ive known my husband for 10 years, we were always great friends. nearly two years ago we got together as a couple and in august last year we got married. i have never loved anyone more in my entire life. after our wedding though our relationship began to go downhill. my husband had left his job to go back to college and the new job he was meant to start was seriously delayed causing us financial worries. it was a mistake he had made that caused the delay and i was really upset/ angry at this and made my feelings obvious. we sorted all that out eventually but the fights never stopped. even when i fell pregnant with our first child- i have a son that lives with us who is 4- he was just never happy. the fights turned abusive and eventually i made him leave. my parents got involved and my son got hurt in the mess. (please note- he was never physically harmed... just scared because of the way my husband had gotten. i was never physically harmed either). we have been seperated for 2months now and those 2months have been the hardest of my life. we have fought, i have cried, i have got seriously ill with stress and my life feels upside down. it took me a while to get to a point where i knew what i wanted. on saturday i met with my husband and we finally managed to talk some things through. we both want to be together and have the future we had planned. he says hes going to get help and while we were together i seen none of the badness that had been there over the past few months. i know it'll be hard but i want to give him this chance to show me he can be the man he once was... the thing is im still scared. people keep telling me that he wont change... that people dont change. the way i see it though is that if he changed into this horrible person... why cant he change back?? any opinion would be greatly appreciated... has anyone ever been in this position before? is it possible? i really dont know who to turn to just now. i really just want my husband and my family back together.