My ex used to buy nuts and zoo and I never had a problem with that, his friends also did the DVD swap, mostly of the most bizarre porn imaginable (legal though), more funny than erotic! My OH doesn't do anything like that, and I have asked on a few occassions but he's never felt the need to buy mags or anything. His friend did remind him recently that about 5 years ago his dad broke into a safe that was in his room from when he was a teenager and found the 'stash', hilarious!