Hi Blueflower,
I hope the IUI goes well. It's the next stage for me now too and it is really scary to move through so many phases of hope followed by disappointment. I know it's important to stay positive, and to some extent essential if one is to keep depression at bay- but it's so incredibly frustrating to have people who don't really understand say 'just relax' 'it will happen when you're not thinking about it' 'you just have to stay positive' etc. Somehow these comments can feel a little punitive at times- as if you are causing the infertility by not doing these things (of course this isn't true but at sensitive low points they hit me in this way). I think there also needs to be space for being allowed to feel sad at times, before we have to dust ourselves off and rejoin an incredibly long and tough journey.
Wishing you lots of luck with the next stage. xx