What do wish you had done?

[katlizzypaul]

I'm currently TTC and i was wondering is there anything you wish you had done before having a child, for example paying off the mortgage or getting a better job?
Thank you

 

[Zazu]

I wish I could pay off my mortgage, lol! We tried to save as much as we could so that I could afford to take a year off on Mat leave. X

 

[Holi]

Better job definitely! And I'm so glad that we bought a house before hand, really takes the pressure off trying to save with a child!

An on a selfish note, I wish we had managed to squeeze in one more fab luxury all inclusive holiday far far away....can't imagine we'll e doing that again any time soon!! Xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

I wish I'd had children later (first was at 18), had more holidays, enjoyed myself more first and saved more.
I'm lucky that I bought my house early (was 22) and I've got a good amount of equity - I got something right! I also went to uni, got a good degree and have a fab job. I'm really lucky in that way

 

[Alexandra84]

Decluttered and finished off any small bits of DIY that needed doing. It was almost two years before we were able to organise doing any serious tidying/organisation or DIY in the house and it would have made life a bit easier.

 

[kat1988]

had our own place to live with all decorating etc sorted! our little angel wasn't exactly planned so i/we ended up moving twice when I was pregnant and then again when lo was 3months old, we didnt have a bathroom untill we live where we do now so had to bath lo in the living room and I couldn't have a bath or proper shower after I had stitches. In short it was a nightmare and I would seriously advice against moving/decorating/doing any major DIY either while pregnant or with a young baby it just caused so much extra stress!

 

[yuku]

I wish i could pay off mortgage and have a job that pays me a satisfying salary. i also want to travel with my boyfriend a lot more places before we get finally married. To realize all those wishes, i think i have to delay the child plan. But sometime i want to have a kid early. I am such a greedy and ambivalent person.

 

[DiddlePlumbs]

I didn't realise until we got engaged that I would of liked to have been married before we conceived. Little did I know at the time I didn't have much choice! Lol

 

[tweetyfoo]

I wish we had a holiday, feels like a long time since we've been away

 

[Muguboo]

Hahaha - on paying off mortgage! Maybe when I'm 60.

I wish I hadn't delayed starting my degree until I had my lo. If I'd known it would take two years to conceive I'd have started sooner - and then by now I'd have been working as a teacher (and be about to start brilliant mat leave lol) rather than putting things on hold.

 

[busymummy]

I wish I had travelled the world. But I hold out hope to one day do so. I'm only 24 and my youngest is 1, so when the kids have grown up and left home, I hope to someday still do so x

 

[CARNAT22]

Over the years we had loads of holidays, lots of partying, managed to save enough for me to have 14 months maternity leave (5 months completely unpaid the rest @ SMP) but we are still only in a one bed.

We'll be able to move as soon as I go back to work though so no regrets.

xxxxx

 

[stargirl]

I really wished we'd gotten married but as we're skint it was either get married or have a baby and selfishly I wanted a baby before I was 30. So now the wedding is on hold till we win the lottery lol.

 

[H16]

I wish I had gotten myself into a better financial position but as baby was unplanned I didn't really have the chance to. I'm sure all will work out when I go back to work next year though x

 

[Sunbeam638]

Sod the mortgage Go travelling! I went to uni, got a job I'm happy in and the mortgage all looks great on paper but I wish I'd travelled for a couple of months and had more life experience. Don't get me wrong I'm so lucky and Having a child was planned and came at right time but I wish in the couple of years before that I had taken a career break.

The only thing I would say now is if you have a payment protection on your mortgage it might come in handy if you wanted to go on maternity for a little bit longer then you could freeze the mortgage for a couple of months without worrying. We didn't so I had to go back at 9 months but I would have liked more time off as once they hit 6/7 months from there on they are great fun xxx

 

[Muguboo]

Many mortgage providers will allow you to take a break on payments if you've overpaid in the past - alternatively you may be able to adjust the term to reduce monthly payments, dependent on age x

 

[Claire123]

Deffo wish id had one last abroad holiday before baby. Of course we can still go abroad with her but deffo wont be able to relax by the pool for a week lol xx

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[diane]

My hubby and I did everything we wanted really before lo came along. We haven't paid the mortgage but that wasn't a reasonable thing to expect to have done for us. We have been together all throughout our 20s and have travelled the world, partied, got married etc... Although if I'm being entirely honest our lo won't stop us doing things either. We still go out, go to festivals, and we are planning a trip to Vegas just the 2 of us next year. We do have a different life now in that lo comes first, but we do still do a lot of what we have always done too.

 

[babybee]

We've travelled, partied, got married, paid most of the mortgage, paid off my student loan, cleared any credit card debt we had so all those main things are covered.

The one thing I would have done differently though was actually not have bothered with university (apart from that's where I met my husband) and really thought about the career I wanted. I got a good degree from one of the top universities and I'm very fortunate to have a very well paid job but I hate it. I wish I had learnt a skill so that rather than going back to work I could freelance etc.

Xxx

 

[Jajis]

I wish we had bought our house before or while I was pregnant - rather than when A was 10 months old (having already had to move between rented properties when he was three months old). I just think we'd have got it done up a lot quicker if I'd been able to help, rather than OH basically doing it all himself (A is 14.5 months now and we've still not moved in... and been living with my parents for two months!). It also would have meant I was settled in the area before having him so might have been easier to make friends.

I'm very glad that we waited until we could afford for me to take 13 months off work, and to only go back part time.