Went to see DH Dr last night...and thought Id share this info...

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

DH had a medical at work yesterday and they detected sugar in his urine...so advised him to see his Dr asap. So got appt for last night and I insisted on going with him coz he NEVER goes to the Drs and doesnt tell her everything....so as well as the sugar, hes also had these 'lumps' start appearing all over the place....which I have been worried about for ages....so she checked them and says its almost certain its nothing serious but she wants him checked out anyway and has referred him onto a specialist, hes having bloods and more urine done next week for Diabetes too as hes had other symptoms for months now and I have been telling him I think he has diabetes...(my dad and brother have had it for years so I know the signs etc and he fits perfectly and Dr thinks its very likely he is devoloping it...and so I though...Hmmmm its been 6 months of us TTC and becasue of our age (40 and 38) we can seek some medical help after ttc for 6 months... So when she asked if there was anything else...I piped up and explained about us tcc and not having any luck.
Were both overweight so I asked could this be affecting things...she said being overweight in iteself doesnt necessarily stop you getting pregnant...BUT that him being overweight especially...could be affecting the quality of his sperm which would mean I can still get pregnant...I just wouldnt be able to stay pregnant because his sperm are not healthy enough to become a viable pregnancy!!

So I explained about me having MC in April and possibly having 2 Chemicals since Jan and she said yes that sounds very possible that its a sperm quality issue and shes referred him straight away to the hospital...and if AF turns up this week I can go see my Dr too for referral as its then our 7th month and 8th cycle!

So just thought Id share this as its a possibe reason why I cant stay pregnant and its kinda giving me a light at the end so to speak...so will see what happens and if AF turns up!

xxx

 

[xXxBonnyxXx]

Sorry to hear your Hubby isn't too well, but at least you have hopefully caught it quickly so that it doesn't become to sever to handle,

and you must be relieved in a way to know there is a reason why the PG aren't sticking,

Fingers crossed for you both x x x

 

[NatEvz]

Im glad youve been able to shed some light on things for yourself wilma, i bet you feel a little relieved. Hope hubby's feeling ok and that the hospital can get things sorted out for you both xxx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Thanks Bonny I do worry about him coz hes a typical trucker...nothing will happen to him! But thats why I insised on going with him coz I knew he wouldnt tell her half of what was going on with his health! And yeah hopefully it wont develop into insulin dependant for a very long time....both my dad was and brother is insulin dependant and Diabetes is a horrible illness to have so I pray its able to be controlled with meds rather than insulin!

And yeah....def relieved that this could be the reason why Im not able to stay pregnant....one thing for sure its given us both a kick up the arse and made us think right we HAVE to loose some weight as what next...heart attack...!!

So were going away for the weekend tomorrow, but once we get back were going shopping for nothing but healthy stuff....

Neither of us drink or smoke so its not coz of too much beer but we do love cooking and having dinner parties, of course eating what we cook and meals out and know what we have to do so by just changing to a healthier diet it will help....will be starting a weight tracker next week too and excited as im very motivated just David wasnt but is now more through shock than anything else really, and its so much easier eating helathy when everyone in the house is doing it!
So I may get that little(r) black number for christmas after all lol!! xx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Thanks Nat....yeah definately coz its making me now realise that it wasnt necessarily my fault that I cant stay pregnant (not that Im looking to blame him either) but you know when you MC you tend to blame yourself etc....but yes hopefully by us both loosing weight etc we may get a sticky and also benefit out lives in general....and yeah glad hes now been to Drs and is getting treatment sorted whatever that may lead to...xxx

 

[PippaJ]

I totally relate to this Wilma. My OH has type one diabetes and has been insulin dependant since he was 11 yrsd old. He has a very low sperm count and only 2% good morphology due to having it for so long which is why it took us 1.5 yrs to conceive Evie. I also thought about the chemical and M/C thing too, could well be why it's happening, I've had a very strange time this month and I think I could've had an early M/C too due to this (although I'm not thinking too hard about it). I hope he gets some treatment soon xxx

 

[MrsR]

So glad you've managed to convince him to go to doctors-my dads a trucker so I know what they're like!! Sounds like you're getting some answers and fingers crossed you'll get your bfp soon x x

 

[Lilelephant]

Sorry to hear your hubby isn't well but hopefully getting some answers is positive for you. Big hug

 

[Bead]

Hey Wilma!
I'm sure the docs will get your hubby sorted very soon. Best of luck to you both, and another step nearer to your sticky bfp
Xx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

hey Ladies sorry for delay been away.... Thanks for your replies and yeah I hopw this is us getting one step closer to a BFP!

Wow pippa its tough isnt it knowing it may be something completely out of anyones control! Fingers crossed tho ehh!! xx

Thanks helen....he was nervous at first but hes ok with it all now....Dr rang us when away saying he had to go along and do the sperm sample thing...so hopefully have some answers soon! xx

Thanks MrsMc....hope so and hope to be over there with you all asap xxx

Thanks Bead I hope so..... xxx

 

[vixforever]

Hope you get your answers soon Wilma xx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Thanks Vix.... xxx

 

[clem]

Hi Wilma, what a stress for you both, diabetes such a drain and also possibly having to lose weight before you can concieve healthily.

I must say this really scared me. My husband is very overweight, an ex pro rugby player so a big guy with all the muscle turned soft, plus a big beer drinker. I am now panicking that if we did manage to concieve that I would then lose it.......

I have tried to suggest that he stops drinking whilst we are ttc but he hasn't and though he might be persuaded to lose some weight it would surely take months before he was at a healthy weight.

Did your doctor have any stats about weak sperm from overweight men? Am I over freaking?

Clem xx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Hey Clem....first of all SORRY....I didnt mean to scare anyone just wanted to share incase others were in same situation.....

DH was told yesterday he does have Diabetes and we are off to see diabetic Dr this afternoon so I will be definately asking questions!

He has also got to give a sperm sample to have the sperm analysis done this week too and although Im not entirely sure what the test involves I know its to basically see how healthy they are so again I will keep you posted on that!

Dh doesnt drink, neither do I, but hes been overweight most of his adult life, as I have too....and he was an ice hocky player and a big nurly bloke too...but our weight has never been this bad for either of us so its been a complete kick up the bum for us both which now looking at the whole picture is a good thing! Coz who knows where we would have ended up if this hadnt happened!

Re TTC I will be finding out as much as I can but I do now from seeing Dr last week she said being overweight wouldnt necessarily stop us getting pregnant, just the viability of the pregnancy would be hindered as the sperm isnt at its best therefor doesnt always result in a healthy sustainable pregnancy....


Maybe tell your DH about wahts happened with my DH and what the Drs have told us re weight etc and maybe he will ease up on the beers....its worth a try! xxx

 

[clem]

Don't worry Wilma, I am over freak out now, I did tell him, he said how come it was always his fault on my forum! But good humour restored in our house and we both agree we need to diet a bit too. Big thanks for the post xx

 

[WILMAFLINSTONE]

Ah bless him! Lol I know david asked me if I wanted to trade him in for a younger thinner fitter mor fertile model! I declined of course telling him I love him just the way he is! lol Good luck clem...glad you joined the shelf with me and Bonny too lol xxx

 

[PinkPunch]

So glad you found all that out, sounds like a really good helpful doctor x