Finding contentment in the situation

[NickNack]

Hello Ladies

Just wanted to vent a little.

Ive had 2 months of not really caring about the whole TTC and trying to focus on other things to stop my mind from focusing solely on this while baby thing, but then i went to a wedding and in one of the speeches the best man was going on about what was next for the couple and everyone shouted "A baby" the thought of yet another person having a baby before me has sent me back into a bad place" (its wierd what can through you over the edge)

I dont know how to get in a good place with it all, i dont know how to relax about it all. Weve been trying for almost 3 years and its all i think about. It makes me so unhappy and when i dont have things going on which distract me it makes me feel very sad!

Its got to the point where i dont actually expect to fall pregnant naturally and i have no hope in IVF working either (due to start in sept)

I hear all these stories of women who just relaxed and it happened but i just dont understand and i feel so frustrated that the body works in that way! Its not fair!!

I just want my baby!! I dont know how to let it go, i dont know how to focus on anything else as its all i think about. Im making all my decisions for the future based on me having this blessing which doesnt seem to come!!

I need to find some contentment in this situation but i dont know how!!

Sorry for ranting on this beautiful sunday morning! but its all just getting to me now.

xx

 

[Anne1983]

Im feeling exactly the same today ( must be something in the air!

 

[itisbabytime]

Sorry your feeling like this. There's no reason the ivf won't work but I know how hard it is to be positive after ttcing for so long. My MIL thinks a holiday in the sun will fix our problems.

 

[Twinklets]

Don't give up hope I felt the same there is hope though. We went through 8 years of fertility problems. 6 years properly ttc and had two cycles of ivf/icsi in the end. The first failed the second gave me my twin boys after a 5 day transfer of two perfect blasts. I'm now pregnant with a miracle baby, a baby doctors told us we would never conceive without medical help. What I'm trying to say is stay positive and always believe it will happen

 

[LouiseB]

You just need accept the situation for what it is and realise that one day either you will have your baby or you will care less about the fact that you don't have a baby.

Honestly. The more that you endure, the more the desperation is replaced with contentment.

You might not feel like that yet, but trusting that it will come is the first step to getting there.

Also, you need to realise that other people ticking one box before you does not mean that you will never tick that box yourself. Try to be happy for others and that way you will get to savor just a little bit of reflected parenthood.

I'm going to see my cousins baby tomorrow, she's just a couple of days old, and i truly feel that holding someone elses baby is the next best thing to holding my own and far superior to not holding one at all xx

 

[blondy13]

I have been more relaxed recently, and I think the reason is that I have accepted that we need help to conceive, and that it isn't going to be straight forward. Everytime I feel down/think negative thoughts about our struggle, I remember what an amazing husband I have, and how wonderful it is just the 2 of us. Although my longing for a baby is not going to go away, I am so lucky to have found such a wonderful person - some people never meet their soul mate.
Sorry if that's a bit slushy but it has helped me over the past few weeks.
Also if you can try to think positively about the IVF - it has every chance of working sweetie xxx

 

[NickNack]

ladies thank you all so much.

I've had a nice day out in the sun and have come back in feeling a bit better.

Don't get me wrong I am very happy for all the people around me having babies. Me and Hubby have 11 Godchildren between us so have a lot of love to go round!! Lol

I just go through days where I think when it happens it will happen and feel really chilled and then the smallest thing will happen and I'll become this miserable wreck and its all I can think about.

Thanks for your supportive words.

Xx

 

[nicky1987]

Hey hun,

I had an uspet moment earlier! Just before we started ttc i was given the most beautiful photo album. I couldnt decide what photos to put in it so OH suggested that we save it for when we have our first baby. Such a good idea

So we put it away! I found this photo album this morning and it brought all the negatice feelings back. Wondering if i would ever actually be able to put anything in the album.

Just carry on with the relacing - easier said than done i know but its what is best!! I struggle with it to tho

You can and will get your little dream. Chin up hun

xxx