Gender scan Monday - just thrown up!!!

[cosmicgirl]

Thats good of them to make sure no one asks X

It helped x

 

[Gayle30]

How are you today cos? Xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I'm doing overtime at work today which is really busy so I've really felt like I havent thought about it today, which has been nice. I feel better emotionally and able to cope. I am still looking forward to the day when I can feel happy about it, that may take more time I think xx

 

[kedi376]

Just popping in to say hi! It will take time hun until you are at peace with the way nature has dealt your cards. Don't rush yourself, take each day as it comes.

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[Gayle30]

You sound to me like your moving in the right direction to. You do have plenty time so don't put pressure on yourself. Your a strong lady, I can see that. Xx

 

[Princess81]

Step by step cos wonderful that you are already starting to feel more positive hun. Hopefully each day will be a little brighter from now on xx

 

[LucyB.]

I just fail to have sympathy in this situation, sorry. Your baby is healthy?! That's surely more important than whether it's a boy or girl. Sorry to be harsh, just my opinion x

 

[Amyrose]

Yes her baby is healthy and he will be a very loved little boy. That's not what this is about an if you knew cosmic you would know what an amazing mum she is. GD is very real and many mums struggle to cope with it and already feel very ashamed for feeling the way they do. Comic is doing everything in her power to deal with this and make sure it doesn't have an impact on her little boy I dont think negative comments are going to help the situation. Many of us will never understand what it feels like but it should not stop us having compassion for those who are in this situation.

 

[netty]

I just fail to have sympathy in this situation, sorry. Your baby is healthy?! That's surely more important than whether it's a boy or girl. Sorry to be harsh, just my opinion x

Maybe if you read the last 13 pages it will become a little clearer, gd is a real thing and a difficult time for people.

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[Sassysugar]

Cosmic you are such a strong and wonderful woman. I think it has taken great strength for you to talk about GD as there will be many people out here reading this that are also suffering and will show that they are not alone but that they can get through this, just like you

I know we may not all understand what you are going through but I would never judge you for it and it's unfortunate that not everyone can be sympathetic. I for one am glad you have been able to talk about this as it shows you how most people are here to support you and help you through this difficult time.

I am so glad each day, you seem a little happier hun x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks girls.
I'm not so naive that I don't expect judgement, it's human nature for some to judge situations they don't understand or have never experienced.
No hard feelings to anyone who thinks I'm a selfish bitch who should "get over it", god knows I punish myself for these feelings enough. I completely understand why people would comment harshly and that's cool, it's understandable and tbh has little effect on me or my feelings. If my feelings upset others then that's their problem.
I'm not going to hide the way I feel, as uncomfortable and taboo as it may be (please believe me, I have tormented MYSELF harshly over this).
I can't help the way I feel, that's that. I would cut off a limb to feel "normal" and not feel this way but I can't help it.
Your support has as ever been a real help to me
Lots of love xxxx

 

[Hope81]

 

[Jayjay027]

As much as I don't fully understand GD, I do think u r extremely brave to talk so openly about ur feelings. As others have said, ur bringing attention to a subject that a lot of mums would be terrified to mention. If more people were as honest as u, maybe this wouldn't be such a taboo subject!

And to reiterate what's already been said, ur dealing with it in the correct way, and we're all so glad ur getting the help to see this through.

And of course, I'm sure coming here can be seen as 'therapy' in a way because u can vent and get support, and we're only to happy to help xx

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[cosmicgirl]

Thanks hope x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks Jayjay, talking (writing) about it really does help. I don't think that bottling things up or pretending everything is ok when it's not helps anyone. I believe that leads to bigger trouble down the line.
I hope that this thread will help others in my position, I hope it will give them the courage to speak openly about their feelings and seek help as needed.
The important take home message about GD, and possibly what is so difficult to understand is that the love I have for my children is not and never has been in question. It's the sheer disappointment and heartache for what I haven't got. It's not that I don't know how lucky I am, it's not that I don't want and love my children, it's the heartache of not achieving my dream and that dream slipping away. Everyone has a dream, I'm not ready to give up on my dream yet xx

 

[Emily0505]

I think you should be incredibly proud of yourself for having the courage to speak out about a subject that many people may be too ashamed/ worried to draw too much attention too. I know that there are many people who wouldn't understand at all where you are coming from and will simply think 'baby is healthy so what is the problem?' You openess and honesty will hopefully help to educate/ inform those who don't understand or are unaware of gender disappointment and more importatly hopefully help those who have the misery of experiencing it to speak out and get the support that they need.

XX

 

[FirstBabyEek]

I just fail to have sympathy in this situation, sorry. Your baby is healthy?! That's surely more important than whether it's a boy or girl. Sorry to be harsh, just my opinion x

I fail to see why you would post this?! I can only imagine that you've not read the previous 19 pages. As abstract as it sounds Cos's feelings are not related the the child she is carrying, they relate to the child she is not - big difference.

I would have thought (hoped) with everything else that has gone on recently in this forum we'd all moved past comments like this.

 

[FirstBabyEek]

And of course, I'm sure coming here can be seen as 'therapy' in a way because u can vent and get support, and we're only to happy to help xx

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well said! Xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thank you so much Emily and firstbaby, that means a lot xxx

 

[Simoneh00]

I just fail to have sympathy in this situation, sorry. Your baby is healthy?! That's surely more important than whether it's a boy or girl. Sorry to be harsh, just my opinion x

Instead of negative comments maybe just refrain from commenting? This is a thread where Cos can share how she's feeling and where we can offer support. Whether you understand or not. If you disagree and think she should 'just be grateful' then tell your partner or someone else. Im sure Cos has enough on her plate atm!!



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