Controlled crying at 18m! Aaaargh!!

[Holi]

Maybe it is a development thing laurat - sounds like people go through similar things at a similar age! Makes me feel a bit better knowing it's not just mine and it might be a leap thing rather than a bad habit! X

 

[Lyllian]

I'm going to.read up on controlled crying in preparation, seems like I'll be needing it in a few months! When they're suck good sleepers to start with I can't.help thinking I'm.going to pay for it later!

 

[Baby2sky]

Personally i don't believe in cc at all; i think there are many other avenues to go down. Its not that cc works, its that baby has given up on hoping anyone will come. If I were upset and crying, my husband would comfort me and cuddle me and give me love, so I dont understand why we expect babies to just deal with their emotion

 

[naomip]

There is a lot of research out there on controlled crying. I think that before any one chooses to do it, they should read up on all the facts first, so that they're fully informed on their choice. I'm personally against controlled crying for myself and my baby, although we're struggling with sleep issues. X

 

[Wilson28]

Im not at all for cc as i know its quiet bad. However i didnt want to put it and end up being jumped on. Xx

 

[Holi]

Personally i don't believe in cc at all; i think there are many other avenues to go down. Its not that cc works, its that baby has given up on hoping anyone will come. If I were upset and crying, my husband would comfort me and cuddle me and give me love, so I dont understand why we expect babies to just deal with their emotion

Honestly - no exaggeration - I am ridiculously loving and cuddly - so much so I feel like my little girl is using me as her personal night time comforter which just isn't practical!

And I never leave her longer than 5 mins at a time without going in and making sure she knows I'm there so I'd like to think that she's never 'given up hope'

It's really difficult cos I don't think anyone wants to leave their baby crying, it's a last resort xx

 

[Nomad]

Personally i don't believe in cc at all; i think there are many other avenues to go down. Its not that cc works, its that baby has given up on hoping anyone will come. If I were upset and crying, my husband would comfort me and cuddle me and give me love, so I dont understand why we expect babies to just deal with their emotion

Sorry but I don't see how you're baby has given up on anyone coming when you're going in to them every few minutes. I'm not expecting her to just deal with it but I can't continue to have a wriggling fidgety toddler in my bed when I'm pregnant, it's just not worth the risk of her kicking my in the stomach. We have tried everything else we can think of (and that other people have suggested).

 

[Holi]

Were all adults here hopefully no one would 'jump on' anyone, but I started this thread for help/advice/tips on controlled crying - so anyone simply piping up saying you don't agree with CC isn't helping me

Other suggestions on other methods are welcomed tho!!

Xxx

 

[Nomad]

There is a lot of research out there on controlled crying. I think that before any one chooses to do it, they should read up on all the facts first, so that they're fully informed on their choice. I'm personally against controlled crying for myself and my baby, although we're struggling with sleep issues. X

I was also against cc and refused to do it when C was younger but we couldn't continue the way we were and if last night is anything to go by (she only woke once, grumbled for 30 secs then went back to sleep) then I'd say it's working.

 

[Mackmummy]

Holi / Lyllian, have a look at the Jo frost books (supernanny) she is good with the controlled crying and exams it all, I love her programmes, they work a treat (tried when I've been baby sitting etc before I had oscar)

 

[Holi]

Were all adults here hopefully no one would 'jump on' anyone, but I started this thread for help/advice/tips on controlled crying - so anyone simply piping up saying you don't agree with CC isn't helping me

Other suggestions on other methods are welcomed tho!!

Xxx

And this isn't aimed at you Wilson28 - I appreciate your suggestions earlier in in the post - this is more for people who might join the thread just to say they don't agree with CC - which is totally their prerogative xx

 

[Wilson28]

Holi, im not like that, we do all think differently thats why i suggested some ways to possibly try as im open minded. If someones doesnt know im happy to suggest. I only know about cc because of working for unicef xx

 

[Ella1979]

Holi - have you tried a new bedtime routine at all? We had dreadful problems with our daughter waking screaming in the night after being an amazing sleeper. She was almost 2 though, so slightly older than your LO. We got a new bedtime story (Guess How Much I Love You) and read her it every single night before bed. When she woke in the night, we would kind of do the end of the bedtime routine again, so instead of just cuddles, dummy and mobile, we would also read the story to calm her down. It did require some perseverance over a fortnight or so, but she eventually got back into her old routine of sleeping through. Also, if you have room, we found that rather than taking her into our bed, one of us sleeping next to her on the floor of her room was enough to settle her down. We left it as a last resort, but it gave her comfort without changing where she slept.

 

[Holi]

Might be an idea Ella1979 with reading to her to help her drift back off - never tried that before

No room for me to see on floor - trying to convince oh to buy a comfy rocking chair so when I settle her I can not leave her room

Mind you last night she was really good she slept 8pm-6am with 1 wake up and she literally just needed her dummy and went straight back to sleep - maybe I won't have to do CC after all!! Fingers crossed!! Xx

 

[Mackmummy]

Ella has a good point! My oscar is only four months but I had an awful time with his sleep! I changed the bedtime routine (later and woke him up earlier in the morning) and now he generally sleeps from 8 ish until 3/4 has a bottle then straight to sleep and I wake him at 8. To get him to sleep I put lullabies on (I can't sing for toffee!) and we look at the stars on the ceiling, a much calmer bedtime! So although totally different age, the change of bedtime routine might work?

 

[Holi]

I might be being blonde, but would a change in bedtime routine effect her waking in the night or just getting her to sleep? At the moment she is still fantastic at going to bed it's more the middle of night wake ups that's the problems! X

 

[Mackmummy]

Well when I changed oscars routine he went from waking four/five times a night to just once? I don't know if it matters how old they are but it certainly helped him sleep longer.

 

[Ella1979]

We went from her waking in the night screaming to sleeping through again. I suppose it depends on the reason(s) behind the night-waking, but it's worth a go.

 

[Lyllian]

Holi / Lyllian, have a look at the Jo frost books (supernanny) she is good with the controlled crying and exams it all, I love her programmes, they work a treat (tried when I've been baby sitting etc before I had oscar)

Brilliant thanks Mackmummy will take a look

 

[Mackmummy]

No problem lyllian, I down loaded her book and have had a quick look, really good stuff.