Advice PLEASE -Early Scan

[Jody]

Hi girls, Can I please pick your brains?

I am really terrified of losing this baby after losing one last October at 6weeks, I have booked a private scan at a clinic in Lincoln for Thursday 19th Aug, I will be 6w4d then, I have arranged everything but my husband just said "What if your dates are wrong and there is no heartbeat cos its too early" What If the heartbeat is detectable at the end of 6weeks and not half way through?"

Basically I am scared now and wonder if I am going to early but I am going out of my mind with worry which isnt good for baby!
What should I do? What would you do? I need some advice PLEASE XXXX
Jody xxx

Edited to say . In my area the 1st scan isnt till 13weeks!!!

 

[frankie707]

Have you asked the scan place what they do if it is very early?
I had an early scan when I thought I was about your stage and from the outside they could see the sac but not much else (was only 7mm). But they then did an internal scan (nothing to worry about it really wasnt that uncomfortable) and could see the foetus (2mm big) and a teeny tiny movement that was the heartbeat - turned out I was only 5+4weeks.
So they should be able to see something but you might not see a heartbeat unless they can do an internal scan.

Might be worth a phone call and chat with the place. Hope this helps.

 

[Jody]

Hi Frankie,
thank you for replying x
I will email them now and ask, I have had an internal scan before when I had an early miscarriage in 2003, So I'm not bothered about that. You have made me feel better knowing that a little heartbeat can be seen so earlly internally.
Thank you
Jody xx

 

[lealea85]

i had a scan at 6w5d, could see the heartbeat.
the first scan i had i was only 5w4d and they scheduled me to come back.
i wish you all the best.
i can honestly say, speaking from someone carrying a miracle child, stay happy and positive. its hard but it can be done. i assure u it does help xx

 

[Jody]

Thank you LeaLea, Thats good to know I think I am scared to get excited/be positive incase it all gets taken away again and I dont think I could carry on ttc if it did. I know thats stupid as I would be devastated either way so I will try to be more positive, Thank you and CONGRATULATIONS on your miracle baby too xxxx

 

[lealea85]

i stayed neutral but was smiling n beamin inside rather than out.
i have one functioning ovary, PCOS and had several miscarriages. i was told i wouldnt fall pregnant. low and behold, i fell pregnant on my 25th bday.
stay positive in heart, do not stress. take ur pregnacare, sleep wen needed. and come on here to have a laugh n talk with others. talking to some of these ladies has been educational and a good laugh. this forum is what has kept me occupied n sain throughout the last 11 weeks lol

 

[Jody]

WOW I am over the moon for you, that really is a miracle baby!
I too have PCOS and had ovarian drilling last year, I only found this forum a few days ago and its great, having had fertility problems all my life I can really feel for the girls on here, whether they are over the moon with a BFP or devastated by a miscarriage or frustrated by the witch turning up! I feel like I can really communicate as I have been there too xx
Thank you again xx

Edited for spelling

 

[lealea85]

thats ok hun, i can relate. and there are many others on here who can relate too hun.
well if ur on here n get bored. im here esp late at night wen i cant sleep lol

all smiles n fruitcakes lol

 

[Jody]

LOL
Late at night?! No I dont do late at the mo, 10pm is late for me lol xxxxxx

 

[lealea85]

ahhhh i wish i could sleep at normal times. im so jealous!!!
i fall asleep at 6pm, wake at 10pm, awake til 5am, wake at 1pm n start that cycle all over again.


whats your secret????? lol

 

[Jody]

My secret is I am cream crackered by 10pm! xx

 

[bobkat]

I had an early scan as well due to 2 previous mc, the scan by my dates was at 6w5d and there was a tiny hb visible, but it might not be possible to see the hb in other scans at this point cos it all depends on a. if your dates are right and b. when implantation actually occurred.

They will most probably arrange another scan if you can't see the hb.

Hope it goes well for you. Let us know how it goes. Sending you lots of sticky baby dust.

