

[Dotty_woman]

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. I had a mmc and my baby stopped growin at about 6 weeks although it was almost 9 weeks when I had some bleeding. I chose the medical management option and think it was the best option for me. At my hospital there was no pessary. I just had 2 lots of 2 tablets that dissolve under the tongue. Although it wasn't pleasant and there was a lot of bleeding to say I was only early on, I was able to find the sac in the tissue that came away and this haver closure. I buried it in a little box in the garden and finally felt like it was all over, which although it was very sad, meant I was able to think about trying again. This was September 2012. We started ttc again in November 2012 and I am happy to say we now have a beautiful daughter who is 5 months old. I hope this gives you some hope that you can move on. Thinking of you for tomorrow. xxx

 

[yummymummy80]

Hi dotty,

so did you conceive again straight away in the nov?

 

[yummymummy80]

well im really freaking out now its only 4 hours away how did anyone that was told they had to have surgical or medical how did you cope on the day? how did you get through it?

 

[Emmajaine]

Thinking of you hon, big xx

 

[millielaura]

Thinking of you! I just sort of got through it cause I had to, you do just sort of cope but its still not nice! Then went home and moped for a few days and it really helped so just take whatever time you need after to be upset as it helps to let it all out!
Also I dont think its always really bad pain wise. At 14 weeks I had like a mini labour with waters going contractions etc and it was real painful but i got through it will only paracetemol. Nothing like some of the stories id read on google, i was expecting it to be agony but really it was okay! So dont worry too much about the pain side of it!
Also the staff were all really caring and that helped! Xxx

 

[yummymummy80]

hi millie what were you like on the day you had to go through with the medical management? how did you feel about it

 

[Clementine]

Sending you hugs for today, you will get through this, they won't make you do anything you don't want to so try not to over worry yourself before hand. It is heartbreaking, lean on your hubby, ask all the questions you are worried about, the staff are there to support you.
I practice Mindfulness for relaxation so when I felt myself getting really stressed I repeated in my head "Keep me safe and free from suffering, keep me as happy and healthy as I can be, grant me ease of mind and being". Exhale your breath and shake out your hands to try and release the anxiety.
What you are feeling is normal, it is grief, when your thoughts overwhelm you acknowledge them but then try to focus your thoughts on getting you through this. Take care for today xx

 

[Becky1]

Hope all goes well for you today. When I had my surgery I had to be at the hospital for 7am so didn't have time to think too much. There were 3 other ladies on the ward and whilst it wasn't like we chatted it made me feel far less alone.

I found coming home the hardest part, that was when reality hit. Our closest couple friends went through the same thing so I spent a lot of time with them. Also I was fortunate that hubby and I were able to book a holiday about 6 weeks following the mmc. It really helped to give me something else to focus on and look forward too. xx

 

[millielaura]

I felt quite negative about it as it did feel a bit as if i was aborting a baby, i think even though you know theres no longer a heartbeat and baby has passed, just the fact your bringing the process on makes you feel like that. Even though its far from what we do in this situation and is needed for our own health as risk of infection etc.
I felt quite glad i hadnt had surgical as 1. I hate needles and being put to sleep and 2. Im really squemish and didnt like the thought of it and prefered it to be somewhat natural. They didnt really offer me it as such but i would of chose medical like i did anyway! Was hard seeing baby but am glad i did now

Good luck and big hugs to you xxxxxx

 

[yummymummy80]

that's exactly how I feel millie and I know the baby has passed and I need to do this so we can try again and so theres no infection but it doesn't make it any easier

 

[millielaura]

I know huge hugs hun. When do you go in? I did feel a lot better a few days later, i think the dread of having to pass baby makes the mc so much harder to deal with doesnt it!
Also dont feel you have to jump straight into trying again if you dont feel up for it, take as much time out as you need. Although ive heard you are more fertile after!

You will feel better than you do now in the future i promise Xx

 

[yummymummy80]

its 2pm today millie but yeah your right its the thought of all this that makes it so much harder we want to try again straight away as I want to be pregnant again very soon

 

[millielaura]

Fx you get your super sticky bean straight away
Have you decided on medical management? Xx

 

[yummymummy80]

yeah that's what im going into hospital today for but im dreading it

 

[millielaura]

Big hugs i hope it all goes okay. Is OH coming with you xx

 

[yummymummy80]

hi millie yeah hubbys going with me hes finishing early and meeting me there so he doesn't need to go back to work