Hi Mummies,
I have not been on here in about 6 months as my 1st DD has been keeping me busy. I used to use these forums loads with DD1 and found you ladies most helpful! Wondering if you can offer your thoughts/experiences/advice on 2nd babies.
My DD is 14 months and hubbie and I are thinking of trying for our second, the only problem is that I had a HORRIFIC pregnancy and labour with DD1, with everything that could go wrong, going wrong. I can cope with the pregnancy ailments/ gestational diabetes/spd etc as it ends after 10 months however, the thought of having to do a labour like that again actually makes me burst into tears as I type this....! Long story short ...I was overdue and induced, in labour for 6 days, then eventually had a double episiotomy (towards bum and sideways into thigh) as baby was too big for my hips with 100 stitches after needing ventouse and getting 3rd degree tearing, the hospital were useless and left me for 3 days needing 4 units of blood for a transfusion. I was in hospital for 2 weeks and felt I missed out on precious time with my baby as I did not have the energy for her for the first month. My recovery took a long time and I only started to feel normal when DD was 6 months.
My fear of having the second is that the labour may be the same, this makes me think I just can't do it again despite the fact we would love another child. Also some days I find it sooo exhausting with just the 1 baby (and 12 year old stepson) and the house to clean, cooking for everyone, laundry etc and wonder how the hell anyone manages with another baby too?
I think I wont cope with having DD at 24 months and a newborn to cope with as well as my step son and husband and the house to look after, I feel DD may lose out on attention and the house will become a tip ( I struggle at the mo to keep it clean, and keep on top of the laundry and shopping and dinner cooking etc). If any of you are in the same boat and have kids around 14 months apart how do you manage? Do you feel constantly drained or does it not make much of a difference once new baby is more active!? Can you get any houisework/cooking done? Did anyone have two terrible labours in a row or is the second birth easier? Please be honest!!
Any advice/ opinions appreciated as I would hate to make the decision not to have a baby for the wrong, or purely selfish reasons.
Many thanks
Cleo x
I have not been on here in about 6 months as my 1st DD has been keeping me busy. I used to use these forums loads with DD1 and found you ladies most helpful! Wondering if you can offer your thoughts/experiences/advice on 2nd babies.
My DD is 14 months and hubbie and I are thinking of trying for our second, the only problem is that I had a HORRIFIC pregnancy and labour with DD1, with everything that could go wrong, going wrong. I can cope with the pregnancy ailments/ gestational diabetes/spd etc as it ends after 10 months however, the thought of having to do a labour like that again actually makes me burst into tears as I type this....! Long story short ...I was overdue and induced, in labour for 6 days, then eventually had a double episiotomy (towards bum and sideways into thigh) as baby was too big for my hips with 100 stitches after needing ventouse and getting 3rd degree tearing, the hospital were useless and left me for 3 days needing 4 units of blood for a transfusion. I was in hospital for 2 weeks and felt I missed out on precious time with my baby as I did not have the energy for her for the first month. My recovery took a long time and I only started to feel normal when DD was 6 months.
My fear of having the second is that the labour may be the same, this makes me think I just can't do it again despite the fact we would love another child. Also some days I find it sooo exhausting with just the 1 baby (and 12 year old stepson) and the house to clean, cooking for everyone, laundry etc and wonder how the hell anyone manages with another baby too?
I think I wont cope with having DD at 24 months and a newborn to cope with as well as my step son and husband and the house to look after, I feel DD may lose out on attention and the house will become a tip ( I struggle at the mo to keep it clean, and keep on top of the laundry and shopping and dinner cooking etc). If any of you are in the same boat and have kids around 14 months apart how do you manage? Do you feel constantly drained or does it not make much of a difference once new baby is more active!? Can you get any houisework/cooking done? Did anyone have two terrible labours in a row or is the second birth easier? Please be honest!!
Any advice/ opinions appreciated as I would hate to make the decision not to have a baby for the wrong, or purely selfish reasons.
Many thanks
Cleo x
No I do ok, I let them have free rein of my lounge as its nice and warm for them to play in and I just clean it when they go to bed, takes no time at all if you do it everyday.
ph and i haad a 9lb12er first time and an 8lb3 this time!!
I would LOVE it if 2nd one was just like your experience!
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