xxsammyxx
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I had to give to my little girl a week ago at 24 weeks, her funeral was last Friday. Mentally, I don't feel ready to go back to work. On the outside i'm trying to put on a brave face but I feel so cheated at her being taken away.
My dad died 10 weeks ago as well and the pressure of all the losses is making my head spin. I am still having some pains, I suppose its my body trying to return back to normal and the blood loss has not stopped yet.
My work are very supportive and have been great throughout this but now i'm faced with a problem. I received a letter from the Government saying I qualified for maternity leave now (16 weeks here in Holland) as she was classed as a stillbirth and not a miscarriage. I don't think work are aware of this and are expecting me back in a week or so or something.
My colleagues are emailing me to say that they hope to see me at the beginning of February (I dont know if they are fishing to find out when i'm coming back or they all think I will be well enough to be back by then?)
OH thinks I shouldn't take the p*ss but should take another week off but I already feel cheated out of not having my baby. I have gone through child birth and all the pain, lost my little girl and now I think I deserve to at least take some time out... I have given birth like anyone else, the only difference is I don't have my baby anymore, I feel I deserve maternity leave considering the circumstances. We would like to try for IVF again as soon as we are ready and of course there are a lot of appointments, this would give me time to be able to relax and try again for a baby (not that ANYTHING will replace my little girl) as i'm 38 now and not got an awful lot of time left.
My question is... what are your thoughts? Do you think I should return back to work? Should I take the entitlement I am being offered? Is there anyone that has been in the same position and taken maternity leave?
My dad died 10 weeks ago as well and the pressure of all the losses is making my head spin. I am still having some pains, I suppose its my body trying to return back to normal and the blood loss has not stopped yet.
My work are very supportive and have been great throughout this but now i'm faced with a problem. I received a letter from the Government saying I qualified for maternity leave now (16 weeks here in Holland) as she was classed as a stillbirth and not a miscarriage. I don't think work are aware of this and are expecting me back in a week or so or something.
My colleagues are emailing me to say that they hope to see me at the beginning of February (I dont know if they are fishing to find out when i'm coming back or they all think I will be well enough to be back by then?)
OH thinks I shouldn't take the p*ss but should take another week off but I already feel cheated out of not having my baby. I have gone through child birth and all the pain, lost my little girl and now I think I deserve to at least take some time out... I have given birth like anyone else, the only difference is I don't have my baby anymore, I feel I deserve maternity leave considering the circumstances. We would like to try for IVF again as soon as we are ready and of course there are a lot of appointments, this would give me time to be able to relax and try again for a baby (not that ANYTHING will replace my little girl) as i'm 38 now and not got an awful lot of time left.
My question is... what are your thoughts? Do you think I should return back to work? Should I take the entitlement I am being offered? Is there anyone that has been in the same position and taken maternity leave?