What are dads entitled to?

[Rachey]

Just wondering if anyone knows what dads to be are entitled to with scans/appointments etc?

OH hasn't been to MW appointments and asked if he could go to next one but was told no, is it only scans their allowed?

Thanks x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

No idea, didn't know they were entitled to anything? xx

 

[snr1982]

I thought they were usually allowed to all midwife appointments and scans? They aren't allowed to sit in on the first half of the booking in appointment because the midwife takes personal history etc from you and also they ask you about domestic violence etc. I might be wrong though. I don't take my other half as its easier not too. he has come to all the scans though.

 

[Rachey]

I didn't thinkso either but at my last MW appointment my MW said that his work should probably allow him time off if he asked, but they said no. They didn't let him come to early scans either. If he's not entitled to anything it's not a big deal but just wondered if they are suppossed to be allowed any time off x

 

[Rachey]

double post. sorry

 

[snr1982]

oh his work, sorry i thought you meant the midwife wasn't letting him. I should read more carefully. hehe. I'm not sure about if he is entitlted to or not at work. I would have thought he would be though? We haven't had any problems getting time off for the scans.

 

[xshauna_bazx]

They never asked me about domestic violence, OH was in there from the start too. I think they should be allowed to all scans and appointments xxx

 

[snr1982]

Did she not - my midwife went on about dometic violence for ages, she said it was a big thing with pregnant women, gave me heaps of leaflets etc. must be a lot of it going on in my area or something then. Yeah i think he should be as well as they have just as much rights. I would be well pissed off if he wasn't even allowed to the scans.

 

[Rachey]

oh his work, sorry i thought you meant the midwife wasn't letting him. I should read more carefully. hehe. I'm not sure about if he is entitlted to or not at work. I would have thought he would be though? We haven't had any problems getting time off for the scans.

lol it was probably the way i worded it that muddled you up! i thought they would have been allowed, its rubbish if their not.. i dont think OH is too interested in MW appointment i think he just wants to hear babys heartbeat since he hasnt yet and i have lol xx

 

[Rachey]

Shauna they asked me about domestic violence too, i thought they would ask everyone! My Mum was at the booking in appointment with me and my MW asked me about violence etc when she took me into another room to measure me.. she said they have to ask it but they cant ask infront of other people, not even my mum incase it was here who was being violent xx

 

[jld123]

Technically the man isnt entitled to any time of for scans and things. But is entitled to paternity leave which i think is about 2 weeks. However if its his manager that has said no, he can take it to HR and given that it is a a couple of weeks notice they should be able to let him go! although depending on where he works he may have to take it as annual leave or make up the hours.

 

[Emmamb]

My dh booked scans etc off as holiday days. They're not entitled to any time off except for 2 weeks paternity once bubs is here.
Tbh they're not needed at any appt except maybe bookin in and birth plan. Dh came to my 40 week appt and he thought it was a waste of time cos all they did was check me over and listen to hb.

 

[amandapanda]

Dad's are now entiltled to 'share' your maternity leave so they can have more than 2 weeks. Basically you can decide to go back to work early and he can take the remainder of the maternity leave. It's just come in this April, it's complicated but worth looking into. No entitlement for time off for scans, appointments etc though xx

 

[clairebear22]

My OH has been to every MW app with me (perks of him being self emplyed). He was there for the whole of my booking in app too and i've never been asked about domestic violence either. It's amazing how everywhere is so different! x

 

[heidi-hi]

Hey! My oh is based in Devon in the army so it's a nightmare to get back here in north Wales, especially as most appointments are mid week. He has made both scans and first midwife and booking in appointment but that's lucky and just coz he has a nice boss who knows me too. If we were married and living together he would be allowed more time for stuff like that.

My midwife hasn't spoken to me about domestic violence either coz oh was at booking in appointment. There's a page with questions and she put in box which says result: to do at a later date as partner was present. I've had 2 more since which he hasn't come to coz of work where my mum has been with me and she hasn't mentioned anything since! Xxx

 

[nmf1987]

my oh has also been to all appointments with me but again he is self employed perk in away but not sure he is going to be able to have time off when baby arrives. xxx

 

[Rachey]

Dad's are now entiltled to 'share' your maternity leave so they can have more than 2 weeks. Basically you can decide to go back to work early and he can take the remainder of the maternity leave. It's just come in this April, it's complicated but worth looking into. No entitlement for time off for scans, appointments etc though xx

I hadn't heard of that amanda, suppose it's a good idea for some people though x