When are you classed as LTTTC?

[wannabmummy]

So I have one son who is 2.5 years old, we were lucky enough to conceive him on the first month of trying, so naively I expected the second to be easy. Since having my son I had treatment for severe pre cancerous cells on my cervix, and had some of my cervix taken away, so was anxious that this might cause miscarriage when I did get pregnant.

We have now been trying for 9 months to conceive and we had a chemical pregnancy in June. This month I was part of the clearblue trial and we DTD every night for about 10 nights in a row to try and catch the egg and I've started my period today.

I know that there are lots of people in here who don't have any babies and I'm sorry if this post upsets you because I already have a son and I feel very lucky to have him, but I am so sad that I don't seem to be falling pregnant. I also know a lot of you have been trying a lot longer than 9 months, but I don't know how you all cope? Every month the disappointment is crippling. I've had to deactivate my Facebook because so many people are falling pregnant and it kills me to see it. I just want another baby so much and I feel guilty when I say that because I've got one I should be happy but everything in me wants another one, for my son too he needs a sibling.

Sorry if 9 months isn't long enough to be a LTTTCer but just didn't know where else to post. Feeling so low today. We've been on holiday for 2 weeks and were so relaxed and happy and did loads of DTD and just being happy and it still didn't happen :,-( x

 

[millielaura]

It's my 9th month this month and I was wondering the same so I'm glad you posted! I feel a bit in the middle as I know people have been trying way longer than me so dont feel LTTTC as such but then I am soo over the excitment TTC brings in the first few months.
Got to the stage where its so depressing now.
I also got AF today after mid cycle spotting and a late AF. Stupid witch teasing me!!
I still think you have the right to complain when you have a child btw, I imagine it still feels the same no matter how many children you have!
xxx

 

[Moley]

Hi ladies

I don't think you should have to apologise for how you're feeling as your feelings are so valid!! We are all going through the sane thing so can all empathise - just because you have a DS already or your journey is 9 months. We all experience everything you have mentioned and it hurts simple as that. I wish you both much success!!

M x

 

[snowbee]

Hi ladies. No need to apologise as Moley says.

If you are under 35 you need to have been trying for a year to get started with medical assistance. If you have a known problem you can go sooner. If you are over 35 then you can go after 6 months.

It has been 2 years for us ttc number 1 and still no luck. After all the years of being told if you so much as look at a boy then you will be pregnant I guess it is a bit of a shock that it isn't that simple!

Good luck to all, hopefully it will be our turn soon

 

[Dee28]

I'm trying for number two as well and my dd was conceived second month trying, we're now on 2 years trying this time, it's hideous so you have my sympathies honey. We're now trying iui after lots of tests etc so perhaps take a trip to the gp to request the basic test, if you're under 35 perhaps your particular circumstances will allow some investigations a bit earlier than the standard one year? Xx

 

[wannabmummy]

Thanks for all your replies everyone. I'm going to the gp this week to try and sort it out. They may not help but no harm on asking xx

 

[millielaura]

I'm getting bloods done next cycle and OH had sperm test which came back "normal" but probs get more detail when we go back to docs. I had part of one ovary removed when I had a cyst so I just wanted to check everything was okay on that front rather than waiting a year.
wannabmummy I hope they do something for you they should offer the initial tests?
snowbee I totally get what you mean about all those years being told if you so much as look at a boy youd get preg it is a big shock when it takes longer than expected.
Makes me think well we neednt of ever bothered with contraception haha! xxx

 

[snowbee]

My husband and I have discussed the contraception issue a bit since we have been ltttc and have decided we won't be bothering with any again as we obviously don't need any! Hoping desperately that we will get a sticky positive and if we do we won't be using contraception afterwards in the hope that we can get a second however soon or long it takes, we are knocking on a bit and can't afford to hang about. We thought we would be having a second by now not still trying for a first.

 

[millielaura]

I don't think I'd use contraception again either, definitely wouldn't go back on the pill! xxx

 

[hellywelly]

Hi Hannah it's Helen from fb. Sorry, not stalking you on here but thought I'd let you know after our convo that I had a shit day yesterday - af still hadn't showed so I actually bothered to drive to the shops and buy a test, and as I walked into the bathroom to do one I pulled down my knickers to find I'd come on. I was gutted. This has been compounded by one of my oldest friends telling me on Sat she is 15 weeks 'accidently' pregnant with her third (same thing happened with her second). How come some people risk it once without protection and get up the duff, but I tried for 9 months first time round and have now been trying for (only) 3 months this time with no luck?

Sometimes I almost think it's worse already having one, as I crave how it felt to be pregnant again and have a bump, madly I would give my right arm to experience childbirth again right now! The only thing I'm clinging on to right now is that it took 9 months first time round so it could take the same this time. If it takes longer I think I am going to feel utterly devastated.

 

[wannabmummy]

Hi Helen, I'm so sorry to hear that it's so so hard isn't it? It just doesn't seen fair that some people fall just like that. I really hope that it won't take us a really long time. I know exactly what you mean about craving anything pregnancy!

That's why I've had to come off Facebook, it was making me so sad seeing all my friends fall pregnant, when I should be happy for them! I've never felt like that before so I needed some time off of it. Really hope you're ok, I think I'm going to stay away from Facebook till I get my BFP but I'll be on here a bit so hopefully still keep up with you on here lovely xxx

 

[TORino]

Aw Hun!!

I wondered where you had gone on fb I was missing the pics of your awesome little dude!

So sorry to hear you are having a stressful time of it. I hope you can get some answers from the docs. Fingers crossed you are posting in tri 1 very soon xxx

 

[wannabmummy]

Thanks lovely! So nice to hear from you! I miss seeing pictures of Tilly too... She's amazing! Are you having anymore anytime soon?? Would be nice to be going through it with you again hope you're ok xxx

 

[TORino]

I'm ok thanks Hun in Tenerife with my little cousin at the mo (her Boyf = cheating scumbag = free holiday for me!)

Missing my stinky pants like crazy though but hey, perhaps daddy will have a new found appreciation for what I do when I get back!

Hopefully trying soon for a new weeun to join the wolfpack but I'm having a house extension so want that nearly done or well on it's way before we try. Would love to go through it all again with you, though I hope next month is your month and you don't have to wait any longer, fingers crossed!! Xxxx

 

[wannabmummy]

Ooooh how nice! Free holidays are the best extension sounds nice, lots more room for more babies haha!

I really hope it's my turn soon, I'm fed up of TTC! Hubby is loving it though! Lol xxxx

 

[Blueflower]

The description of this board says long term is over a year, but 9 months feels like an age when you expected to get pregnant straight away.

Yes I wonder why I ever bothered with contraception, ha ha! Although sods law I would probably have got pregnant whilst at college or with the wrong bloke, or my DH before we were married might have felt a bit pressured and it might have affected the relationship.