I know how you feel but you are doing what you believe to be best (it is most natural, and a baby brought up in such way is proven to be a much happier and quieter baby).
I too am of the same opinions, I breast feed exclusively and will do as long as I feel necessary, I pick him up as soon as he stirs (he has learnt that he doesn't actually have to cry to get what he needs so he rarely does), I co slept with him until 6 weeks and he now very happily sleeps in his bed next to me. In fact he sleeps far better than I do, and will happily sleep until I get him up in the morning. If he wants feeding he just makes subtle little noises to wake me up rather than crying.
My family however believe it's good to let them cry, and my mum keeps telling me to put him upstairs on his own if he cries, despite me telling her in his first few few weeks that's he was crying because he was hungry (we were out shopping) she insisted I should ignore him! I was horrified and went to find somewhere to nurse.
My sisters also believe I'm spoiling him because I tend to his needs...
There opinions seem so unnatural and unfair to me. I really can't understand it. My MIL only breastfed her first for 2 weeks and second not at all. My friend stopped breastfeeding at 6 weeks, I don't judge them or try to give people advise, I believe we all do what we belive to be best, but what I don't understand is why people seem to judge or disagree with us even though what we are doing clearly works for us and is the way nature intended.
I try to just ignore people. I did try to talk sense into my family especially as they will be his baby sitters when he's older so I need to stress my options to them, but anyone else I just ignore and leave them to it.
However the people telling me to let them cry it out and who didn't breast feed etc were the same people who were telling me how hard it would be when the baby arrives, telling me how much help I would need, how much sleep I wouldn't get and how exhausted I would be etc. When he arrived I quickly realised it wasn't half as difficult as I expected, maybe I am lucky but I have found the hole thing so easy and natural, I havnt needed any help at all and I sleep miles better than I did whilst I was pregnant. The house still gets sorted, I eat well, exercise, see to my horse and care for a family member. My baby has never left my side and I have the same energy as I did pre pregnany. I also have a very supportive husband so that helps a lot too.
I think such people either had difficult babies or just found having a baby to be too big of a change and didn't cope quite so well, so they did what they could or what they were told by their parents etc. Others believe leaving them makes them more independent.
I just do things my own way, I listen to others opinions but everybody differs greatly and I don't think there is any right or wrong when it comes to raising babies as long as we do our best