don't know what to do or feel

[Anna86]

so as some of you are aware i lost on tuesday but found out for definate today now i just don't know what to do or feel i honestly feel lost i just wondered how everyone else got over this upsetting time? but it annoys me how some women that are druggies and alcoholics and there babies are fine i know that sounds nasty and i shouldn't think that but thats how i feel! sorry for the rant at the end then

 

[lillie]

I totally agree, and am thinking the same 2 months after miscarrying. I did everything right but the baby still died yet others have no problems. It isnt fair. I'm so sorry to hear what has happened to you.

I cant give you any advice, because I dont know what makes it better, I do know that one day at a time is all you can do, and thinking that you will wake up soon does fade. I read books constantly to take my mind somewhere else, took some time off work and slept lots. Its such a nasty shock after all that baby planning! I think the shock is possibly the hardest thing to deal with. You will feel better I promise, I know it doesn't feel that way now. Post here to rant, PM if you like, cry if you want and take it easy on yourself is all I can suggest.

 

[hayels]

hi hun. i know how u fell i felt the same when i mc but i does get easyer take care xxxxx

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

xx

 

[louise280981]

im so sorry to hear about your loss thinking of you xx

 

[Toonlass]

no words can make you feel any better but i want to send you hugs xx

 

[JJ Mum]

The feelings your having are all normal , this really shouldn't happen to anyone.
Just remember don't blame yourself at any point, this is what I did, you had no control or effect for what happened, it just did. Like Lillie said, take a day at a time.

Wishing you lots of rest and recovery X

 

[x-misspinkuk-x]

x

 

[karenandbump]

The girls are right - no quick cure but take it one day at a time. I was devestated when I lost my much wanted baby in Jan. Let yourself grieve and work through it. Lots of love hon and we're all here if you need us xxxx

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

Anna86, I'm feeling exactly the same way. Feelings of anger and jealousy are totally normal apparently (I've done alot of reading m/c support forums today) and I don't feel like I'm ever going to get over it. I don't want to go out, see anyone, or do anything. I took time off work today and just sat in my flat and let it all out - I cried and cried until I couldn't cry anymore, and felt a little better for just allowing myself to grieve. My OH was with me, and crying with me. It's such a horrible feeling of loss, shock and disbelief but we have to keep looking after ourselves and with time I'm sure things will get better. Message me anytime you like hun xxxxx

 

[Kirsthar]

its ok and normal to feel this way. It will get better in time hun x

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

This is totally how I feel to Anna and Lulu....its def normal and from talking to the other ladies on here who have been through it all too its something that will take us time to get to grips with. Thinking of you both xxxx

Anna86, I'm feeling exactly the same way. Feelings of anger and jealousy are totally normal apparently (I've done alot of reading m/c support forums today) and I don't feel like I'm ever going to get over it. I don't want to go out, see anyone, or do anything. I took time off work today and just sat in my flat and let it all out - I cried and cried until I couldn't cry anymore, and felt a little better for just allowing myself to grieve. My OH was with me, and crying with me. It's such a horrible feeling of loss, shock and disbelief but we have to keep looking after ourselves and with time I'm sure things will get better. Message me anytime you like hun xxxxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

i totally agree, it really pisses me off!!!

 

[Heulyn]

Anna86, I'm feeling exactly the same way. Feelings of anger and jealousy are totally normal apparently (I've done alot of reading m/c support forums today) and I don't feel like I'm ever going to get over it. I don't want to go out, see anyone, or do anything. I took time off work today and just sat in my flat and let it all out - I cried and cried until I couldn't cry anymore, and felt a little better for just allowing myself to grieve. My OH was with me, and crying with me. It's such a horrible feeling of loss, shock and disbelief but we have to keep looking after ourselves and with time I'm sure things will get better. Message me anytime you like hun xxxxx

Anna, I think Lulu's response is probably the best advice I could give you, too.
Cry if you need to, rant if you need to, look to others for support, and take it one step at a time.
I lost my babies in November, and March, and even now I still have days where I just want to stay in bed and cry.
Sending you loads of love and hugs