~February & March Mummies and Babies~

[Drummers_wife]

My hubby just went back to work today and I'm gutted! I've decided to face facts that I think I'm suffering from post natal depression. I'm waiting to be registered at a new gp so will wait until then to go and chat to them about it. Hopefully by then I will have a better grasp on whether it's just baby blues or not x

Big hugs hun xx
Dont feel like your alone you can talk to us about anything xx pm me if you want hun I've been helping my best mate with severe PND since last march an shes on the mend with right meds xx


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[Msclaireypants]

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[babybee]

Msclaireypants, my cousin suffered from this with her first child. She's just had her second and has decided she's going to make things easier - using formula, night nurse once a week, her mum is staying with them etc etc. She said that by doing this it gave her more free time and rest and she feels so much better because of it!

The most important thing though is to acknowledge that you think it's a possibility and talk to the GP which is what you're doing so you're already doing really well.

Us ladies are always here if you want to vent/moan/say random things/show things off - anything!

Big big hugs lovey.xxx

 

[clairebear22]

2 hours of OH's first day at work left and i've managed to eat lunch, make 2 cups of tea and drink them hot (well chuffed with that lol) and put a wash load on!! Haven't hung it out to dry yet though lol. Jack's over his virus finally so is his easy happy chappy self making it easier to deal with Sir Shout-a-lot!! lol x

 

[Sassyjane]

Scan went well and little mans hips have been given the all clear!
Basically it's like having an ultrasound but on their hips, they undid his nappy and scanned each side, took about 5 mins in total! They check to make sure everything is in the right place and looks ok!

We have been and done some shopping and are now heading home, my boobs feel like they are gonna explode I need to express!!! Plus he is stirring for a feed, waiting on daddy as per!!!

Little man has a massive scratch on his face and we don't know where from but I wanna cry as it looks awful, I just hope it's not me that's caught him or anything and not realised! Poor wee man!

Hope your all ok, I'll catch up better when I get abit of me time later! Xx

 

[diane]

Ladies I'm so bloody down right now. I do everything for skyler yet she just won't settle with me. She will only settle for Paul. It's really upsetting me and sometimes I even think I don't have a bond with her which is ridiculous cos I worry about her and melt when she smiles/coos etc. I think this is all cos of the fucking mess up at birth and I feel so cheated!!!! I just wanted to bf, to have skin to skin and everything was taken away from me and Paul cared for her solely for at least the first 5 days of her life and I'm thinking is that why she's all over him and not me?

Just feel so down right now.

 

[Msclaireypants]

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[Maddiie]

Aww Diane sensing hugs things will get better! Bonding takes time i really struggled initially with Alfie. Paul bonded with him so much better. I mean SO much better I felt inadequate because of how amazing he was with him. You will have a bond there its hard to see when you feel like this you carried her and that makes an amazing bond! It's horrible when you feel like there's nothing there. Honestly it takes time Alfie never used to settle for me, but km sure he could sense how upset and stressed I was. Now he has his eyesight and has gotten to know me he misses me, settle for me better than anyone and watches me as I move around it comes with time honey I promise xxxxx

 

[Msclaireypants]

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[Maddiie]

Oh and also babies can kick off for their mummies because they can smell their milk. Alfie gave me hell in hospital but settled for a midwife straight away. I was heartbroken but he could smell my milk she also told me not to let him sleep too close to my bed. Xx

 

[Vickyxx]

Sassy glad little mans scan went well it must be a relief.

Claireypants hope your doing ok sweets and it is just the dreaded baby blues making you feel that way, i have also been suffering with my emotions to. I find being around family and friends helps and also something simple like a relaxing shower works wonders for me.

Sorry your feeling down diane its such an emotional rollercoaster at times hopefully you will feel better tomorrow, i find i can be on a high one moment and then emotional mess the next ... But it will pass and soon we will be wondering when did our babies get so big xx

 

[diane]

Thanks ladies xxx Clare sorry you're feeling this too and really sorry about your infection xxx did you have episiotomy?

Maddiie thanks for advice hun! She does seem to like me sometimes lol just lights up for daddy but your words really cheered me xxx

Yes Vicky it's a rollercoaster for sure! I'm so up and down xxx

 

[3237rachel]

Oh Diane. I don't know exactly what happened at your birth but some of this I can relate to. I didn't have problems at the birth but had the image in my head of skin to skin etc. my lo flew out and happened very quick from start to finish. I was in shock when they put her on me and didn't really take it in. The cord was also short and midwife said she had never seen such a short cord so they couldn't pull her up on to my chest she just reached my belly and was soon taken off me as couldn't support her well. I wanted to breast feed but after two days my nipples were bleeding when she fed so I expressed for two weeks and now make formula. I have sobbed over not breast feeding her and part of my reason to change to formula is because every time I held her she could smell it and would scream. She still attempts to feed from me now and is heart breaking.

You need to keep positive Hun. You carried your lo and did an amazing and hard job of producing this little life that does love and need you. I hope you feel better soon. One day at a time xx

 

[Msclaireypants]

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[nicky1987]

So today's my birthday and I really can't be arsed with it! Chris has to go back to work tomorrow which I'm not happy about - in fact im really quite scared, I've just been in tears because my boobs are that full they are sore and I'm feeding her whilst he just snores away! Grr

 

[Maddiie]

Your welcome Diane it's what we are all here for - eachother

Oh nicky it's hard when they are snoring away. Paul's much better now but initially I wanted to punch him in the face every night haha! It's a really frustrating feeling. Give it a chance you will soon find a routine and things to do when there's isn't much to do! Give youraelf a break too, you have just had a baby and your whole life has changed! It takes some adjusting! We all had these anxieties god I still do but it gets better with time I know how daunting it is i literally thought I was going to have a break down and die. But in the end I think Paul struggled more than we did with going back to work haha. The first days flew by just keep busy don't be afraid to be independent and go for that walk. It will do the world of good!

I hope jas goes back down easy for you...
Oh and happy birthday xxxx

 

[Sassyjane]

Happy Birthday to you, happy Birthday to you, happy birthday dear Nicky, happy birthday to you!!!!

Happy birthday lovely, hope you have a good day, lots of love from me and little dude!!!! Xxx

 

[Sassyjane]

I've just fed the little dude, after wanting bottles every 1.5-2 hours from 6pm he slept from 10:30 til 3, clever little man, however, he is wide awake now and looking at me, I'm trying to ignore in the hope he goes back to sleep!

Nicky, numnuts is snoring away on the sofa, was supposed to be my "night off", all he has done today is tell me that CJ is playing me, that he knows I'm too soft with him..... He is 6 weeks old ffs, how does he know to do that!!!!

Hope you ladies are all having a good night and the babies are behaving xx

 

[Maddiie]

Haha sassy Alfie has done the exact same. I'm praying he goes back to sleep I'm dying to lol his eyes drop then fly back open and im like oh stop getting my hopes up. He teases me I'm sure lol x

 

[Sassyjane]

He has rolled himself onto his side and is now fast asleep, I however am wide awake grrrr! My section scar is hurting tonight, and I just can't settle back to sleep now I'm awake, not good when I've got the prospect of numnuts been asleep most of the day as he is on nights!!!