dont know what to do?!

[Lilelephant]

I am panic stricken as u all know that I will mc again, however a friend has founbd out she is pregnant and is thinking about a termination as the pregnancy wasn't planned! I want to support her but I have these horrible thoughts,
1. If I mc again and she keeps it I will be so devasted and it won't be fair
2. If I mc and she terminates I won't be able to look her in the eye.
3. If I mc anyway I will collapse as a person.
I am a horrible person

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Hunny i understand how you feel as ive been through a mc myself but everyone has different reasons for doing things so i know its hard but shes your friend and she needs you to stand by her no matter what choice she makes.
Positive thoughts hunny, everything is going well for you x x

 

[Piglet10]

yeah why do u think u will mc again huni!! ur not a horrible person, i am totally again terminations personally but one of my best friends went thru one right before i MC and actually i coped ok i think cos i knew her termination wudnt have saved my bubs and tbh she felt AWFUL, she totally regrets it and says worst decision she ever made xxx

 

[Lilelephant]

Yeh I am trying m2a.

 

[midnight]

your not a horrible person at all hun

do what ever you feel comfortable with regarding your friend xx

and possitive thoughts for you x

 

[smokey08]

oh sweetheart

i agree with m2a! really hope things pick up soon!

chin up huni and positive thoughts

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Lilelephant]

I know it must be really hard for my friend, and I know I am being selfish......... She is one of my best friends and I will be there for her whatever.

 

[Samsgirl]

she must think you are a top friend to tell you that when she knows what you have been through and it must be really hard for her and an awful decision i would imagine....

i am guessing she knows you are pregnant now...so she also feels pretty sure you're going to be ok this time...like we all do

try to stand by her cos she must be going through hell at the moment....but i understand how its hard for you and she will too

xx

 

[SunnyGirl]

Aww hun you're not a horrible person
You have had so, so much to deal with - have you thought about counselling? I love it and advocate it loads! It helps get thoughts out of the swirling mists of the mind and dealt with one by one. Really good for times like this when there's a lot of them tormenting you. Hugs xxx

 

[NatC]

Just wanted to give you a massive

You're friend has to do what's right for her no matter what the decision, personally yes I think you need to be there for her whatever she decides but perhaps your not the best person at this moment in time for her to lean on, as you need someone to lean on yourself!

Hun try to stop convincing yourself you're going to mc! You've got a healthy and strong mcbabba in your belly that needs you to be positive for them.

Xx try and chin up Hun!! Everything is looking good for you Xx

 

[Lilelephant]

Thanks everyone,
Ofcourse I will be there for her. I just wish I could shake the thoughts that creep in.
Cosmic-i have had counselling after 2nd mc and it did help, but I still get paniced when pg! He he