when did y'all start to relax n enjoy it?

[trixipaws]

hi lovelies,
what point can one start to enjoy one's pregnancy after a loss?!

when i was pregnant with millie, i wished first trimester away worrying that i'd miscarry. different reasons though, i'd never (knowingly!) had a loss but because she wasnt planned and i'd done really dodgy things before i knew i was pregnant, i'd convinced myself i'd killed her

well with hindsight i know now just how a pregnancy actually flies by, and once its over one kinda misses being pregnant! so i vowed to myself the next time i would enjoy every moment of it including the scarey first tri!

but i cant i am worrying every day! i so want to savour this pregnancy as this is going to be my last one (DF is getting the snip!) when can i relax and enjoy it. is it after the dating scan?

 

[buddabun]

bless ya. I am NOT enjoying this one but purely as I feel so ill...

I must admit I have, on the whole, managed to push away the 'miscarriage' thoughts. I have wobbles and I do worry myself sick some days but in general it just feels like this one will make it.

I think you just have to trust your instincts and try not to think about the rest. Even if it all goes wrong at least you will have enjoyed what pregnancy you've had. That's my goal with this one anyway.

to you Trix, it will be fine
x

 

[HannahD]

i'm actually really enjoying being pregnant again and the only time i'm on edge is when i go to the loo!! I think there will always be that nervousness until you're in Tri 2 and out of the danger zone.

 

[DaisyRose]

I relaxed a little after I'd got past 7 weeks (mc at just over 6 weeks before) but I still had loo phobia big time until my first scan; after that I felt much better (that was, until I got my Downs risk results).

It is harder to relax after a loss. I had 2 children before my loss and it never occurred to me that I may lose them, not really, but after the mc it was a completely different story. I don't think I ever completely chilled until the end but it does get easier.

All the best,

 

[kellybears]

I was much happier and calmer after my 12 week scan. I did get an earlier scan at 7 weeks too but there wasn't so much to see at that one although seeing a little jellybaby with a heartbeat was reasurring! I think deep down you never stop worrying really, but it gets easier when you've had your dating scan and seen a wriggly baby on the screen! I got to listen to the heartbeat for the first time last week too and that has also eased my worries until I get my next scan!

 

[mum2A&L]

i didn't stop wearing pads till after my 12 week scan - i just had it in my head that the day i didn't wear a pad would be the day i would start bleeding and lose the baby. I didn't really relax about it sticking till after my 20 week scan. but even then i would still have days when i would panic and run to the loo as i thought i was bleeding.

i think once i started to feel him bouncing around more and more it got easier as i knew he was ok. i would give my bump a prod and he would give me a reassuring kick.

 

[ejjie]

I didn't relax until my 12 week scan hon. I enjoyed the pregnancy in some ways but it was always slightly marred by my loss. I have definitely felt like a different person since that scan x