Faint lines?

[Lulla Bell]

Were not here to judge, None of us a perfect.
Were here to support you, Unfortunately you cant help who you fall in love with and yes Its not a perfect situation but who gives a crap!?
Vent and rant as much as you need xx

 

[Kholl]

OP, I hope it's clear that there's a fundamental difference between judging a situation and judging a person. You said yourself that having an affair is not good. And it's not. You don't need anyone to tell you that. I'm not saying you're a bad person because you've done this. Quite the opposite actually. I want to emphasize that you're too good for this. You now have 5 kids with 4 different men, so it's a trend. Why don't you think you're worthy of someone who will stick around and devote himself to you?

If I came on here and said my husband cheated on me and got another woman pregnant, I don't think the response would be "well, shit happens, can't judge it!" At least I hope it wouldn't be. Because it matters what you do. True, you can't help whom you love, but you CAN help what you do. And, since other people's lives are affected by what you do, all that matters is you do what you know is right. Not what you want, but what's right. I think we can all agree with that, right? It's what we all try to teach our children, right?

Again, this isn't about saying you're bad or evil. It's about saying you can do better. Because you can, and you have to, because yes, it matters what you do. It's not actually ok for this man to be cheating on his wife. And he's not a "devoted" father. A devoted father does not cheat on his wife. You can't separate the two. Anyone from a broken home can attest to that. You cannot be devoted and selfish at the same time.

You deserve better. There are men who will devote themselves to you, and you are worth that, as is your family. Best of luck to you and to your kids.

 

[BunnyN]

Congratulations! You are going to have a baby and that is a great thing. Is it the best situation? No, but I think you could spend a lot of time wishing things were different or you can concentrate on the future and making a good life to you and your LOs.

 

[Diann]

i can See a line.. do keep us posted

Hiya
I’ve done two Waitrose pregnancy tests half an hour apart this evening and I’m not sure if this is a faint pink line on both??
I’m due on tomorrow

 

[Shanivy]

Thank you ladies.
I did dread logging on and expecting a backlash.
I am still in love with the father and know this has now ended the affair but I hope when he’s calmed down we can talk civilly and move on.
We live in the same village and this will be hard to keep a secret but I hope he steps up which I can’t imagine he wouldn’t do, he is a very devoted father to his children.

This is going to be difficult to explain to my own children but they will love the baby just as much as I will, that’s all that natters

I gotta say I hope this works out for you and your family. But I'm not sure how great he is going to be though for the baby. Now his bubble has been burst he may not want anything to do with the pregnancy. I imagine he's panicking that his wife and children will find out about the affair now that you're pregnant. I hope you're prepared for that. But your baby has you and your children xx

 

[JemRose]

Congratulations on the baby. I know you're in love with the dad and you are hurting right now, but tbh it doesn't show him in good character anyway. - you are probably much better off without him.

Good luck with everything and enjoy your little family xx

 

[_GG_]

How are you doing Buffy? Hope you're okay and I hope this situation gives you some clarity. I personally could never have respect for a man who could cheat the way this man has and I agree with Kholl that you deserve so much better.

Really hope you're okay.

 

[Woods]

Hi Buffy
Have you any more news for us? Hoping the pregnancy is going well in a stressful time for you.
Hope your pregnancy is going well and it all worked out for you in a difficult situation.
Keep your head up and don’t let anyone judge you. It was him that had a responsibility to his wife not you.
You aren’t the first and won’t be the last that fell for the wrong man.
Lots of love coming your way.

 

[alwayscoffee]

OP, I hope it's clear that there's a fundamental difference between judging a situation and judging a person. You said yourself that having an affair is not good. And it's not. You don't need anyone to tell you that. I'm not saying you're a bad person because you've done this. Quite the opposite actually. I want to emphasize that you're too good for this. You now have 5 kids with 4 different men, so it's a trend. Why don't you think you're worthy of someone who will stick around and devote himself to you?

If I came on here and said my husband cheated on me and got another woman pregnant, I don't think the response would be "well, shit happens, can't judge it!" At least I hope it wouldn't be. Because it matters what you do. True, you can't help whom you love, but you CAN help what you do. And, since other people's lives are affected by what you do, all that matters is you do what you know is right. Not what you want, but what's right. I think we can all agree with that, right? It's what we all try to teach our children, right?

Again, this isn't about saying you're bad or evil. It's about saying you can do better. Because you can, and you have to, because yes, it matters what you do. It's not actually ok for this man to be cheating on his wife. And he's not a "devoted" father. A devoted father does not cheat on his wife. You can't separate the two. Anyone from a broken home can attest to that. You cannot be devoted and selfish at the same time.

You deserve better. There are men who will devote themselves to you, and you are worth that, as is your family. Best of luck to you and to your kids.

^^^THIS! I wish we could like posts on this forum!!

 

[kellygreiner]

i see it too