Hi all,
Had a bit of a scare after reduced movements and I'm finding talking to my OH a bit hard. He's generally trying to be positive and upbeat about the whole situation which I love but then he told me I was being negative by dwelling on the realistic connotations of 34 week delivery date (ie. Hospital and NICU stay). Namely I did not appreciate him joking not once but twice about booking a night out at the end of May for a football booze up.
I'm all up for positivity but I don't class being realistic as a bad thing! I'd rather be pleasantly surprised than sideswiped by anything after how helpless I felt on diagnosis of our problems. Since then I've done research , chatted in here and joined a couple of support groups. I've shared info with him and he's found great comfort in the positive stories. When I've asked if he will be doing his own research he's saying "I'll deal with it when it happens". Again, I saw how helpless he felt and dried the tears we shared last week so I'm struggling to get my head around this mentality and it's making me feel alone when I already feel so stressed and pressured about being the only person who can pick up on reduced movements. Being called negative has made me want to scream at him!
This has turned in to way more of a vent than intended - which is great for me and thanks for reading! I'm desperate for any ideas on a new approach to talk to him though would be great. I really dont want us to be arguing at a time like this and I feel me screaming obscenities about being an unfeeling ***** would not help the situation right now! And I know it's probably bravado.
Any other high-risk mums been through similar/ had more success than me?
Had a bit of a scare after reduced movements and I'm finding talking to my OH a bit hard. He's generally trying to be positive and upbeat about the whole situation which I love but then he told me I was being negative by dwelling on the realistic connotations of 34 week delivery date (ie. Hospital and NICU stay). Namely I did not appreciate him joking not once but twice about booking a night out at the end of May for a football booze up.
I'm all up for positivity but I don't class being realistic as a bad thing! I'd rather be pleasantly surprised than sideswiped by anything after how helpless I felt on diagnosis of our problems. Since then I've done research , chatted in here and joined a couple of support groups. I've shared info with him and he's found great comfort in the positive stories. When I've asked if he will be doing his own research he's saying "I'll deal with it when it happens". Again, I saw how helpless he felt and dried the tears we shared last week so I'm struggling to get my head around this mentality and it's making me feel alone when I already feel so stressed and pressured about being the only person who can pick up on reduced movements. Being called negative has made me want to scream at him!
This has turned in to way more of a vent than intended - which is great for me and thanks for reading! I'm desperate for any ideas on a new approach to talk to him though would be great. I really dont want us to be arguing at a time like this and I feel me screaming obscenities about being an unfeeling ***** would not help the situation right now! And I know it's probably bravado.
Any other high-risk mums been through similar/ had more success than me?