does your oh do this?

[jayla's mummy]

x

 

[Kimbo]

shit

thats quite shocking actually. my ex was a b@stard and cheated on me for 6 months with his ex gf and watched p0rn all the time..
of course i was oblivious to all of thisi happening,
but... i dont think i could put up with it if i knew about it

 

[libs]

have a drink - no
dream about her - yes - we can't help what we dream about - means nothing
tell her he dream about her - that what you meant? - no
misses her family - yes - tell her about it - no
child would have looked like - erm no
look for naked woman - god yes

box of stuff - yeah I'd say normal as long as he doesn't get it out and go through - everyone has pics and stuff - its part of his history

as for whether you've had enough - only you know that

 

[hels]

have a drink - no
dream about her - yes - we can't help what we dream about - means nothing
tell her he dream about her - that what you meant? - no
misses her family - yes - tell her about it - no
child would have looked like - erm no
look for naked woman - god yes

box of stuff - yeah I'd say normal as long as he doesn't get it out and go through - everyone has pics and stuff - its part of his history

as for whether you've had enough - only you know that

Thats what id feel is 'normal' too I hope you sort this out soon. x

 

[sophie-jordan]

i agree with what libs said
i aint with my OH anymore but i think i would be p****d off aswell if he was doing these things
hope you sort things hun and make sure u dont let your hormones get the better of you
x sophie x

 

[jenna]

my hubby told me when we 1st started going out that he 'keeps' pictures of his ex and pics of him and her together because 'theres no point trying to forget the past'. Even after i argued with him he still insisted on treasureing them. Guys can be funny some times. I ended up making him burn them and all the old love letters and so on. Just talk to him hun

 

[trixipaws]

have a drink - no
dream about her - yes - we can't help what we dream about - means nothing
tell her he dream about her - that what you meant? - no
misses her family - yes - tell her about it - no
child would have looked like - erm no
look for naked woman - god yes

box of stuff - yeah I'd say normal as long as he doesn't get it out and go through - everyone has pics and stuff - its part of his history

as for whether you've had enough - only you know that

what she said!

 

[Urchin]

Yeah I also agree with Libs

 

[NIE]

I don't know what to say that will make you feel any better babes.

I would not be happy about my hubby asking an ex out for a drink, telling me he misses her family or having photographs of her.

Dreaming of her, you can't stop, as long as he wasn't saying her name over and over again in his sleep or calling me by her name, then there's nothing I could do.

I don't think you are going crazy. Is he maybe craving more attention from you?, trying to wind you up? or has he always been like this.

Have plenty of hugs babes and I'm here if you need a chat.

xxxxx

 

[enn]

nope i wouldnt accept it, my oh was accepting phone calls from his ex when we first got together, so was his mother and i werent having none of it. so i got him to end all ties with her and been like that ever since. she even threatened suicide to my oh mother and i said tell her to do it she soon got the message lol

i mean he was in seriously debt when i met him and she had cheated on him with a man from internet but that didnt last between them. i had met them both but didnt like either of them and the man she went with was stupid like my oh.

 

[frangelle]

That's bad, the fact he pretends to hate her seems quite dodgy too as he doesn't by the sounds of it

The looking for naked women, that is very normal I'm afraid!!!

 

[frangelle]

I would not be happy about my hubby asking an ex out for a drink, telling me he misses her family or having photographs of her.

My OH used to go for a drink after work with his ex (they worked together), but add in all the rest of it and it does seem a bit suss...

 

[lisa&alex]

well.. to all of them i say no.. (this posts pretty long lol)

my husband doesnt have any womens numbers in his phone other than family and 1 mutual friend. if he talked about his ex, dreamt about her and told me, missed her family, and asked her out for a drink i would have chopped his b*lls off by now..
it may seem a little extream to some people, but he chose to be with me, not her or any other women, even as friends. i dont have any male friends who arnt both of our friends so he shouldnt have any female friends - its both of our views anyway not just mine.. we both think that its better to not have the oppotunity to do anything.. that way nothing can happen if your not given the option.

im a qualified councellor and while on my course my lecturer said that its human nature to take what is offered to them, especially mens. he said if it was offred to you, and this person was good looking etc, there is no way that any one would turn sex down with them. - i argued with him, he said you are only saying that coz ur a newlywed! lol.. anyway thats another story..

your boyfriend shouldnt be seeking friendship with his ex unless he wants to rekindle their romance. he needs to support you, you are carrying his child and it is his responsibility to make you feel secure, communications the key, sit down and tell him what is troubling you about the situation, ask him the reasons for this box of memories.
good luck xx

 

I totally agree with Lisa&Alex

 

[Babylicious]

cor no thats not on at all

 

[Nicola]

is it normal for you bf to ask his ex if she'll have a drink with him? - I'd find this really strange.

that he had a dream about her? - suppose so I occassionally dream about ex's and there is no basis for them what so ever, I have to admit that they have only really been since getting pregnant, vivid/wierd memories/thoughts etc.

That he misses her family? - Strange!!

Describes what their child would of looked like? - VERY strange!

And searches for naked girls on the internet? - I don't understand men who need to do this when they have a partner but I suppose it's better that he looks and doesn't go out getting it type thing.

and he has a box in our bedroom with pic of them hugging and cards and stuff like that!

That I have to say I'd just dump, when he's out one day just bin the bloody thing it might cause a row but tough, I'd not have pics of an ex in my bedroom, that would be gone if it were me.

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

I think the problem here is that all of these things on their own seem pretty innocent (though im not sure about describing what their baby would like ) but when you put them together, and especially if it is a regular occurance, the id be very worried and have to sit him down and say look, either you want to be back with her or you want to be with me - you cant have both.

Hes being very unfair and if he is not willing to give up his ex then you really need to re-evalute your relationship.

 

[kazlin]

You must try to get to the bottom of this and hopefully soon for your own piece of mind.

I am afraid that when I read your list it was almost identical to my soon to be ex husband. He became obsessed with his ex gf in the early part of our marriage. I'm not going to give all the details as I really don't want to plant negative thoughts in your mind when it could be totally innocent.

I hope you sort things out soon hun x

 

[frangelle]

im a qualified councellor and while on my course my lecturer said that its human nature to take what is offered to them, especially mens. he said if it was offred to you, and this person was good looking etc, there is no way that any one would turn sex down with them. - i argued with him, he said you are only saying that coz ur a newlywed! lol.. anyway thats another story..

That's concerned me What sort of relationship do you have if your mans always gonna cheat if its offered to him on a plate?

What was he a lecturer of and was it based on research and studies, lol?!!

 

[mrs_tommo22]

I agree with libs!!!