In your relationship, what are the rules on..

[titch]

...porn!!

Does your OH buy nuts magazine? Look at girls on the internet, or look at more extreme stuff? Was just wondering how people felt about this.

 

[becks20]

Me an my OH watch stuff together but hes not the type to look at it without me and he could live without it x

 

[megsmeadow]

My ex used to buy nuts and zoo and I never had a problem with that, his friends also did the DVD swap, mostly of the most bizarre porn imaginable (legal though), more funny than erotic! My OH doesn't do anything like that, and I have asked on a few occassions but he's never felt the need to buy mags or anything. His friend did remind him recently that about 5 years ago his dad broke into a safe that was in his room from when he was a teenager and found the 'stash', hilarious!

 

[titch]

the stash! thats so funny. I guess its an individual thing. Would you be bothered if you found a hidden stash in your OH drawer or something? I actually think if it was hidden I would be upset...how wierd is that?! It was so funny the other day he was havin ga bath and I went upstairs to chat to him and the door was llocked, I was like WTF? we never lock doors so he said Icould come in if i unlocked in using a knife cos he CBA to get out the bath, when I got in there, him laptop was on the side and I just looked at it and he was like "errr Iwas just listening to music" I was like "hun if you were looking at porn in the bath you should be very careful cos you might drop your laptop and electricute yourself!"

 

[xXxBonnyxXx]

we watch porn together and sometimes on our own when we are apart - but thats normally cos we are on the phone to eachother!!!

I wouldn't be annoyed if he does it on his own without me knowing, but I know some people that would go mental if their fella started looking at other women like that,

My hubby is more likely to buy a car magazine rather than a porn one though!

 

[titch]

glad to hear other people are the same then, I actually started to worry that they were so shocked. They all told me that their OHs NEVER look at porn and if they did they'd consider it cheating. I was stunned. First of all, I think they cant know what their OHs are up to very often and secondly, you'd end a relationship over porn?! WTF?! But they made me feel like i was being a bi tof a mug about it all... hmmm.

 

[megsmeadow]

Oh yeah I would be annoyed if I found a 'stash' now, only because he said he doesn't have one! I'm not saying he doesn't 'tend to himself', cause he tells me about that, just not with 'material'

at the electricution warning

 

[x-misspinkuk-x]

we dont really do porn in our house, i mean we watched a dvd when we went away but thats it.
i would go mental if i knew that my OH was watching that stuff! alot of stuff happened when i was pregnant that left me really insecure. i know ALOT of women dont mind there OH watching it, there is just something about the fact that my OH would be getting a hard on over other women.

and your right tiny, you cant know what OH is doing all the time. but i would be upset if OH done it - he knows how much i dont like it xx

 

[MrsR]

We watch porn together but he doesn't buy nuts/zoo etc x porn doesn't bother me in the slightest (as long as it's not snuff movies or similar but he's sooooo not like that) x we don't have the net except through my iPhone which has content control (no particular reason except I'm too lazy to phone vodafone to remove it) but it wouldn't bother me if he looked at porn on the Internet x I wouldn't mind if he bought mags etc but he doesn't x my ex fiancée swapped porn with friends so I've never had a problem and I'm very open minded regarding sex and porn probably more so than my fella!

 

[karenandbump]

Hi girls, got to be honest, never really thought of nuts or zoo as porn...my ex used to buy them and never bothered me. My hubby is 't fussed about reading them and never buys them - wouldn't be fussed if he did. Porn wouldn't fuss me too much as long as it wasn't a constant thing at the exclusion of me but I have to say strip clubs are a total no for me...I know some stuff that goes on in them through some friends and not happy if OH goes to them...that said, not somewhere he ever bothers with cos he says the beer is too pricey...ha ha - he can be so tight!!!! xxx

 

[Mervs Mum]

My hubby would never buy Zoo or Nuts He reads Private Eye or his National Geographic on the toilet!

He's got porn and we've watched it together in the past. I'm not bothered if he looks / watches it but I'd draw the line at him talking to someone online.

 

[mrsH2009]

I don't class nuts as porn. It really doesn't bother me as long as it's legal!

 

[mrsH2009]

'd chop it off if he was talking to someone on line

 

[Mervs Mum]

Yeah I agree - so long as it's legal!

 

[titch]

I have to say strip clubs are a total no for me...I know some stuff that goes on in them through some friends and not happy if OH goes to them...

oh yeah that would really bother me too. I think its the whole interacting thing. Looking at a clip or picture they cant interact, but a strip club or talking on the internet would drive me nuts!!!

 

[PippaJ]

Me too. It's never been our thing either but if my OH wanted to buy a mag it wouldn't bother me, although he would rather buy a guitar mag

 

[karenandbump]

Yeah I think that is the difference - it's the interaction that I would have a problem with. When hubby had his stag night I said he could have a stripper as long as he understood anything that happened with her would be fine foir me to get up to in a nightclub...I did dance for years so could attract attention on a dancfloor if I wanted to....never seen him say no as quickly to anything when his mates mentioned a stripper!! Looks like the interaction bothers them too eh!!

 

[Mervs Mum]

Strip clubs dont bother me.

 

[ria__x]

lmao @ being electricuted in the bath!!! sooo funny. i find it hilarious when you find your OH 'seeing' to himself. i just laugh!! and if i'm up for it, 'join in' lmao

in my relationship i'm the one that looks at porn!! because i'm really hard to satisfy and will get these mad cravings in the middle of the night (during pregnancy anyway) and need to erm.. 'see' to myself! i don't want to wake OH up! sometimes OH will watch porn but he tells me before hand so i don't come in room. he's usually bugging me to do it for him though *sigh*

i don't think there's anything wrong in porn or watching it whether you're together or apart.. (if i'm apart from OH will tell him anyway as i compulsively tell him the most intimate details and he doesn't want to know half the time!) xxx

 

[Princess81]

My o/h has the worlds allocation of porn on his laptop I don't care if he watches it, or buys magazines, it really doesn't bother me as I don't see it as any sort of threat. It does nothing for me tbh, but if he likes it then it's up to him.
I don't have a problem with strip clubs either, I wouldn't be arsed about going to one but again, if he's off with the lads then - whatever.
If he was chatting a girl up online then he'd be decked by me and have his internet privaleges taken away
Boys will be boys, men are generally more visual then women so that's that.