Jessica123
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Hi there
I have never posted on a forum before but I have nowhere else to turn and would like your opinions / thoughts.
I am worried about my conception date and if an accident could have happened with the wrong man. My edd is 10th September. This was worked out by a scan at 13wks. A scan at 8 weeks dated my edd as 13th sept but I was then moved forward 3 days when I was scanned at 13weeks.
I cannot be sure when my LMP was to the day. My edd 10th sept implies it was 4th dec. this sounds right and when looking back at my diary I think this is accurate, maybe 1 day out tops.
I am in a long term relationship 5yrs) but we had a break before Christmas, during this time I got very drunk and ended up in bed with a friend, this was the eve of 10th dec, so I was only just off my period. We did not dtd. I know this for definite. We were both so drunk he could barely stand so I am pretty certain we both passed out, the following morning we 'messed about' a bit but again, did not dtd. He has issues with his performance so is pretty much incapable of getting an erection without the aid of Viagra. So I am 99% certain that by him fingering me (sorry tmi) I could not have got pregnant. I think it is highly unlikely anything would have been on his fingers as he really struggles to get it up ever, let alone with a load of alcohol in his system. He is also older than me (43) so not sure if effects his virility.
On dec 13th I did a preg test (the one that tells u early before u missed a period) and it was negative.
Anyway, we are still friends and we brushed it under the carpet. I got back with my partner. We dtd on the 17th and 22nd Dec. we did not use precaution as both were not concerned if I got pregnant. We planned to start trying in Jan anyway. 18th dec was the day I ovulated, according to my dates from the scan and my edd date and period cycle, which was regular. That means 17th I was 'very fertile'. Even on the 22nd date I still would have been in my fertile window. My partner is fit, healthy and young (ish) as am I, so it does not surprise me we conceived quickly (we count ourselves lucky).
I did a preg test on the 20th dec and it was negative. I did another test on the 11th Jan and it said I was 2-3 weeks pregnant. This was the weekend my period would've been due.
The reason I was doing so many preg tests in dec (2) is because I was drinking at Xmas parties and didn't want to drink if I was pregnant.
Anyway. Although I know the odds are very slim, I cannot get the drunken fumble out of my head. The dates don't match my due date, and I did not actually dtd, he cannot get an erection without Viagra but it is still worrying me.
Do any of you think that the baby could be the result of the drunken fumble? Or am I letting my guilt affect my otherwise wonderful pregnancy and happy relationship?
Thanks
X
I have never posted on a forum before but I have nowhere else to turn and would like your opinions / thoughts.
I am worried about my conception date and if an accident could have happened with the wrong man. My edd is 10th September. This was worked out by a scan at 13wks. A scan at 8 weeks dated my edd as 13th sept but I was then moved forward 3 days when I was scanned at 13weeks.
I cannot be sure when my LMP was to the day. My edd 10th sept implies it was 4th dec. this sounds right and when looking back at my diary I think this is accurate, maybe 1 day out tops.
I am in a long term relationship 5yrs) but we had a break before Christmas, during this time I got very drunk and ended up in bed with a friend, this was the eve of 10th dec, so I was only just off my period. We did not dtd. I know this for definite. We were both so drunk he could barely stand so I am pretty certain we both passed out, the following morning we 'messed about' a bit but again, did not dtd. He has issues with his performance so is pretty much incapable of getting an erection without the aid of Viagra. So I am 99% certain that by him fingering me (sorry tmi) I could not have got pregnant. I think it is highly unlikely anything would have been on his fingers as he really struggles to get it up ever, let alone with a load of alcohol in his system. He is also older than me (43) so not sure if effects his virility.
On dec 13th I did a preg test (the one that tells u early before u missed a period) and it was negative.
Anyway, we are still friends and we brushed it under the carpet. I got back with my partner. We dtd on the 17th and 22nd Dec. we did not use precaution as both were not concerned if I got pregnant. We planned to start trying in Jan anyway. 18th dec was the day I ovulated, according to my dates from the scan and my edd date and period cycle, which was regular. That means 17th I was 'very fertile'. Even on the 22nd date I still would have been in my fertile window. My partner is fit, healthy and young (ish) as am I, so it does not surprise me we conceived quickly (we count ourselves lucky).
I did a preg test on the 20th dec and it was negative. I did another test on the 11th Jan and it said I was 2-3 weeks pregnant. This was the weekend my period would've been due.
The reason I was doing so many preg tests in dec (2) is because I was drinking at Xmas parties and didn't want to drink if I was pregnant.
Anyway. Although I know the odds are very slim, I cannot get the drunken fumble out of my head. The dates don't match my due date, and I did not actually dtd, he cannot get an erection without Viagra but it is still worrying me.
Do any of you think that the baby could be the result of the drunken fumble? Or am I letting my guilt affect my otherwise wonderful pregnancy and happy relationship?
Thanks
X