hi, sorry for asking but has anyone else been in or are they in this situation..... me & my other half are expecting our 1st child in sept (was a big shock) but we arent yet married (which i would have prefered to be honest)... but one thing is playing on my mind.
whos surname do i give the baby once it is born?
I automatically thought his, but now im having feelings of being left out (already) because ill have a different name The other halfs sister-in-law says i should give it my name because then he will realise that in order to be a family with one name we will need to get married. BUT part of me thinks this is because she is also expecting her first 2 weeks after us & wants to produce the 1st grandchild with their surname. If i did give it my name, surely this would cause more work than needed to change the babies name over if/when we did get married.
I automatically thought of giving it his name so all that "work" is already done for if/when the day happens... but will MY insecurities go away if we go down this route?
I dont want to discuss it with the OH incase he thinks im being daft at not feeling included.
Is this making sense? Anyone any ideas?
Thanks.
whos surname do i give the baby once it is born?
I automatically thought his, but now im having feelings of being left out (already) because ill have a different name The other halfs sister-in-law says i should give it my name because then he will realise that in order to be a family with one name we will need to get married. BUT part of me thinks this is because she is also expecting her first 2 weeks after us & wants to produce the 1st grandchild with their surname. If i did give it my name, surely this would cause more work than needed to change the babies name over if/when we did get married.
I automatically thought of giving it his name so all that "work" is already done for if/when the day happens... but will MY insecurities go away if we go down this route?
I dont want to discuss it with the OH incase he thinks im being daft at not feeling included.
Is this making sense? Anyone any ideas?
Thanks.