Gender scan Monday - just thrown up!!!

[twinkles]

Thanks jules, that's a lovely thing to say. I can understand if I'm judged for my disappointment, not many understand the heartache of gender disappointment x

Hun I hope you dont feel I'm judging you, I didn't want to come across harsh, I completely understand where your coming from, my friend had her 5th boy a few months ago and she also felt disappointment but now he's here she couldn't imagine him not being here. I just wanted to highlight what you do have, of course your going to want a girl, that's normal and life can be cruel, another friend give birth to a still born baby a few weeks ago and I know that doesn't make things any easier but you have something so so precious, you must be a very special person to have a 5th child, which will hopefully mean 5 daughter in laws and then grand daughters, ur little girl will come one day xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I don't think you are harsh hun, what you are saying is quite right, of course it is.
I'm expecting people to say much harsher things than that x

 

[twinkles]

Hugs xxx

 

[Kayelle]

I am sorry you are so sad , and hope you come to love your boy soon as I know you will. Hope nobody jumps on me, cos I'm just saying but please never let your boys know you didn't want them, makes me sad, but I am about to give birth to my boy so obv I'm gonna feel a certain way.
On the other hand, I sort of understand as my mil has 5 boys, she always wanted 5 but we have become very close , I'm down there all the time chatting away! Been told I'm like the daughter she never had

 

[marley]

Sorry you didn't get the result you wanted I can't even imagine how your feeling right now Hun.

Xx


Apologies for any typos!

 

[Binzy]

Bless you, sorry you feel so sad about missing out on a little girl.

 

[EmmaN27]

I reckon you will have lots of granddaughters that will make up for you not having a daughter and you will spoil them loads! I don't think anyone will be harsh with you, it's understandable that you are disappointed and you need time to come to terms with it. Sending you lots of x

 

[Emily0505]

I am sorry you are so sad , and hope you come to love your boy soon as I know you will. Hope nobody jumps on me, cos I'm just saying but please never let your boys know you didn't want them, makes me sad, but I am about to give birth to my boy so obv I'm gonna feel a certain way.
On the other hand, I sort of understand as my mil has 5 boys, she always wanted 5 but we have become very close , I'm down there all the time chatting away! Been told I'm like the daughter she never had

I don't think it's a case of not wanting little boys but the case of wanting to have a girl- I don't think this is going to make any sense! Lol! I think it was put realy well earlier that, it's not about being disappinted with what you got but being disappointed with what you haven't got- does that make any more sense?

I was really hoping for a little girl and I too was disappointed to find out I was having a boy. Luckily for me the disappointment only lasted the afternoon and by the next morning I couldn't hve cared less if it was pink, blue or green with spots on as longs as it's a healthy little baby However, if you have a preference for a certain gender, I think it's only natural to feel disappointed, especially if you were not planning/able to have any further children. It doesn't have to mean that you love the baby any less/don't want it because of its gender.

Pregnancy is such an emotional rollercoater as it is and heightened emotions will mean that you get affected by things differently, so as we all do on this forum, we should all be as supportive as we can and even if we don't like agree with what someone has said, respect the fact that that is their thoughts, feelings, or opinion.

Sorry for waffling but just want to make it clear (as it is getting on for my bed time so I may be making little sense and not wording things well) I am not jumping on anyone for anything they have said, just expressing my opinion in what I hope is a respectful way

XX

 

[Spinneygirl]

So sorry hunni, sending you oodles of big hugs xxx

 

[Sarah7]

I'm so sorry you didn't get the little girl you hoped for, I can't imagine the disappointment you must feel in being forced to let go of that dream.
I hope you take the time you need and feel ok about it all soon. And to echo what others said you'll be swamped with wonderful daughter in laws and granddaughters one day, which while will never be the same will hopefully bring you lots of joy.
Take care
xx

 

[FirstBabyEek]

So sorry Cos, no body would judge you, I can completely understand why you feel this way. I only hope that the feeling pass soon.

I had a friend a few weeks ago who already had three girls and desperately wanted a son, she was told on two separate scans that it was a boy and they were delighted only to find out at the birth that it was infact baby girl no.4, they felt the loss of their much wanted little boy but much like you they love their girls so very much and that will never change.

Massive hugs xxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks everyone.
Can't believe it's 3am and I'm still blubbering. Who knew a human could make so many tears???
I hope this feeling eases, it's a lot easier when you know you can try again.
I know it's quite a controversial subject and accept that people will say "as long as its healthy" and "some people can't have any", Ive gotten used to that over the years. As much as those people are right, that's not in question, it doesn't stop me grieving for this little girl that doesn't exist.
It's very difficult for many to understand and I appreciate that but your support has been amazing so thank you all x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Still awake, so so tired but can't sleep at all.
My eyes are sore, I have a banging headache, my stomach is aching and I have to be up in 3 hours for work.
Tomorrow will be hard x

 

[deedee84]

Ahh Cos i have just caught up, really sorry you havent been blessed with a pink bundle but at least your little man is healthy! I can totally understand your disappointment! With already having DD and with this being our last child i did want a boy so i would have one of each, i was convinced it was a boy and even referred to the baby as a he in my journal, it was a massive shock to be told we were having another girl, tbh i was down about it but never let on to OH etc, over time i have come around to the idea and in fact wouldnt have it any other way now xxx

 

[lanny]

Just popped back to look for your tread as I was sure you would be due your scan around now, so sorry it wasnt the news you wanted I
So wanted it to be a little girl for you too I know what it's like to dream of a girl your whole life . My gran had 9 boys before a girl that scared the life out of me I guess some people do seem to be more prone to one sex, so sorry xxxx

 

[TaffyRose]

sorry to hear this cos. Sending a big hug xxx

 

[ams25]

Oh Cosmic I'm really sorry hun! I know you will love your little man lots, that goes without saying... however I can also imagine the disappointment and know exactly what you mean about wanting the same relationship you had with your own mum. I want a little girl for the same reasons - not necessarily with this baby but definitely at some point, and I would be really sad if it didn't happen.

I really hope you get lots of lovely daughters-in-law and granddaughters in the future and have a similar sort of relationship with them. My mother-in-law has 2 boys and she is incredibly close to OH's brother's girlfriend as she lives with them... Whereas I am really close to OH's nanna who has also been like another mum to me and I go to see her all the time. I know its not a consolation now but hopefully something to look forward to in the future xxx

 

[Simoneh00]

I have to be really honest and say I don't understand gender disappointment. It's just not something I can imagine but now I see from how much it's affecting you that it's very real and it's not about regretting your new little boy at all. So thank you, because I may have been more judgmental if i hadn't heard your story. I hope in time it gets easier for you and that you can have loads of granddaughters and daughter inlaws xx

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[cosmicgirl]

Thank you simone, that's very honest of you.
Maybe this thread will help others?
GD comes with a great deal of guilt, it's a bit of a taboo subject.
You want to feel like everyone else and be happy, it's very hard. That coupled with hormones, not good x

 

[ScotchEgg]

Cos I just saw this. I'm gutted for you. You did everything in your power to make a girl, you couldn't have done anything more. life can be so cruel sometimes. Sending you all my love xxx