Hi
Ok, so apologies but as a newbie to both pregnancy and this site I am desperately reaching our for some reassurance. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant and after 6 months, this week on Tuesday we got the result we dreamed of. Or at least I thought we did.
At first he seemed so happy but by the end of the day we were arguing about the fact he still wanted us to go to a rave we had planned on this weekend. I know life doesn't have to end as soon as you're pregnancy but this is my first and EDD puts me at about 5 weeks 4days. As anyone who has been to a rave before, they are full of highly active, drunk/ drugged up people and I was worried about getting knocked into/ getting spiked/ being the only human in a room full of potential space men! I just didn't feel that it was right for me at this time but he said if I wouldn't go he wouldn't and he had been excited about it for months etc etc.
The bottom line is that we managed a whole 10 hours of happiness before we descended in to a row for the next 12.He also said a really low blow which he's now apologised for but I can't get it out of my mind. I've tried to understand that he was having his 'OMG this is happening' freak out but I also feel he was so selfish and didn't consider me or our dreams in all of that. Where was the allowance for me to freak out, what about my feeling and recognitions of the changes I immediately have to make to my life.
I know that this isn't really his character, he's normally very loving and I know the joy was there when I told him. Please someone tell me it gets better. I feel so low.
Ok, so apologies but as a newbie to both pregnancy and this site I am desperately reaching our for some reassurance. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant and after 6 months, this week on Tuesday we got the result we dreamed of. Or at least I thought we did.
At first he seemed so happy but by the end of the day we were arguing about the fact he still wanted us to go to a rave we had planned on this weekend. I know life doesn't have to end as soon as you're pregnancy but this is my first and EDD puts me at about 5 weeks 4days. As anyone who has been to a rave before, they are full of highly active, drunk/ drugged up people and I was worried about getting knocked into/ getting spiked/ being the only human in a room full of potential space men! I just didn't feel that it was right for me at this time but he said if I wouldn't go he wouldn't and he had been excited about it for months etc etc.
The bottom line is that we managed a whole 10 hours of happiness before we descended in to a row for the next 12.He also said a really low blow which he's now apologised for but I can't get it out of my mind. I've tried to understand that he was having his 'OMG this is happening' freak out but I also feel he was so selfish and didn't consider me or our dreams in all of that. Where was the allowance for me to freak out, what about my feeling and recognitions of the changes I immediately have to make to my life.
I know that this isn't really his character, he's normally very loving and I know the joy was there when I told him. Please someone tell me it gets better. I feel so low.