Any March mummies yet?

[Thomo0903]

Hi

I am very tentatively dipping my toe into Tri 1.

I got a BFP last Monday, and was over the moon after having an early miscarriage at 5+2/3 last month. I put off taking a test to try and minimise the risk of going through the same rollarcoaster again, and so I was about 5 weeks before I took the test and got the BFP.

I then stupidly took a second test on Thursday (which was the day I lost the baby last month) to reassure myself, and the line was slightly lighter than the original BFP (though still very clearly a line).

Since then I have been all over the place, and am basically convinced I am going to end up having a mmc. Having read all sorts of message threads about people whose symptoms got stronger even once an mmc was confirmed, and conversely people whose lines got lighter and then had a perfectly healthy baby, I have come to the conclusion that I have no way of knowing, and I will just have to be an anxious wreck until my scan.

In the meantime I have increasingly sore and growing boobs (which has only happened since after the BFP), some vague background nausea (the only two times I've actually felt like throwing up were before my BFP), pretty regular cramping of all sorts, some breathlessness and a bit of a cold. Also a lot of creamy cm. I should be due around the 20th March.

I feel like it is all good signs, but I just can't force myself to feel positive (which is crazy because I am such an optimistic person, and was adament I would get pregnant again this month, even when my DH thought I was crazy!). It just feels like it isn't happening for some reason

 

[Dixie]

Aww bless you, I'm sure everything is fine, try not to worry too much. If he/she is meant to be, he/she will hang in there and be very happy and healthy.

I had a few days last week where my symptoms just 'went' and i was concerned, but then boom they came back, and with gusto !!

Fingers crossed everything will be fine for you!

 

[Clarelp28]

Hello



I just got a BFP this morning so early days for me... but around 28th March. I have a 28 month old son Max who was born on 22nd March so might have really close birthdays if this pregnancy is successful X

Congrats!! My daughter has just turned 2, so close-ish in age to your little boy I share my birthday with my daughter, sharing isn't so bad

Aww really? Were you on this forum then?

I was I a still in touch with the July mummies and we all met up last October!

Congrats all! wishing everyone a happy and healthy 9 months!

Thomo0903 could be the hook effect? Would explain a lighter line...try not to stress, could be anything - you drinking more water for instance.

 

[simmy89]

Thomo0903 I feel exactly the same. No previous losses but I have some health issues which mean I am classed as high risk and am convinced I'm going to have MMC. But I think you are right- have to try not to stress as so many stories of people who have lost babies with both ongoing and loss of symptoms- sounds like there is no textbook pregnancy or mc. I am having an early scan tomorrow (will be 6+2), really hoping we see a heartbeat- even though I know it's still early I'll be convinced all is lost if no heartbeat tomorrow! Any chance you can ask for an early u/s with your previous loss and worries? Wishing you lots of luck for this pregnancy, you're not alone in your anxiety!xxx

 

[Thailand1]

I feel exactly the same very anxious, this is my first pregnancy & I'm always thinking something is going to go wrong! I had spotting & urine infection had spotting since I was 6 wks I'm now 7 +2 it's brown when I wipe doctor reassured me this is common, still have anxiety tho! I'm seeing midwife a wk wed & hopefully I will feel a lot happier. I think everyone has a little anxiety

 

[Thomo0903]

Thanks everyone. I don't know what it is. I just feel almost resigned, and nothing bad has even happened really!

Me and DH have decided to just try and stop thinking about it, and then hopefully we will make it as far as the scan, and everything will be perfect, and I will feel silly for worrying.

Fingers crossed everything goes well for everyone. I never knew it would be this stressful!

 

[Thomo0903]

Simmy 89 really good luck tomorrow. It must be so nerve wracking right now, but then hopefully will put your mind at rest!

To be honest both the GPs I've seen have been very relaxed, and not really offered any specialist knowledge. They both seemed to think that a pregnancy this early doesn't really count, and there is nothing we can do. I'm hoping the midwife might be more sympathetic and useful (though the GPs were very nice). Have to wait and see when my referral comes through.

 

[timtam78]

I was I a still in touch with the July mummies and we all met up last October!

Congrats all! wishing everyone a happy and healthy 9 months!

Thomo0903 could be the hook effect? Would explain a lighter line...try not to stress, could be anything - you drinking more water for instance.

Aww thats fab I'm friends with quite a few on Facebook and I also met up with one of them last year too

 

[timtam78]

Thomo0903 I hope everything works out for you, its easy to say try not to worry as we all do and nothing will stop that. I've been doing tests every 2 days too as I've had 2 previous mc too (before my little boy though), but trying to be relaxed about it. Have you done any more tests since that second one? It may just have been a different time of day or your wee was more diluted? x

 

[Thomo0903]

I have decided not to do any more tests, as from looking online it seems like whilst a rise in hormones is usually positive, and a drop is usually negative, that isn't always true...so whilst a completely disappearing line would probably tell me it was bad news (I don't think the HCG should be too strong at 5 to 6 weeks??), I don't know if I would ever be any more certain. Does that make sense?

I also have seen some really good advice about how most women only take one test (or only take them on one day), and trying to second guess it is what leads to all the worrying.

I do seem to have increasing symptoms, which would imply my hormones are increasing, but then it appears your hormones can increase even if the pregnancy isn't progressing. However, coupled with the advice above, I am trying to accept that there is no reason to worry, if I don't go looking for one.

It's really nice to know that whilst it maybe isn't normal to worry so much, I'm definitely not alone

 

[Thomo0903]

Just to say that it looks like I spoke to soon. Started spotting yesterday, and it has turned to blood this morning. You have to be referred to the EPU by your GP here, so I went this morning and she basically said there is nothing they can do, and no point in referring me if I am bleeding like a period (which I am now).

Can't believe it's back to the beginning again.

Sorry to bring bad news to the thread, and really don't want to worry anyone else! Best of luck to you all.

 

[simmy89]

So sorry to hear this Thomo0903 I hope you have plenty of support. Big hugs and best of luck for future TTC xxx

 

[timtam78]

Oh really sorry I've been there I know how it feels. Big hug xx