jemjemjem
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I have been with my boyfriend for four years, during the relationship ship hes said things like he plans to marry me and barely two months ago he told me he wanted a child and even went as far as telling my sister that we were trying.
Two months on and im 8 weeks pregnant .... i dont know what changed in those 2 months but after getting the news he said hed be there for me what ever i decided.... I had pressumed we'd be keeping it!

I have been pregnant before and had to make the heart breaking decision of getting an abortion.... though it was painfull i felt i deserved to feel it for not standing up for myself.
He is becoming more and more distant with me, refuses to sleep with me, and is making out like he doesnt believe its his.... well thats news to me! i have a 1000% certainty its his excluding some form of divine intervention.
He said he doesnt want to support me and the baby which i guess is fair enough though he wouldnt mind been a father.... he doesnt like the fact that i will be having some down time in my third trimester and have to take additional time off to raise the newborn.
I dont believe we will last. I know I can be a good mother but my work is as a model and dancer which does not qualify for maternity leave nor will I be able to get care for the baby while i get back to work.... Hes already said he wont look after it when i need to be out.
Ive considered getting another job and have applied but they wont hire pregnant women. And you have to have been working with them for two years to get maternity leave.
Because of this I have decided to get an abortion because I want to be in a position to provide everything my child needs whether I end up alone or not... I just dont think I could bare the eternal guilt again nor the feeling of emptyness and loss. Though it may be the best option.....
He says he will come with me to my termination appointments though hes getting colder with me.... do you think he might believe that if he shows me any love Id decide to keep the child? Am I a pawn? does this child deserve to live? I know I have options but while benefits and the safety of a counsil house fit some I cant imagine myself in that situation.... I have always stood on my own two feet.
Please, I would love to hear your views and opinions on my predicament
Jemma xxx
Two months on and im 8 weeks pregnant .... i dont know what changed in those 2 months but after getting the news he said hed be there for me what ever i decided.... I had pressumed we'd be keeping it!

I have been pregnant before and had to make the heart breaking decision of getting an abortion.... though it was painfull i felt i deserved to feel it for not standing up for myself.
He is becoming more and more distant with me, refuses to sleep with me, and is making out like he doesnt believe its his.... well thats news to me! i have a 1000% certainty its his excluding some form of divine intervention.
He said he doesnt want to support me and the baby which i guess is fair enough though he wouldnt mind been a father.... he doesnt like the fact that i will be having some down time in my third trimester and have to take additional time off to raise the newborn.
I dont believe we will last. I know I can be a good mother but my work is as a model and dancer which does not qualify for maternity leave nor will I be able to get care for the baby while i get back to work.... Hes already said he wont look after it when i need to be out.
Ive considered getting another job and have applied but they wont hire pregnant women. And you have to have been working with them for two years to get maternity leave.
Because of this I have decided to get an abortion because I want to be in a position to provide everything my child needs whether I end up alone or not... I just dont think I could bare the eternal guilt again nor the feeling of emptyness and loss. Though it may be the best option.....
He says he will come with me to my termination appointments though hes getting colder with me.... do you think he might believe that if he shows me any love Id decide to keep the child? Am I a pawn? does this child deserve to live? I know I have options but while benefits and the safety of a counsil house fit some I cant imagine myself in that situation.... I have always stood on my own two feet.
Please, I would love to hear your views and opinions on my predicament
Jemma xxx