Why doesn't he think?????

[orangefluff]

Just been chatting to OH on facebook, he's in Afghan and just got back in from a task so haven't spoken to him for a week or so.
He asked me how I was so I told him I've been feeling mega tired and getting lots of BH's and trying to get things started with baby. He didn't reply to that but decided instead to tell me about a guy from his year at school he had bumped into out there a week ago who he used to be good friends with and his Mum also taught when she was a teacher. So I said 'that's cool, small world' and he proceeded to tell me that this guy stepped on an IED a couple days ago and lost both his legs.
For God's sake why does he have to tell me these things?????? I am emotional enough being nearly 9 months pregnant and coping with everything by myself, also terrified enough of something hapenning to him and he just tells me stuff like that. I can hardly sleep as it is, now how am I supposed to sleep tonight????
He's due back for 2 weeks on Tuesday and goes out on his last tasking on Sunday, it's gonna be torture. I know what he does and the danger he's in but I really wish he could have a little bit of sense and not tell his heavily pregnant wife who's sat in the house on her own things like this!!!!!!

 

[amandapanda]

Awww I feel for you! Men just haven't a clue have they? Mine has just pissed me off cause I was delighted today that I got a letter saying my Down's screening has shown the baby to be low risk - but barely got a reaction from him! He said 'what do you want me to do? Jump with joy?'.....errrrr yes!!! Men's lack of emotional intellligence never ceases to amaze me! Hope he's home soon safe and well hun xx

 

[frankie707]

Not exactly helpful info from him!!! Dont think they realise how much we worry esp with LOs due so soon. Really hope you get some sleep, not long to go until you can see him again

 

[orangefluff]

No not helpful at all, I know it's really upset him but I wish he'd think and talk to one of friends about it rather than me! I told him he prob shouldn't tell his mum until he finishes the tour either but he said he had already messaged her about it!!!!

 

[Marianne]

Maybe he find's it difficult to hear and talk about baby things right now when he's over there and not with you and being able to go through it with you and changed the subject because it's hurting him not being there for you? I'm not giving him an excuse as I would feel the same as you but just a suggestion?

My OH doesnt get excited about any of the baby things, he already has two kids of his own with his ex partner and everything is about them, If i walk by mothercare and see a nice little outfit and try pointing it out to him, he just keeps walkin n says "nice" without even looking at it, but then next time we're down he'll spot a nice little girl's outfit and say "that would be nice" for his little girls ! Aswell, if I see a nice little baby walker or something, i'll say what about that for the baby and he'll look at something else and say "aw this is what "we" got for mollie" (one of his little girls and the "we" is him and his ex) !!!!

It really infuriates me and he doesnt understand why, I mean, He isnt stupid, he know's exactly what he's saying and how it makes me feel but it's like he doesnt care !

My mum and I went into town the other day, and bought a few little outfits and a nice mobile for the cot, I brought it home, all excited bringing the stuff out to show him and he barely took an interest !!!! I had to go to the toilet as I burst out crying and he says "I dont get excited about baby clothes or that" !!

It's like his two other kids are what's the most important, and our baby is nothing ???


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