Gender scan Monday - just thrown up!!!

[charliebear]

So sorry you didnt get the pink bundle you dreamed of.
Give yourself some time. Hope all was well with the scan. x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks Charlie x

 

[jules84]

I;m not a fan of the label "gender disappointment" personally. But I totally understand behind that. Its like saying your disappointed in what youve got, but actually your disappointed in what you havent got.

I also think people may judge when someone has gender disappointment with baby number 1 , unless they cant have any more etc.

But on your 5th baby I think you've every right to have a preference.

Big hugs xxx

 

[NinjaKitty]

I'm sorry you didn't get your pink bundle, I know how much it meant to you. However, I'm happy that you have a healthy little bean that'll only have eyes for his Mammy when he gets here

 

[Poppy1987]

Sorry you didn't get your girl hope your feel ok about it soon x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks girls, you're right jules, I'm very disappointed for what I haven't got.
I really thought that if I tried one more time I was bound to get my little girl, I feel so stupid now x

 

[Samsgirl]

Oh hon I'm sorry it wasn't what you wanted to hear but that little baby boy will be just amazing and will love his mummy xx

 

[CARNAT22]

I don't judge you cosmic girl, just because I am lucky enough to be 100% happy either way doesn't mean everyone feels the same.

I spoke to my OH's Mum about this situation very recently (she had 5 boys before having her one and only girl...) and she confessed she'd have stopped at 2 or 3 if she'd had a girl...

It's not that she doesn't love all of her boys but that is her truth!

She is careful not to say this in earshot of my OH who was baby number 4

I hope in time you can start to feel OK with this hun

xxxxxxxxxx

 

[charlene09]

Sorry it wasn't what you wanted, I know how it feels for gender disappointment as I was exactly the same when it happened to me, I went for my emergency scan today and asked them to double check for me and she still said it was a boy, my heart sank once again!!

I won't be trying again for my little girl I don't think as it's not really worth having another baby and being disappointed in gender again when I already have 2 boys because it would be a baby I really didn't need ( I don't mean that nasty) it's annoying seeing people have all girls isn't it??

you'll get used to the idea though, just think you have a healthy little bean, girl or boy he is healthy which is the main thing x

 

[Sunbeam638]

Awww hun you have your own little rugby team going on now. I'm sorry I know how much you wanted a pink bundle. I hope after a good cry you feel better.

Lots of hugs xxxx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks carnat, I feel the same. I didn't want 5 children, I wanted a little girl.
I'd have stopped at 2 too.
I love my children more than life itself but I have dreamt of this little girl that doesn't exist since I was a teen, now I know she'll never exist, it breaks my heart.
I wanted a daughter so I could have the relationship like I have with my mum, I'll never have that. To go shopping, to share pregnancy and relationship advice, even just to brush her hair.
Boys have a different relationship with their mums, I wanted someone for me x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks Charlene and sunbeam x

 

[EssJayPea]

Oh babe I'm breaking my heart for you reading that. Sending you love and hugs xxx

 

[kaz1983]

awwwww mahoosive hugs for you Cos sorry you didnt get the pink bundle you were so hoping for. I dont think anyone will judge you for being disappointed because it is what you dreamt of and you had every right to have that dream and to try for your little girl. if I was in your position I think I would feel the same.

Just think of all the princesses that will come into your life dating your boys xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks girls
I hope I'll feel ok in time x

 

[CARNAT22]

Thanks carnat, I feel the same. I didn't want 5 children, I wanted a little girl.
I'd have stopped at 2 too.
I love my children more than life itself but I have dreamt of this little girl that doesn't exist since I was a teen, now I know she'll never exist, it breaks my heart.
I wanted a daughter so I could have the relationship like I have with my mum, I'll never have that. To go shopping, to share pregnancy and relationship advice, even just to brush her hair.
Boys have a different relationship with their mums, I wanted someone for me x

It may not be any consulation now hun, but OH's Mum adores all of her son's GF's.. She especially has a very close relationship with two of them (the mother's of her grandchildren!).

I know it's not the same but M-I-L does have the female relationships she longed for just in a different way.

(OH's sister moved away when she was 18 LOL, so ironically it was only the boys left at home anyway )

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks carnat, I just have to accept that the plan I had for my life is not going to be that way x

 

[mrz85]

sorry hun :/ hugs x

 

[cosmicgirl]

Thanks mrz x

 

[charlene09]

Thanks carnat, I feel the same. I didn't want 5 children, I wanted a little girl.
I'd have stopped at 2 too.
I love my children more than life itself but I have dreamt of this little girl that doesn't exist since I was a teen, now I know she'll never exist, it breaks my heart.
I wanted a daughter so I could have the relationship like I have with my mum, I'll never have that. To go shopping, to share pregnancy and relationship advice, even just to brush her hair.
Boys have a different relationship with their mums, I wanted someone for me x

It may not be any consulation now hun, but OH's Mum adores all of her son's GF's.. She especially has a very close relationship with two of them (the mother's of her grandchildren!).

I know it's not the same but M-I-L does have the female relationships she longed for just in a different way.

(OH's sister moved away when she was 18 LOL, so ironically it was only the boys left at home anyway )

Boys are mummys boys though, girls want out early as they want independance!! so another good thing about having a boy Cos they'll never ever let go of your aapron strings, I'm looking forward to being lumbered with 2 boys when they are about 30!!