 

[Jody]

Thank you BobKat x

I am sure that I will be at least 6w2days if not 6w4days so fingers crossed. I hope I wouldnt have to pay £80 again if I had to go back
I will of course let you know
Love
Jody xxx

 

[sarl1967]

Hi = hope everything goes well at the scan - i understand totally i was so convinced i was going to loose this baby too - had early scan at 8 weeks 5 days and had visions of my last scan b4 miscarriage with the empty sac - but there little one was with heartbeat and now cant wait for my dating scan x

 

[Laura_C]

I was offered an early scan for reassurance after one miscarriage on the NHS, if I were you I would go to your GP and tell them about your concerns and worries and they will probably recommend that you call your Early Pregnancy Unit for an early scan to put your mind at rest, may save you £80. My EPU would send me for an early scan though until I was 7 weeks by dates to make sure they could find a heartbeat. Even though by dates I was 7 weeks, they still could only see a gestational sac and yolk sac, they estimated I was 5-6 weeks and I had to go back again. It was agonising waiting and it actually made me worry more as I was convinced my dates were right. It turned out I was 5 days behind what I thought and that 5 days made all the difference, when I went back I was supposed to be 10 weeks by dates but I was showing as 8-9 weeks and there was a lovely strong heartbeat. I then also had my routine 12 week scan which confirmed I was 11w + 1d rather that 12 weeks exactly.

 

[JJ Mum]

I too got two early scans after a missed miscaridge found after a bit of blood and a scan
This was such a big help, one said I was 7 plus 6 instead of 8 plus 6 as per dates
So the last baby had apparently died at 9 weeks , even tho not discovered until 11 plus 5
so they offered me another scan at 10 weeks as this was after this point. to make me feel better.
Turns out I had been 8 plus 6 after all at the first scan and I got my dates back!

go to see your docs, as this will save you lots of money Hun - good luck to you and lots of baby dust for a sticky baby this time X

 

[Jody]

Thank you Sarl1967, I hope I get ggod news this time like you did
Last time I got to 11weeks before bleeding started and a scan showed baby measured 6 weeks so probably never even had a heart beat.

Thanks for the advice Laura and JJ mum, the docs in my area are REALLY tight when it comes to scans, my sister was sent home when she was bleeding at 14weeks and told what will be will be

I might give the docs a ring tomorrow and see what they say, thank you xxx

 

[Jody]

Ooo Ooo Ooo I just rang the secretery of the specialist that I have been with, and I explained that Mr Gimba had put me on Progesterone so he obviously classed my pregnancy as high risk. I explained that the earliest I can get a scan is 13 weeks and that I am freaking out worried and is there any way he can suggest an early one. She said she will speak to him and get back to me (probably Monday now) BUT she did sound nice and didnt say NO WAY so fingers crossed eh?
If I cancel my private one on Thursday I will probably lose my £35 deposit that I have paid BUT I wont have to pay the other £45 or train fairs to Lincoln and back. OOOOOOOO wish me luck please xxxxxxxxx

 

[Jody]

She just rang back and said that Mr Gimba is writing a letter to my doctor recommending me for a 10week scan.
I know from my dates when I ovulated and when I concieved(almost to the day) and this makes me 6 weeks pregnant on Sunday/Monday BUT the doctors/hospital always go by your last menstral cycle WHICH makes me 7 weeks pregnant today so therefore I could have a FREE scan 3 weeks today, which is only 2 weeks longer to wait than my £80 one and is still 3 weeks early than normal (plus I will get another scan at 13weeks) so basically, If I cancel my scan next Thursday I will save £45 (already paid £35 deposit which i dont know if it is refundable) I will save train fairs to Lincoln and back, Plus baby will (hopefully) be bigger and there will be more to see, the ONLY down side that I can see is having to wait an extra 2 weeks BUT I think its worth it do you??
xxxxxx
Sorry for waffling xxxx

 

[Jody]

UPDATE
Earlier when I posted, I hadnt spoken to DH about anything that happened today as he was in bed till 4 on nights, have spoken to him now and he booked the train tickets last night at work which cost £20, I have found out that my £35 deposit isnt refunable, so basically I know by going it will cost alot more with taxis £8 to and from clinic, lunch, shopping ect..... But the thought of losing £55 and the opportunity is too much. have asked my sister and she says that the clinic wont tell th hospital that I have been. so I will go next Thursday for a scan, have another on NHS in 3 weeks and another NHS in 6 weeks and by then the home doppler will work so I can be reassured every day
I'm happy xxx